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Does Sexual Magic Exist?

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Of course it does.

If you consider what we go through, all the emotional obstacles, not to mention time constraints, kids and all those other reasonable sounding excuses – like I don’t have the right partner – it’s remarkable that we ever let ourselves surrender into the deeply nourishing bliss of ecstasy. We all know there’s magic here.

Here’s what sexual magic is not.

It’s not having sex to get something. It’s not using sexual energy to magically produce more money, more sex or a big new house. More …

The Ecstasy You Deserve

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Why do we want this Quodoushka Three to happen in July? Because the exquisite love that will arise in the souls of all who are present will bestow countless blessings, not only for the couples who share these profound practices; the ripple of benevolence will shower over the land, touching the hearts of many who are in need of such hope and beauty.

The Quodoushka Three is a ceremony of tender love that cannot be contained by the body alone. It’s a journey to discover the kind of selfless love that is really a service of manifestation stirred by passion moving through and beyond the body. It’s a kind of ‘magic’ that teaches us to express our love so we can share these blessings.

It’s for those who are called to reach deeply into their hearts to find the boundless energy to give generously for the benefit others.

Does this seem to grand an ideal for you?

The real ‘magic’ of Quodoushka is More …

Which One Should I do: Shakti Queen or Quodoushka?

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FAQ’s About Quodouhhka and Shakti Queen Retreats


Hi, I’m  from Argentina.  I’ve read about the retreats and I find it interesting. My sexual life began late, but since them I’m trying to get better at it. However I’m still not very comfortable with my body and sexuality. I think that would help…  I’d like to know what kind of exercises you do and how is everything there… I would like to participate and grow there and I understand that some exercises may be difficult, I don’t know… The thing is I’m sometimes a bit shy, so is that right for me? Is there nudity there? Or sexual contact? Because I’d like to grow and learn to be more free, but it would make me embarrassed and nervous… So how is it? Is there nudity at all? And if so, how would I get to be comfortable with it?

There are so many workshops and retreats… I was thinking of the women’s retreat in Hawaii, but I’m not sure now… It’s better a Q1 workshop for me? Or what do you recommend me?

IMG_1758From Amara
I believe you could greatly benefit from both workshops. I will explain each so you have a better way to choose. By the way, your English is excellent!

First I will share about Shakti Queen, which would be an excellent way to begin. Many women choose to do Shakti Queen first because you will have the opportunity to explore, doscover and experience personal insights about the power and the beauty of your sexuality in an amazing circle of women.

We begin with reflections of the divine goddess, where you will receive a Goddess image that you will dream into and seek to embody throughout the weekend.
This Goddess image is a special shamanic tool used by women to draw out and awaken certain qualities that are dormant, yet yearning to be expressed.
Later in the retreat, after you have had time to contemplate and share with sisters the meaning of this face of the Goddess, we have a very special
bringing out the highest reflection of the Goddess inside you. This will be an experience that will guide and inspire you to manifest your heart’s desire throughout the year.

Another focus of Shakti Queen is practicing the sweetness of devotion. Each day we will share chanting, meditation and special feminine spiritual practices that have been used by women for centuries to strengthen their spirits. We will also do very specific Taoist practices for sexual restoration, including Yin Way Breast Massage, ovarian massage and other qigong practices for developing harmony and vitality in our bodies, minds and spirits. What’s so special about these practices is that they have been taught to me mostly by women, and they are specifically designed to be learned and shared by women. They are easy, fun and delicious. They are sensual, but not sexual. The focus is on you opening your heart to you, and feeling this wonderful aliveness in your body.

All of Shakti Queen is based upon what I call the Great Softening. So many women reach a point where they’ve learned how to survive, they’ve gained skills to make it in the world.
In the process, we harden, and we lose touch with the amazing power of our own softness. That’s why I call it the Great Softening, where we learn to claim, celebrate, and most importantly learn how to use our soft power to bring happiness into our relationships, families and careers. The workshop is about learning ways to nourish yourself with so much self love it pours into every area of your life.

There’s much more…of course Maui will be extraordinary because we will be doing a lot of these practices in gorgeous natural settings, near oceans and wild lagoons…
The only nudity will be if you want to go swimming, or lie bask in the sun…(and the breast exercise if you choose.)

Q1Now for the Quodoushka.
Of course the big difference is that there are men, and this changes everything :-) !
There will be approximately 30 people, both singles and couples. You will be choosing
different partners throughout the program. Some exercises are solo, some
are partnered and some with the whole group.

The exercises range from talking exercises to clear sexual issues, breathing exercises to liberate sexual energy, healing touch exercises to release and remove sexual stress, and group exercises to transform pain or shame into confidence and pride with who you are. There are so many different ways we do this it’s hard to explain them all…

The main thing is this: each exercise will be demonstrated.

You will have the chance to observe, and then you will have time before each exercise to make an agreement about precisely how YOU feel comfortable doing the demonstrated exercise.
And we give you guidelines about how to make your agreements with a partner. After the exercise we all share about what we learned; what worked and what didn’t.
This is a big part of Quodoushka, maybe the biggest thing people ‘take home’ from the workshop, and why so may come back over and over again.

I believe the this is the place we get hurt and confused about sexual intimacy the most: we don’t know how to first consider and then say to our partner what we want. We tend to dive in and figure things out later. Sometimes it’s great, but lots of times it isn’t.

 Quodoushka gives you guided, authentic, real-time practice making sexual agreements first with yourself and then with another. Creating good agreements before you act sexually could possibly save you years and years of learning by trial and lots of error.
In Quodoushka making agreements is easy, it’s fun, and most importantly, your agreements lead to the kind of pleasure you can fully own and cherish. I call it creating the conditions for your own safety. This workshop is about taking your power,
by learning to express what you want and what you don’t. Feeling good about that is probably the most important teaching with in all the amazing teachings of Quodoushka.

About Nudity
Yes, we recommend you you do many of these practices without clothes. Why? Aside from the fact that it’s much easier, you will have the chance, in a very safe and sacred environment to shed layers of shame about your body you didn’t even know you have.
Not everything is done without clothes, in fact we ask you to dress in very special ways for your Quodushka experience (but that’s something you get to find out about once you register:-)  Trust me, it’s a lot of fun.

Now, this being said, there is absolutely nothing in Quodoushka workshop that you must do.

We believe there are already enough things you’ve learned that you should or shouldn’t to sexually, so our interest is in totally supporting you to find and express your own “Yes”,
and your own ‘No’. Sometimes, a ‘no’ can be just the thing you most need to learn, and sometimes a ‘yes’ is the very thing you’ve been afraid of but secretly hoped to find a way to say. Quodoushka gives you practice finding YOUR sexual yes.

Over the years, as you can imagine, I’ve been asked about nudity countless times. And honestly, by the time we get to an exercise, most people cannot wait to shed a few clothes and do the exercise… This is because we do everything gradually, and we make sure  it’s a safe, sacred and respectful place to learn and grow. We strive to create this loving place of safety because we know how very fragile we are in this intimate arena -  no matter how old or young we are.

The next big question is, ‘How far will this go?’

I can answer this one easily: there is no explicit sexuality in any of the exercises in Q1.
There is touching, but as to what’s included, as I said, this is entirely up to you. The exercises are not genitally focused. In the group we have a range of people who may have been married for twenty years, to people who are coming as
singles and experiencing this kind of workshop for the very first time.
So we create a place where everyone can make choices that work for them.

Another question I often don’t hear, (because maybe people are afraid to say) is the fear about being seen by others in a group, discussing or practicing these exercises.

Again, I say, not to worry. You will be tucked away in a little corner of privacy so focused the rest of the people will disappear. I hear this comment from people time and time again, so I know it’s true.

Many of the fears we have are projections of things we don’t know, but that’s also the excitement about coming to a Quodoushka!
It’s exciting to face’ the unknown’ in a safe, secure and loving place. That’s where all the growth is. Really, Quodoushka is not just about sex,it’s about discovering where your vulnerable edges are and learning to move into those edges with pleasure and care.

Sexy HormonesDoes both Shakti and Quodoushka sound exciting?
Good! Then come to both.
They’re quite different, but I think you’d love both workshops.


Thanks For Asking! I hope this answers your questions. If you have more, please ask!

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Interview With Bella LaVey Part Two ~ Sexual Education and Sexual Anatomy

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Interview with Bella Lavey Part Two 

Your book, The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka: Teachings from the Nagual Tradition, is a best seller—congratulations. In my perfect world this book would be a high school textbook in mandatory sex ed. You describe nine different genital morphologies for both men and women. With porn setting the standard of large, circumcised cocks and small, neat, evenly shaped vulvas, to which we compare our own genitals, this book can help heal a lot of shame. Can you share with us some of your experiences of how you work with people around this topic?

Oh, boy, don’t get me started… just kidding. Thank You.

I think my book is so popular because women love finding out if they’re an Antelope Woman, or a Wolf Woman and men want to know if they’re a Horse Man or A Pony Man. It’s only a small part of the book, but it has a strong impact because, for one thing, people like looking at the pictures to find out what type of genital anatomy they have.

By the way, I did not make this up! These types were actually discovered and recorded from the Twisted Hairs Elders of the Sweet Medicine Sundance Path, and were handed down from teacher to student for thousands of years. My book is the first to publish these teachings in a book for the public.

It turns out our anatomy tells us a lot about the way we like to receive pleasure, and it gives amazing insights into the specific kinds of genital pleasure our partner will most enjoy. More …

Great Interview with Bella Lavey #Amara Charles

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Amara Portrait Maui

‘The hardest part of making an agreement is to get to the bottom of your true feelings…

Interview by Bella Lavey

How would you describe your spiritual path?  And can you share with us a little of your history; what brought you to this path? Have you always been passionate about sexuality?

When I was in my 20’s I had a sexual meltdown. More …

Max Van Prague TV Intimacy and Sex with Amara Charles

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I Loved talking with Max Van Prague about my favorite private matters: passion, sex and intimacy… It’s all about having a ‘Beginner’s Mind’. Great Interview. Thanks Max!

DAY FIFTEEN 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team


Can we find pleasure in the unknown? I wonder…


We schedule life, plan, dream and imagine. And somewhere in the mist of all this we seem to want to hang on for dear life that things need to be a certain way.

When can we approach life in the most delicate discovery?

We have our agreements with ourself first and foremost and then we have agreements with lovers, partners, colleges etc and hopefully by now we all have gotten to a mature place that we can talk about love, sex and intimacy in a way that empowers us. If you are knew to all this check out my book Sexual Agreements.

What happens when we take things for granted, assume and live in fantasy?

What happens when our dear lover decides to change a current agreement?

Life is magical and continuously evolving and changing. One dear friend of mine said:

“When you are on the edge of the unknown, that is a good place to be, cause you are evolving.” – John Kent

Do we enable ourself from learning and growing? Can we embrace the wind of change while it is here – with an open heart? Or do we run a certain pattern of holding back, shutting down and do we choose a less serving attitude and approcah?  When we can mature as autonomous free human beings and take responsibility for everything we have currently chosen to show up in our life, a deeper relaxation can acure and when change presents itself, we can stay more open minded. I believe that everything that comes our way is in our highest good.

Now…how do we get to that place and how can we navigate life from a state of pleasure within the unknown? Having perspective is a great way to begin. When we can’t figure something out and things in life aren’t presenting them the way we want them to be, forcing, pushing and rushing is not the way nature naturally encourages anything. When we are in our naturalness, relaxed, connected and loving. Life can then unfold in it’s  natural way of beauty.




DAY FOURTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team


Feeding our own personal sexual hungers can be a huge gateway to deeper joy, relaxation, and pleasure. – For real.


Not the kind of sexual hunger that is kind of what you desire but the the kind that fully replenishes your soul and meets your deepest longing.

How do we know that we are feeding our own personal sexual hungers? In my personal experience approaching life, love, intimacy, relations comes from a deep self love and fully embracing our life force energy. I would like to inspire each and everyone of you to really be real with your self first and foremost. Connect with what you desire. Explore with yourself. Feeding your life force energy could be having a bath, going for a hike or having a really deep intimate conversation.

LIFE can be a TURN ON several moments throughout our day. Quodoushka is life force energy and is not something that comes and goes. It is here all the time.

Having our desire met can only come from knowing ourself and getting to know ourself. Sometimes we can go years and not know what we what. So how can we begin to move the energy and find out what it is that we really desire? If we are stuck in pattern and nothing is happening and no actions are taken, then slowly we may feel uninspired and sexually unsatisfied. Sometimes moving into an adventure is better then putting the lid on the curious place inside. It is a delicate subject, of this I am aware and there are fine lines to be aware of. What works for you, only you can know.


How about approaching life from an adventurous and explorative place…When we can open our heart with curiosity to find out what we desire we begin to move the energy and the curiosity is now building a relationship with knowledge and experience. Communication could be an excellent is key here. Perhaps you have an intimate partner and would like to try something new and different? Or perhaps you could invite one into your life today? Express your longing and ask them to support you as you embrace your life force energy. Follow the pleasure in your life and your highest excitement. In my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka I share about spiritual sexuality and how incredible fulfilling it is when we approach sex from the nagual tradition.  This upcoming May we will have a Quodoushka 1 workshop in Phoenix for all of you ready to begin embracing your own life force energy in such a sacred beautiful way. We would so love to have you join us. Read about the Male and Female genital anatomy types in my book and get to know your own… and get to know your lovers anatomy type. Not only does it serve us in becoming even better lovers, it also opens new doors of understanding for our unique differences and the beauty we bring into the world.



DAY THIRTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY THIRTEEN Erotic Poetry


 My petals are fragile and tender and precious.

They sense the approach of your familiar hand.

They are constantly on the lookout.

Always ready, thrilled to be touched by real love. 




A sample of the poem There are Two Places from the poetry book written by Amara Charles “Aching To Open”

Get your own copy of Amara Charles Spiritual Erotic Poetry today >>>



DAY TWELVE – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team



A warm, soft body waits for you. You notice a smile and a shiver when you enter the room. It’s closeness that melts through anything, dissolves distractions and grabs you near. Sex is an invitation to experience beauty. Intimacy is the knock on the door and the lounging around after. Conversation, listening, loving whatever makes your lover happy- these are the things I love about intimacy. But intimacy is also rugged: it makes you ignore distance, oceans and time. It pulls you close even when you want to pull back. Intimacy is so sexy because it makes you want to touch those special places.Couple in sun istock






Keep in mind these three things when touching especially erotic places.

1. Delicacy.

2. Tease.

3. Deep Satisfaction.

Our most erotic places on the body yearn to be wanted. Yet they only open for touch when we tap gently on the door first. With permission, these places love to be surprised and have been known to moan for more. This is when touch goes straight to the soul, for there is nothing better in life than to be touched by someone we love.

For your slow touch pleasure at home, download Amara’s Touch for Two DVD




DAY NINE – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Gentleness | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY NINE Honesty VS Lying

Keeping quiet because you think saying anything might rock the boat is a recipe for disaster. I believe that unexpressed sexual disappointments are the reason passion gets blurry. Hiding your sexual desires leads to feeling like you have to lie. So go ahead and risk the taboo of being sexually honest, try new things and shake the boat. Yes it might be rocky at first, but the intimate passion that can come later is totally worth it. 


This is the beginning of a rather intimate subject…. 

When we can be honest with ourselves first and foremost, with source of creation it is much easier to be honest with each other and all of our relations. Honesty is gateway to deeper intimacy and a rockin’ sex life. Honesty is sexy and honesty can be an incredible turn on. We didn’t really come here to mess around now did we? So be BOLD today, and be honest with your SELF and your true experience in this moment.

Honesty Practice: More …

DAY SIX – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature
Ten Days Of Gentleness | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY SIX Gentle Pulses Of Compassion Inside The Pussy

two jade eggs“Feminine strength does not push or control, rather its power comes from compassionate wisdom and offers a perfect compliment to its Yang, masculine counterpart. Without Yin, or water, the Yang, or Fire, burns too hot and eventually extinguishes itself. Yes ladies, there is strength and beauty in being women. We are needed, and in turn, need a healthy connection to that which is our opposite to be truly balanced. No woman is an island, rather she is the water surrounding the island that permeates and nourishes all life. Let us endeavor to keep our energy clean and vital, together.” More …

Sex and Intimacy joins the Self Care Revolution

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Listen to my Self Care Revolution with Dr Robyn Benson of Santa Fe Soul


Is sex and intimacy an integral part of intimate health? Of course it is! So why is it so often excluded in mainstream health conferences and why is the topic reserved to backroom conversations (where what’s really going on) is discussed by everyone?

That’s why I celebrate Dr. Robyn Benson’s bold invitation to include the topic of sex and intimate health to Doctors and healers at the Health Clinic Santa Fe Soul in New Mexico.

Help spread the word about how the wise use of sexuality can benefit all sentient beings. Be a part of the Self Care Revolution and take care of your intimate health.

A talk with Dr. Robyn Benson after our ‘off the charts fabulous’ Shiva Shakti Workshop in Santa fe. We introduced Shamanic ceremony to heal wounds of the past to make space for more intimacy and pleasure in our relationships. And we shared sexual restoration practices to boost libido and increase sexual energy.
Everyone loved it! We’re invited back to present Quodoushka in Santa Fe next year for the first time… woo hoo.

I totally resonate with Robyn’s message about taking responsibility for our health by becoming more aware and wise.I believe intimate happiness can change the world. As our relationships heal, so does the world.


In beauty

FAQ: Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshop – Amara Charles

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These are some of the common Questions people ask about Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshops.

Can I come to a Quodoushka Workshop without a partner?
Yes! You may attend Quodoushka I and II as a single or attend with a partner.
For Quodoushka Three, you must attend with a partner.

Is it better to come with a partner? More …

Five Ways To Spot An Alpha Male

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Alpha Male

A beta male knows nothing higher than himself; but an alpha male instantly recognizes genius. 

I’ve had more comments from Five Things Women do in the Presence of an Alpha Male than any article I’ve written so far. Maybe having ‘What is an Alpha man?‘ on my mind turned me into some kind of magnet for them because for the last few weeks I’ve been quite dazzled by the alpha men who keep popping up around me.  

Yesterday, at my favorite coffee shop a man who always wants to know what I’m writing asked, ‘What do you think is Alpha?’… I suppose he has to show you, he sort of has to prove he’s better than other guys.’   

‘Yes. Maybe it’s true.’ I said, but as I explained that it’s all in the way he proves himself, he interrupted me with his real question: ‘Am I an Alpha man?’ More …