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DAY FIFTEEN 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY FIFTEEN The Unknown

Can we find pleasure in the unknown? I wonder…

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We schedule life, plan, dream and imagine. And somewhere in the mist of all this we seem to want to hang on for dear life that things need to be a certain way.

When can we approach life in the most delicate discovery?

We have our agreements with ourself first and foremost and then we have agreements with lovers, partners, colleges etc and hopefully by now we all have gotten to a mature place that we can talk about love, sex and intimacy in a way that empowers us. If you are knew to all this check out my book Sexual Agreements.

What happens when we take things for granted, assume and live in fantasy?

What happens when our dear lover decides to change a current agreement?

Life is magical and continuously evolving and changing. One dear friend of mine said:

“When you are on the edge of the unknown, that is a good place to be, cause you are evolving.” – John Kent

Do we enable ourself from learning and growing? Can we embrace the wind of change while it is here – with an open heart? Or do we run a certain pattern of holding back, shutting down and do we choose a less serving attitude and approcah?  When we can mature as autonomous free human beings and take responsibility for everything we have currently chosen to show up in our life, a deeper relaxation can acure and when change presents itself, we can stay more open minded. I believe that everything that comes our way is in our highest good.

Now…how do we get to that place and how can we navigate life from a state of pleasure within the unknown? Having perspective is a great way to begin. When we can’t figure something out and things in life aren’t presenting them the way we want them to be, forcing, pushing and rushing is not the way nature naturally encourages anything. When we are in our naturalness, relaxed, connected and loving. Life can then unfold in it’s  natural way of beauty.

 

 

 

DAY FOURTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY FOURTEEN Sex

Feeding our own personal sexual hungers can be a huge gateway to deeper joy, relaxation, and pleasure. – For real.

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Not the kind of sexual hunger that is kind of what you desire but the the kind that fully replenishes your soul and meets your deepest longing.

How do we know that we are feeding our own personal sexual hungers? In my personal experience approaching life, love, intimacy, relations comes from a deep self love and fully embracing our life force energy. I would like to inspire each and everyone of you to really be real with your self first and foremost. Connect with what you desire. Explore with yourself. Feeding your life force energy could be having a bath, going for a hike or having a really deep intimate conversation.

LIFE can be a TURN ON several moments throughout our day. Quodoushka is life force energy and is not something that comes and goes. It is here all the time.

Having our desire met can only come from knowing ourself and getting to know ourself. Sometimes we can go years and not know what we what. So how can we begin to move the energy and find out what it is that we really desire? If we are stuck in pattern and nothing is happening and no actions are taken, then slowly we may feel uninspired and sexually unsatisfied. Sometimes moving into an adventure is better then putting the lid on the curious place inside. It is a delicate subject, of this I am aware and there are fine lines to be aware of. What works for you, only you can know.

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How about approaching life from an adventurous and explorative place…When we can open our heart with curiosity to find out what we desire we begin to move the energy and the curiosity is now building a relationship with knowledge and experience. Communication could be an excellent is key here. Perhaps you have an intimate partner and would like to try something new and different? Or perhaps you could invite one into your life today? Express your longing and ask them to support you as you embrace your life force energy. Follow the pleasure in your life and your highest excitement. In my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka I share about spiritual sexuality and how incredible fulfilling it is when we approach sex from the nagual tradition.  This upcoming May we will have a Quodoushka 1 workshop in Phoenix for all of you ready to begin embracing your own life force energy in such a sacred beautiful way. We would so love to have you join us. Read about the Male and Female genital anatomy types in my book and get to know your own… and get to know your lovers anatomy type. Not only does it serve us in becoming even better lovers, it also opens new doors of understanding for our unique differences and the beauty we bring into the world.

 

 

DAY THIRTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY THIRTEEN Erotic Poetry

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 My petals are fragile and tender and precious.

They sense the approach of your familiar hand.

They are constantly on the lookout.

Always ready, thrilled to be touched by real love. 

 

 

 

A sample of the poem There are Two Places from the poetry book written by Amara Charles “Aching To Open”

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DAY TWELVE – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY TWELVE Touch

 

A warm, soft body waits for you. You notice a smile and a shiver when you enter the room. It’s closeness that melts through anything, dissolves distractions and grabs you near. Sex is an invitation to experience beauty. Intimacy is the knock on the door and the lounging around after. Conversation, listening, loving whatever makes your lover happy- these are the things I love about intimacy. But intimacy is also rugged: it makes you ignore distance, oceans and time. It pulls you close even when you want to pull back. Intimacy is so sexy because it makes you want to touch those special places.Couple in sun istock

 

 

 

 

 

Keep in mind these three things when touching especially erotic places.

1. Delicacy.

2. Tease.

3. Deep Satisfaction.

Our most erotic places on the body yearn to be wanted. Yet they only open for touch when we tap gently on the door first. With permission, these places love to be surprised and have been known to moan for more. This is when touch goes straight to the soul, for there is nothing better in life than to be touched by someone we love.

For your slow touch pleasure at home, download Amara’s Touch for Two DVD

 

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DAY NINE – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Gentleness | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY NINE Honesty VS Lying

Keeping quiet because you think saying anything might rock the boat is a recipe for disaster. I believe that unexpressed sexual disappointments are the reason passion gets blurry. Hiding your sexual desires leads to feeling like you have to lie. So go ahead and risk the taboo of being sexually honest, try new things and shake the boat. Yes it might be rocky at first, but the intimate passion that can come later is totally worth it. 

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This is the beginning of a rather intimate subject…. 

When we can be honest with ourselves first and foremost, with source of creation it is much easier to be honest with each other and all of our relations. Honesty is gateway to deeper intimacy and a rockin’ sex life. Honesty is sexy and honesty can be an incredible turn on. We didn’t really come here to mess around now did we? So be BOLD today, and be honest with your SELF and your true experience in this moment.

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DAY SIX – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature
Ten Days Of Gentleness | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY SIX Gentle Pulses Of Compassion Inside The Pussy

two jade eggs“Feminine strength does not push or control, rather its power comes from compassionate wisdom and offers a perfect compliment to its Yang, masculine counterpart. Without Yin, or water, the Yang, or Fire, burns too hot and eventually extinguishes itself. Yes ladies, there is strength and beauty in being women. We are needed, and in turn, need a healthy connection to that which is our opposite to be truly balanced. No woman is an island, rather she is the water surrounding the island that permeates and nourishes all life. Let us endeavor to keep our energy clean and vital, together.” More …

Sex and Intimacy joins the Self Care Revolution

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Listen to my Self Care Revolution with Dr Robyn Benson of Santa Fe Soul

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Is sex and intimacy an integral part of intimate health? Of course it is! So why is it so often excluded in mainstream health conferences and why is the topic reserved to backroom conversations (where what’s really going on) is discussed by everyone?

That’s why I celebrate Dr. Robyn Benson’s bold invitation to include the topic of sex and intimate health to Doctors and healers at the Health Clinic Santa Fe Soul in New Mexico.

Help spread the word about how the wise use of sexuality can benefit all sentient beings. Be a part of the Self Care Revolution and take care of your intimate health.

A talk with Dr. Robyn Benson after our ‘off the charts fabulous’ Shiva Shakti Workshop in Santa fe. We introduced Shamanic ceremony to heal wounds of the past to make space for more intimacy and pleasure in our relationships. And we shared sexual restoration practices to boost libido and increase sexual energy.
Everyone loved it! We’re invited back to present Quodoushka in Santa Fe next year for the first time… woo hoo.

I totally resonate with Robyn’s message about taking responsibility for our health by becoming more aware and wise.I believe intimate happiness can change the world. As our relationships heal, so does the world.

 

In beauty
Amara

FAQ: Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshop – Amara Charles

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These are some of the common Questions people ask about Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshops.

Can I come to a Quodoushka Workshop without a partner?
Yes! You may attend Quodoushka I and II as a single or attend with a partner.
For Quodoushka Three, you must attend with a partner.

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Five Ways To Spot An Alpha Male

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A beta male knows nothing higher than himself; but an alpha male instantly recognizes genius. 

I’ve had more comments from Five Things Women do in the Presence of an Alpha Male than any article I’ve written so far. Maybe having ‘What is an Alpha man?‘ on my mind turned me into some kind of magnet for them because for the last few weeks I’ve been quite dazzled by the alpha men who keep popping up around me.  

Yesterday, at my favorite coffee shop a man who always wants to know what I’m writing asked, ‘What do you think is Alpha?’… I suppose he has to show you, he sort of has to prove he’s better than other guys.’   

‘Yes. Maybe it’s true.’ I said, but as I explained that it’s all in the way he proves himself, he interrupted me with his real question: ‘Am I an Alpha man?’ More …

A Daring Sexy Way to Celebrate Your Love

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Bailey Masks VideoWatch this wonderful erotic story about an adventure Lynn and her husband Mark created. It’s a fantastic idea for any couple who would like to celebrate their intimacy in a most daring and risque way…

 

THROUGH THE EYES OF THE LOVERS

What follows is our story of how we came to have David Steinberg take nine rolls of film of us while making love. It explains our motivation, our fears, but most of all how David was able to get us to a point of total comfort before, during and after the shoot. The results were absolutely fantastic in projecting the tenderness, love, joy, silliness, fun and total ecstasy that we felt while making love for the photo session.

We are a couple who took a giant leap from having had “boudoir” pictures taken, to having an almost 2 hour photo shoot during a most intimate love making session. Our boudoir session involved full nudity, but only holding and caressing for the pictures; we are both comfortable with nudity, having sex in unusual places and taking pictures and movies of ourselves. We were initially nervous with the  pictures being taken by others, but relaxed gradually as the session proceeded—most “poses” were directed by the photographer (David was not the photographer).  There were enough shots that projected eroticism and our expanding erotic nature that we had five collages made suitable for matting and framing. The pictures (proofs & collages) combined with having seen several “erotic” pictures of other couples taken by David suggested to us that we should try to express our intimacy in pictures while making love. Though we were nervous and almost reluctant to attempt it when we first discussed it, we were very comfortable, at ease and felt natural during our shoot. The difference in our comfort level was initially reading David’s article “Real Sex In Front Of the Camera”, but the most benefit and impact came from our pre shoot discussions with David.

From the first time we spoke with David by phone until he snapped the first picture, he emphasized that he had NO agenda and that his role was to capture what we projected. He would not direct, position or critique us. We felt we could see that concept in the various sets of pictures of other couples we had seen.  We did not want pictures to put on an amateur porn site, or pictures to shock or titillate others. We wanted pictures to reflect our feeling for, and closeness with, each other during our love making. The same feelings and emotions that during our regular love making has made us shriek, laugh, gasp, groan or cry depending on some variable yet to be identified.  We wanted on film how we felt more than how we looked.

One suggestion that David made well beforehand that served us well, was not to over think or over complicate what we included while making love for the camera. We have many techniques, toys, positions and bondage equipment that are frequently included in our love making; we initially thought of including as many as possible. With David’s “hints”, we concluded that we did not want to illustrate a “How To Book”, we wanted to capture emotion and feelings.  We picked a couple lubes, a couple toys and decided we’ll start at foreplay and see where it goes.

It worked perfectly because we were more relaxed and in our own element and timing by us NOT having an agenda other than to enjoy.

That is not to say that in the future we won’t do a shoot with more toys, a couple specific positions or featuring bondage, but for that shoot those were not our intent. Anyone wishing to feature those things, fetish play or even a solo shoot of self-pleasuring, can certainly do it and I have no doubt that David can capture your intent; in a very erotic and sensual manner.

David also helped us put together an album (coffee table book) of 65 of our favorite pictures along with dedications to each other. Every time we look at the album, or share it with friends who understand our intent, the eroticism seems new and fresh. Obviously we have only shared it with others who are comfortable in nudity and who are comfortable in discussing our and their own erotic nature.  All who have viewed it have commented about how erotic, natural, loving and happy we are. We will also share it with others thinking of being photographed by David, or others serious about learning David’s art.

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SENSUAL AND SEXY

I long ago gave to you my heart which you touched so deeply, my heart you cause to swell with pride and my heart that you humbled by picking (and keeping) me. I remind you of our symbolic hearts that reflect, but do not fully capture, your passion, your openness, your Erotic Nature and your genuineness.

In this book of images recall the trust, the openness, the silliness, the daring, the seeking of new and unknown, the passion, the tenderness, the lust, the love and the pure enjoyment that has been our relationship and lives together. Recall in the images not just the nakedness of our bodies, but the openness to our souls we provided each other. Recall our adventures, our joys, our happiness, our soft murmurs, our shouts, our tenderness and our toughness, but most of all our freedom to be ourselves with each other. Recall how we also became each other without losing ourselves.

Forever and Always to my One and Only.

To My Husband, Lover and Friend,

You make me feel beautiful and these pictures capture that feeling and the essence of us.  You see beyond the bumps, lumps and wrinkles…and I am loved in ways words cannot express.  The making of this album was scary, fun, exciting, and erotic ~ and you gave me the freedom to do so at my pace.  As I’ve said before, we’re at a place of deep trust and knowledge of each other.  We can talk without many words, laugh at ourselves, and continue to grow and explore new things together ~ and this album is testament to the explorer in us.

And here, in this special place, the magic and tingly feelings still happen and the spaces in my life are filled, for you are, simply everything to me.

Thank you for the many smiles and happy memories these pictures will bring in the years to come and remind us of the feelings creating this album evoked.

Forever and Always,

A Simple Love Habit that Works

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Yesterday I spoke with a couple having intimacy issues.
They were eager to give me the list of wasn’t working.
‘The first thing’ I said ‘you must to drop the habit of beginning with
the past.’

You will never feel like being intimate
by constantly bringing up what has not worked.
Constant criticism defeats desire. I suggested they spend
the week sharing as many sweet memories as they could.

When I get hooked into the habit of bringing up disappointing things, I first have to notice that I am doing this. When we are asleep to how our unkind words put out the fire of our passion we keep going down this futile tunnel.

The only juice you get from trying to correct your lover by pointing out what went wrong the last time is being ‘right’. Even if you manage to score a point with even tiny insults,   you are going to feel alone. We certainly know that insulting our lover is a dead end, but sometimes that perverse habit of criticizing wins the moment, and we say unkind things. Our ego is seems to win the battle, but our hearts always suffer.

It may sound trite to say as many kind things as you can to your lover, but in the realm of intimacy, it’s particularly true. We can retrain our minds to consciously speak of times when things worked well. Make it a habit to recall excellence, beauty and tenderness. Deliberately share victories with your beloved throughout your day. It’s simple, and it works. You just have to do it often enough to put your brain in the proper state of mind to be more loving and kind to each other.

Make it a point to share several beautiful memories and see what happens in the bedroom. I hope you’re pleasantly surprised what flows naturally from your hearts.

Because Beauty is a Living State of Love.

In beauty

Amara

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Tapping into Your Erotic Intelligence

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I’m to say that the Art of Erotic Intelligence course is ready to go…

The idea is to inspire you to use your passion to empower every aspect of your life, a core secret of high-performing artists, inventors, business folk and lovers since the beginning of time: energy is energy, but we don’t always understand how to access it.

But if you can tap into and release it in ONE arena of your life, you have the doorway to opening it in EVERY arena of your life.

To be effective, it had to merge male and female energies, and
no matter how balanced I might be, I was always going
to lean heavily on the “female” side. Fortunately,  I didn’t have to go looking for someone to do this with.  For twenty years, it has been my honor to be
friends with STEVEN BARNES. He’s not only a NYT best-selling author who has written for television and Hollywood movies, he’s also a 4th Degree Blackbelt and Tai Chi and Yoga instructor. Even more than these accomplishments, what I most respect about Steve is his devotion to his son Jason – which I feel adds tremendous power to his masculine perspective.

We’ve had endless conversations and fascinating debates about
how to harness, express, and teach using our erotic intelligence.
We never agreed totally, (or sometimes at all! ) and it suddenly hit
both of us–that lack of total convergence wasn’t a weakness,
it was actually a strength!

We were both sick of teachers who pretend to be in alignment
on every little aspect of their teaching.

The truth is that human beings never agree totally.  Heck,
you don’t totally agree with what you thought YESTERDAY!

So we had a unique opportunity, because while we don’t agree
totally, we DO respect each other’s positions. Steve has mastered several disciplines, and has clamoring, devoted students around the world. He is married to the lovely Tananarive Due, a highly acclaimed award winning author in her own right.

I’ve learned something valuable creating this project with Steve, for or one thing, he knows how to be friends with a woman. We decided to try teaching a workshop together, and a little bit of magic happened…

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In beauty,
Amara Charles

How To Increase Your Erotic Intelligence

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The Sessons with Helen Hunt and John Hawks

Go see this movie.

Why? Because it’s not only lovely to watch truth crawling through the covers reaching below the belt of collective consciousness, it shows where men and women are not different in the places that count.

While it’s hardly a blockbuster, the fact that ‘The Sessions’ made it to the screen is a testimony to the raw power of sex. And there’s no better way to see such a movie than with a group of women dedicated to compassionate sex and intimacy. So when our Yin Way woman’s class filled a row in the theater, we rooted for this true story of a quadriplegic, virginal 38-year-old writer (John Hawks) and his married sexual surrogate (Helen Hunt).

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Three Clues to Overcome Rejection

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Three Clues for Overcoming Rejection

How do you get your lady out of the castle when she won’t say yes?

What if she shuns affection? Avoids sex and rejects you on a regular basis?

The most important key that opens the door to the castle is to be more loving no matter what. For love is the only language she understands.

Why is she rejecting me? More …