An Uncanny Eye for Eros

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Listening to Mihaly Csikszentmihaly say ‘ecstasy‘ derives from a Greek word meaning to ‘stand to the side of something’ I had to pause his Ted talk, lean back with a tingle and say, Brilliant.

It’s quite an elegant way of describing what happens in the creative flow when your identity disappears, your body dissolves and what seems to be ‘You’ floats by, suspended in the sensation that something else is moving you.

I’d like to hop on this train to propose the same is true of erotic flow states. When we are tuned in, turned on and flooded with a heightened sexual sensations, we can be replenished by states where our pleasure is not only the result of our erotic flow, pleasure becomes the fuel, the promise and the gift

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The Five Tibetians

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These are excellent exercises for your health

It is OK to shout at someone?

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Dear Amara,
we have a medicine discussion going on and I really would like to hear
you interpretation about this topic! I think you are a wise teacher
and maybe can clarify something, please would you be so kind to answer
it, thanks you!

It is about the basic wheel “The Gifts of Being Human” (green Manual page 32)
Give with Tenderness (Emotions – Energy in Motion)

The question is: It is OK to shout at someone when the person who
shouts let their emotions go and is happy again within 15 minutes?

Like: A says: This is green.
And B is shouting at A: How can you tell me this is green when it is red!

You know just an example and the question is not who is wrong or right.

One Medicine person says: It is totally OK to shout at “A” because
otherwise I would hold my emotions which is not the proper use of
And yes, goal is to give with tenderness, but to reach this goal and
as long as I am not there it is totally OK to shout at a person – this
is spontaneous expression of energy (within 15 minutes) and therefore
good that “B” doesn’t hold emotions. “A” has to withstand that and if
A does not agree than A is not clear with her/his emotions.

One Medicine person says: It is not OK to shout at “A”, it is never OK
to shout at someone (except in a case of emergency).
If you loose your temper so that you have to shout at another person
you should do more character refinement. And if it happens than take
responsibility for your actions and make sure that “A” is OK – and
knows that it was just a short thunderstorm and you are well and happy

So what is your opinion to that case and how do you think about the
wheels in the south, give with tenderness?

Thank you very much for your answer!

Love, Susan

Dear Susan,

Ah, lovely question. I shall answer you with my first thoughts:

First of all, the question of ‘is it okay to…” is a direct set up. Making one thing right and another wrong. Thus if you shout, you are wrong.
The real question is, what does anger do for you?
Only you can be the judge of this.
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How To Increase Your Erotic Intelligence

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The Sessons with Helen Hunt and John Hawks

Go see this movie.

Why? Because it’s not only lovely to watch truth crawling through the covers reaching below the belt of collective consciousness, it shows where men and women are not different in the places that count.

While it’s hardly a blockbuster, the fact that ‘The Sessions’ made it to the screen is a testimony to the raw power of sex. And there’s no better way to see such a movie than with a group of women dedicated to compassionate sex and intimacy. So when our Yin Way woman’s class filled a row in the theater, we rooted for this true story of a quadriplegic, virginal 38-year-old writer (John Hawks) and his married sexual surrogate (Helen Hunt).

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Sun Dance Prayers

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In last newsletter, I invited friends to send me their prayers so that I can dance them to the tree in the Sun Dance Ceremony.

Here’s the Invitation:

Wishing you all a steamy summer (in a good way) as I head off to the Sun Dance ceremony.  If you’d like me to dance your prayers to the tree of life, send me a note by email with your prayers for healing or prosperity. I’d be honored and happy to help dance your dreams awake.

The Sun Dance is one of the oldest ceremonies on the planet. This will be my 22nd. year dancing. The theme of this years’ dance (where you dance to the Tree of life for 3 1/2 days) is benevolent compassion.
Here are some of the prayers people have sent so far:

Comment below if you’d like me to add your prayers.

Looking forward to spending some quality time with you at Q2. It feels like forever since I seen you last.
I would love for you to dance for prosperity and health to the tree of life for the my wife and I. I would also would love to step with grace and ease into a new role for me, which is one of a teacher. Teaching about massage and the sexual healing work I do. I would love to create beautiful art forms that have beautiful lines and curves. I would love healing for myself around any sexual issues that I have not cleared yet so that when I do work on my clients I am coming from the most sacred and highest place possible. I feel like I am ready to shed the old and be reborn again. More …

Once I Had A Dream

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Les McCann

Once I had a dream to live and love, and this dream became music. It touched all of the beautiful experiences I have searched for or known. Each sound was a color, and each color was a warm feeling, and my heart kept the tempo.
Les McCann

inspired by Mickey Hart
Grateful Dead
Music and Spirit

The Best Way

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The Best Way to Kill Your Music is to sit down every day and work at it. You got to sneak up on it and catch it when it’s not looking.
– Iggy Pop

Inspired by Mickey Hart
Music and Spirit
Grateful Dead

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It’s Great to be back in OZ!

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Making Love Through the Reptilian Brain

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Mexican Lancehead

My dear friend, a best-selling author and I were on Skype talking about his recent move away from Hollywood, where he had a booming publishing/movie career. Choosing his beloved family over career is just the kind of man he is, but he’s NOT happy living in Georgia. Because he is a fine specimen, and one of the most brilliant men I know, I know he’ll make it. Yet, for the first time in 10 years, I feel him frustrated and sad.

At the end of our chat I ask Shyena to come over to meet him, and, quite unlike her typical shyness, she saunters up to the screen and then dips towards my friend to reveal a stunning violet brassier. Nothing could have been more perfect. His first encounter with Shyena produces a pure ‘wow’ in his reptilian brain. And ours too.

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Shyena goes to Mt Everest

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My trip to Nepal and Bhutan was awesome!

Getting Beyond Performance Fears

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As a man, I’ve spent a lifetime, being single and living on my own. Yet, I love sex and love women. It’s a long story, but mental psychological things kept me yearning, for what I had very little of… intimacy and contentment and love. Now in my seventies, I still attract responses from young women. But I can’t respond too much, because of physical difficulties. Its not a good situation. Those intimacies I do share mean a lot, but remind me of how it might have been! I’m wondering if there are women who would be able to live with some of my limitations?

Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | TrashHello Michael,
Thank you for your thoughtful comment. From the way you write, I believe there are many women who would enjoy getting to know you.
In my experience, we often make things up about ourselves that have very little to do with what is actually so. The only way to really know if there are women interested in you is to explore.
Now, as you are exploring, going to new places and finding ways to actually meet women I do have a bit of advice.

Please consider that the things you put forth and project as ‘limitations’ are actually make believe. I mean no disrespect, but the truth is, you have no idea how your body and mind and emotions will respond to a real woman. Just to let you know, I have known several gentlemen who were convinced ‘things weren’t working the way they should’ Funny thing is, a big part of making that seem like a ‘real fact’ was simply because they stayed away from women because they were afraid they couldn’t perform.

So here’s the thing Michael. If you dare to be intimate and cultivate close friendships with women- without any expectations- you will likely be quite surprised how your body and your mind, not to mention your heart will respond. My advice? Take delight in any woman you can. develop friendships. stay connected to feminine energy. If you stay connected to women, and many of your fears, worries and concerns will disappear. In my view, (regardless of your sexual preferences) a man who strays too far from strong, benevolent sources of feminine energy is lost. Finding your way however is easy. Women love kind and generous men, and you Michael, sound like a man women would like to be near.

Amara Charles is a highly acclaimed sex and intimacy expert who has taught workshops internationally since 1989, helping men and women reconnect with their passion, reclaim their sexual energy and deepen their appreciation for life. Charles is the author of several books, including The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka. Published by Inner Traditions/Bear & CO., it will be available in wide release in August 2011. Charles has been a guest on BBC, ABC radio, and HBO and has spoken at numerous national and international conferences where she gives presentations about sex and intimacy for various groups, corporate clients and universities

The Elements of All Abundance

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Quodoushka, Healing Sun Kiva Crystal

Crystal Sun Kiva

As life bestows blessings or delivers punishing blows, how can musing on each element of creation for several dawns and dusks, watching spiders and ants, clouds and the moon reveal the secrets of abundance? Surrendering to the splendors of Mother Life, I see how to ward off misfortune with patience. Feeling the relentless wind, the gush of currents, the fire in the stars, I hear Nature’s urgent call to give unreasonable beauty, kindness and wisdom for the benefit of others.

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