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Nourishing Arts of Sexual PleasureThanks for stopping by. If you’re looking for the best spiritually sexy stories, articles and Intimacy Retreats, you’ve found the site. My book ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka’ hit #1 on Amazon and you can watch A Natural Language for Sex from Chapter 6 by opting in above. Order a copy now and I’ll send you an autographed copy. Plus, you can receive several exclusive gifts only available HERE.

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Come See My Talk April 25, 3pm: ‘Who Designed Your Vagina’, featuring the SMSD Sexual Anatomy Types with Amara Charles, best selling author of the Sexual Practices of Quodoushka

Is the vagina inconvenient, non-existent or a source of embarrassment? Or is it a place of pleasure and pride?

“Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,” says Monica Lewinsky. It’s time for private shaming to stop as well. In this brave and elegant educational presentation Amara Charles will show and explain the Nine Female Sexual Anatomy Types from her #1 Best Selling book ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.’ Thousands of people have brought pride into their private parts by seeing the variety and uniqueness of the sexual anatomy types.

It’s time to turn the tide of women being ashamed of their genitals, of women trying to get ‘Designer Vagina’s’ and ‘Barbie’s’ because we feel ugly. The way to take pride in our genitals is by asking the right questions and knowing the true cost of shame. You will be amazed at the beauty and purpose of your Sexual Anatomy Type.

Amara is a highly acclaimed sex and intimacy expert and author of #1 Best‐Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka. She has been a guest on VH1, BBC, ABC, and HBO television.  Amara has facilitated spiritual sexuality programs around the world for over twenty-five years. Known for her humorous and often deeply compassionate presentations, her mission is to help men and women realize the transformational healing power of feeling happy in our intimate lives. www.amaracharles.com

Come see me at The Sexual Health Expo April 25th at 3pm.

 

 

 

 

 

Come See Me at the Sexual Health Expo ` Phoenix April 25

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Is the vagina inconvenient, non-existent or a source of embarrassment? Or is it a place of pleasure and pride?

“Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,” says Monica Lewinsky. It’s time for private shaming to stop as well. In this brave and elegant educational presentation Amara Charles will show and explain the Nine Female Sexual Anatomy Types from her #1 Best Selling book ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.’ Thousands of people have brought pride into their private parts by seeing the variety and uniqueness of the sexual anatomy types.

It’s time to turn the tide of women being ashamed of their genitals, of women trying to get ‘Designer Vagina’s’ and ‘Barbie’s’ because we feel ugly. The way to take pride in our genitals is by asking the right questions and knowing the true cost of shame. You will be amazed at the beauty and purpose of your Sexual Anatomy Type.

Amara is a highly acclaimed sex and intimacy expert and author of #1 Best‐Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka. She has been a guest on VH1, BBC, ABC, and HBO television.  Amara has facilitated spiritual sexuality programs around the world for over twenty-five years. Known for her humorous and often deeply compassionate presentations, her mission is to help men and women realize the transformational healing power of feeling happy in our intimate lives. www.amaracharles.com

Come see me at The Sexual Health Expo April 25th at 3pm.

 

Feature Article: Who Designed Your Vagina?

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Stencil set 2I’ve had some pretty remarkable chats with women lately as I am preparing a new workshop for the Sexual Health Expo in Scottsdale.  There’s been shivers and tears mixed with bouts of passion or rage – so I know the fire trigger is getting flipped.

I’m showing before and after images of Labiaplasty, also known as labia reduction or labia rejuvenation. While researching this I was shocked to discover the quest for the ‘Designer Vaginas’ is well documented by many women willing to post their intimate parts online. Looking through thousands of these pictures, something really interesting happened: I started looking for and then found the entire wheel of sexual anatomy types I teach about in Quodoushka workshops*.

It turns out the majority of women are in their early 20’s or younger, along with many over 50 who want to tidy things up down there. Taken a step further, “The Barbie” procedure amputates the entire labia minora, making a woman’s genital area appear entirely smooth like a plastic doll, and the outer labia seem sealed together like a clam with no messy protrusions. Cosmetic augmentation is 30 billion dollar industry, and for this vulva surgery, women are paying upwards of $6000.

Either I’ll get kicked out of the show for this presentation OR… and this is what I hope and why I am doing this: perhaps just one woman, or one young girl will pause to see that she already has a “Designer Vagina.” Designed by God herself, and that’s a fact.

As I explain this to my hairdresser (who’s been to a Quodoushka workshop) she says, ‘What I got from the Genital Anatomy Types is that I’m OK. It’s just my anatomy, and that we’re all different.’ 

Surrounded by blowers and chatter, about her own augmentation surgery she adds: ‘I just wanted to feel more feminine. But now I don’t FEEL.’

 We both pause for a moment feeling the weight of this truth.

Before listening to my friends I was thinking of being somewhat reserved while talking about this.  After all, I’m launching this talk in Scottsdale, the cosmetic capitol of the world…and local docs may be watching my graphic slides of the Genital Anatomy Types, which by the way are ALL beautiful. (Even the ones who’ve had surgery.)

I think the women I spoke to might revolt if I didn’t go for broke. Thanks ladies, there’s not a chance; not only will I go for it, my aim is to walk my talk with erotic intelligence, and do it right. With beauty.

Here’s What We Don’t Know

The inner and outer lips surrounding the vagina that many consider ‘cosmetic’ are actually filled with a fine network of nerve endings. When we’re aroused, they become engorged with blood and they spread out like wings of a great winged serpent . Our lips guard the doorway to boundless waves of pleasure. They’re designed for our pleasure. Why would we choose to reduce the sensation in one of the most sensitive, erogenous zones of our bodies?

Is it because there’s a place in our psyches that still says, on some hidden collective consciousness that pleasure is shameful, especially genital pleasure?

Yes on the outside, after a woman changes the shape of her vulva, she may join the  collective opinion that says those neatly tucked away, politely folded flaps are way better than those messy, wild, all over the place flapping wings that are gorged with more pleasure than they can hold. (Perhaps such beauty is in the mouth of the beholder.) Who says those neat, hardly visible lips are attractive and that those vaginas with bulges and swirls big enough to delve into are not?

This rubs me the wrong way because until doing this research, I never knew so many women, especially young women are choosing to cut their lips off because they feel ugly. The real cost of shame is the loss of feeling. Surgery reduces feeling.

My hair dresser says, she has’30% to 40%  less feeling. ‘That’s what happened for me. And You can’t get it back.’

I have the pleasure of viewing thousands of vulvas. It’s my job to help women identify their genital anatomy types, and to create a place where they can fall in love with them selves. And I have to say, honest to god, I have never seen an ugly vagina.

Here’s what I have to say to women: Dare to be who you truly are. Your pussy is beautiful just the way it is. Let’s celebrate our diversity. And let’s bring the mystery of who we truly are into our bodies, minds and bedrooms.

* Quodoushka is a spiritual sexuality workshop where we teach about men and women’s sexual anatomy types from the Sweet Medicine Sundance Path of Turtle Island.

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In beauty, Amara Charles

Author of  #1 Best Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka

Now available in Spanish, Czech and English available on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel

 

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Who Designed Your Vagina

April 25 3pm Double Tree Resort

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The Perfect Pussy? A Man’s Response to a Girl Thinking About Labiaplasticy: Perfect.

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My two cents as a man: it’s easy for us to get together in groups and make fun of women who aren’t entirely perfect, or who at least don’t fit the vision of “perfection” we get from models and porn. It’s not our greatest asset. In fact it’s things like that that make me feel like I belong to the weaker sex. We’re so bent on bringing other people down because we’re all really fragile and have these delicate egos and we make ourselves feel strong by banding together to make fun of people.

Vaginal attractiveness is a tough subject because no one’s really talking about it objectively, or at least not with me around. Porn is teaching you that there are pretty and ugly vaginas, and even though I have very little experience being a teenage girl, my understanding (garnered largely from tv and movies, I’ll admit) is that girls default to thinking their vagina is ugly. Like as a curious teenager when you finally give it a good long look, it’s probably not what you were expecting. Forgive me if that’s an ignorant sentiment, but like I said, the conversation isn’t really at the forefront of gender equality so I have very little to go on.

But men find them beautiful. Like really actually beautiful. Not beautiful-for-a-few-flaps-of-skin-beautiful, but legitimately attractive. The things you think are ugly are the reasons we’re drawn to them. All those guys who bash a woman for having “meat curtains” would sell their limbs to come into contact with that same “ugly” vagina.

Ask a group of men in a room together what they find attractive in a woman and they’ll all say “big tits, big ass, skinny waist and legs, blonde hair”, but get them one on one and you’ll find guys who like small breasts and small asses and thick legs and everything else. The same way not every girl wants a huge hard body builder with a massive package.

My point is: the worst mistake you could make is basing a life decision on the mob mentality of men. When you’re ready to give your virginity to someone, I promise you they’ll be feeling like the king of the world, and more than likely too focused on their own bodily flaws to even notice your inner labia aren’t Photoshop Perfect.

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Who Designed Your Vagina? ~ Come See Me at The Sexual Health Expo

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Is the vagina inconvenient, non-existent or a source of embarrassment? Or is it a place of pleasure and pride?

“Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,” says Monica Lewinsky. It’s time for private shaming to stop as well. In this brave and elegant educational presentation Amara Charles will show and explain the Nine Female Sexual Anatomy Types from her #1 Best Selling book ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.’ Thousands of people have brought pride into their private parts by seeing the variety and uniqueness of the sexual anatomy types.

It’s time to turn the tide of women being ashamed of their genitals, of women trying to get ‘Designer Vagina’s’ and ‘Barbie’s’ because we feel ugly. The way to take pride in our genitals is by asking the right questions and knowing the true cost of shame. You will be amazed at the beauty and purpose of your Sexual Anatomy Type.

Amara is a highly acclaimed sex and intimacy expert and author of #1 Best‐Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka. She has been a guest on VH1, BBC, ABC, and HBO television.  Amara has facilitated spiritual sexuality programs around the world for over twenty-five years. Known for her humorous and often deeply compassionate presentations, her mission is to help men and women realize the transformational healing power of feeling happy in our intimate lives. www.amaracharles.com

ComeSeeMeCome see me at The Sexual Health Expo April 25th at 3pm.

 

 

 

 

DAY FIFTEEN 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

DAY FIFTEEN The Unknown

Can we find pleasure in the unknown? I wonder…

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We schedule life, plan, dream and imagine. And somewhere in the mist of all this we seem to want to hang on for dear life that things need to be a certain way.

When can we approach life in the most delicate discovery?

We have our agreements with ourself first and foremost and then we have agreements with lovers, partners, colleges etc and hopefully by now we all have gotten to a mature place that we can talk about love, sex and intimacy in a way that empowers us. If you are knew to all this check out my book Sexual Agreements.

What happens when we take things for granted, assume and live in fantasy?

What happens when our dear lover decides to change a current agreement?

Life is magical and continuously evolving and changing. One dear friend of mine said:

“When you are on the edge of the unknown, that is a good place to be, cause you are evolving.” – John Kent

Do we enable ourself from learning and growing? Can we embrace the wind of change while it is here – with an open heart? Or do we run a certain pattern of holding back, shutting down and do we choose a less serving attitude and approcah?  When we can mature as autonomous free human beings and take responsibility for everything we have currently chosen to show up in our life, a deeper relaxation can acure and when change presents itself, we can stay more open minded. I believe that everything that comes our way is in our highest good.

Now…how do we get to that place and how can we navigate life from a state of pleasure within the unknown? Having perspective is a great way to begin. When we can’t figure something out and things in life aren’t presenting them the way we want them to be, forcing, pushing and rushing is not the way nature naturally encourages anything. When we are in our naturalness, relaxed, connected and loving. Life can then unfold in it’s  natural way of beauty.

 

 

 

DAY FOURTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY FOURTEEN Sex

Feeding our own personal sexual hungers can be a huge gateway to deeper joy, relaxation, and pleasure. – For real.

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Not the kind of sexual hunger that is kind of what you desire but the the kind that fully replenishes your soul and meets your deepest longing.

How do we know that we are feeding our own personal sexual hungers? In my personal experience approaching life, love, intimacy, relations comes from a deep self love and fully embracing our life force energy. I would like to inspire each and everyone of you to really be real with your self first and foremost. Connect with what you desire. Explore with yourself. Feeding your life force energy could be having a bath, going for a hike or having a really deep intimate conversation.

LIFE can be a TURN ON several moments throughout our day. Quodoushka is life force energy and is not something that comes and goes. It is here all the time.

Having our desire met can only come from knowing ourself and getting to know ourself. Sometimes we can go years and not know what we what. So how can we begin to move the energy and find out what it is that we really desire? If we are stuck in pattern and nothing is happening and no actions are taken, then slowly we may feel uninspired and sexually unsatisfied. Sometimes moving into an adventure is better then putting the lid on the curious place inside. It is a delicate subject, of this I am aware and there are fine lines to be aware of. What works for you, only you can know.

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How about approaching life from an adventurous and explorative place…When we can open our heart with curiosity to find out what we desire we begin to move the energy and the curiosity is now building a relationship with knowledge and experience. Communication could be an excellent is key here. Perhaps you have an intimate partner and would like to try something new and different? Or perhaps you could invite one into your life today? Express your longing and ask them to support you as you embrace your life force energy. Follow the pleasure in your life and your highest excitement. In my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka I share about spiritual sexuality and how incredible fulfilling it is when we approach sex from the nagual tradition.  This upcoming May we will have a Quodoushka 1 workshop in Phoenix for all of you ready to begin embracing your own life force energy in such a sacred beautiful way. We would so love to have you join us. Read about the Male and Female genital anatomy types in my book and get to know your own… and get to know your lovers anatomy type. Not only does it serve us in becoming even better lovers, it also opens new doors of understanding for our unique differences and the beauty we bring into the world.

 

 

DAY THIRTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY THIRTEEN Erotic Poetry

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 My petals are fragile and tender and precious.

They sense the approach of your familiar hand.

They are constantly on the lookout.

Always ready, thrilled to be touched by real love. 

 

 

 

A sample of the poem There are Two Places from the poetry book written by Amara Charles “Aching To Open”

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DAY EIGHT – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY EIGHT Spiritual Determination

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What really ignites your fire?

Are you listening to your inner calling?

How can you create what you really desire in your life?

Life is just a decision. What sets you on fire and pulls you close IS part of your Spiritual Determination.

When the wave comes, RIDE IT. Bring it into total and absolute completion.

Take Action in this moment and write 3 action steps that you will take to move forward in manifesting a desire/dream/hearts prayer of yours. We would LOVE to hear them and will receive you with an open heart. Thank you for sharing.

With Eternal Love, Amara and The Shakti Team.

Amara & Shyena Napali Coast

DAY SEVEN – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY SEVEN Sisterhood

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The love between women is changing the world.

Take a moment to thank you mother today. For the life she has given you…Take a moment to call a sister, a neighbor, a colleague and say your gratitudes to Her for what She contributes in this world. We all have a certain “medicine” a certain kind of glow and service that we offer into this world by being in our naturalness.  When we try to be something we are not, then we loose that connection with our natural way, our own personal Shakti essence.

Be who you are, and when is a sister is who She is, appreciate and applaud Her for BE-ing the face of Shakti. We are all so different. Women are the many different spices of Her. Honor each other. Honor your sisters, and begin with yourself.

We have three Shakti Queen events FOR ALL YOU WOMEN coming this year…

Somethings that are on the Shakti menu are…. More …

DAY SIX – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY SIX Gentle Pulses Of Compassion Inside The Pussy

two jade eggs“Feminine strength does not push or control, rather its power comes from compassionate wisdom and offers a perfect compliment to its Yang, masculine counterpart. Without Yin, or water, the Yang, or Fire, burns too hot and eventually extinguishes itself. Yes ladies, there is strength and beauty in being women. We are needed, and in turn, need a healthy connection to that which is our opposite to be truly balanced. No woman is an island, rather she is the water surrounding the island that permeates and nourishes all life. Let us endeavor to keep our energy clean and vital, together.” More …

DAY FOUR – 30 Day Inspiration For Women – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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~ DAY FOUR She is Shakti.

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she is untamed
she is unleashed
she is uninhibited
she is unknown
she is shakti

Discover a softer and more loving way to nourish your Shakti – the female principle of divine energy.

Sisters, Connect to your roaring natural spirit.
You are welcome here. Just the way you are.
Shakti flows freely. She knows. She knows…

For more Shakti in your veins join us for women’s Shakti Queen Retreats
http://www.amaracharles.com/…/about-shakti-queen-womens-re…/

Deep bow to the gorgeous model Carolina for this photo of Her Sublime Shakti Essence.

What Makes Alpha Women Happy?

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Alpha Women are hungry for less. Less doing. More being. Less manipulation and more openness. Less effort and more intelligence.

An Alpha Woman lassos the chaos in her life, loosens her grip of control, and lets go on the tip of her razor’s edge, and stays there. Rather than trying to control the unknown or cut it into manageable bites, an Alpha Woman seeks the power hidden inside chaos and learns to use it.

Instead of getting overwhelmed by the all- too-muchness of everything, an Alpha Woman spins unwieldy webs of disconnected things into a spectacular robe, with options in every pocket.

She sounds like superwoman. She is. But not the way you think.

Super Woman, or let’s say, many women these days, has to schedule time to let go. We become super schedulers to fit everything in – and we even end up making appointments for sex! We get so swept up in our zany time crunches we forget that we’ve made them up! And when our batteries get drained we slouch into lazy bouts, where just about anything will do. Food. Movies. Drama. You name it.

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Touching the Sweet Spot

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Something magical happens when we touch the sweet spot, that place where there’s no distance, there’s only heart stretching in every direction stripping down the decoys against love we put in the way.  Anything unreal, anything we try to hold onto, all the hurts, wounds and transgressions we’ve made, crumble like brown sugar the instant that spot gets touched.

How do you touch it? More …

Sex and Intimacy joins the Self Care Revolution

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Listen to my Self Care Revolution with Dr Robyn Benson of Santa Fe Soul

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Is sex and intimacy an integral part of intimate health? Of course it is! So why is it so often excluded in mainstream health conferences and why is the topic reserved to backroom conversations (where what’s really going on) is discussed by everyone?

That’s why I celebrate Dr. Robyn Benson’s bold invitation to include the topic of sex and intimate health to Doctors and healers at the Health Clinic Santa Fe Soul in New Mexico.

Help spread the word about how the wise use of sexuality can benefit all sentient beings. Be a part of the Self Care Revolution and take care of your intimate health.

A talk with Dr. Robyn Benson after our ‘off the charts fabulous’ Shiva Shakti Workshop in Santa fe. We introduced Shamanic ceremony to heal wounds of the past to make space for more intimacy and pleasure in our relationships. And we shared sexual restoration practices to boost libido and increase sexual energy.
Everyone loved it! We’re invited back to present Quodoushka in Santa Fe next year for the first time… woo hoo.

I totally resonate with Robyn’s message about taking responsibility for our health by becoming more aware and wise.I believe intimate happiness can change the world. As our relationships heal, so does the world.

 

In beauty
Amara

What’s the Purpose? ~ Angela Yan

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Dharma Healing Retreat with Master Angela Yan

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Our new year was blessed with Master Angela Yan’s ten day visit to our home. The profound Dharma stories that come rolling through her day and night slip in and out of my mind like heat from the fire and the taste of good things. Days begin with bowing and chanting  followed by eggs, porridge, toast, jam, butter, coffee, and lots of unknown fermented veggies. Along with non-stop conversations like this:

If you do not have time to do nothing, you are not wealthy at all. Take the time to enjoy your life. That is wealth’ she’d say.

One day Angela decides she would like to get a massage, another day go to the spa, and then she mentions she’d like to do a workshop.

So a few days later she did. As people enter our house, Angela sits by the fire, makes tea and begins: There are thousands of techniques. But this is not what matters. Everybody can do this technique, that technique. What is the purpose? What’s the real purpose of what you’re doing?

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One couple comes over for a Qigong healing session and they’re anxious to go into the healing room to get started. But Angela has tea first, and seems to talk about many unrelated things for over an hour.  What they don’t realize is that there’s nothing to start, it’s all part of the healing. How you relax, how you talk, how you move, what you say and what you don’t, it’s all part of the healing. I watch her opening people, finding her way in. Some people get this and others do not. Neither concerns Angela, both are the same.

A good teacher, she says  takes out darkness. A good teacher can see you. Finds your darkest parts and maybe stirs them up. It’s not somebody who says how wonderful you are, how good you are, how great you are. No. A good teacher leads you only in the right direction.

DSC07441Everyone wants to make you into a doctor,  a wife, a lawyer  or something you are not. they want you to become something. But who are you without these things?  A good teacher is not someone who wants you to memorize and remember and repeat back what you hear them say. A good teacher removes what is not needed to point you in the right direction. What’s the right direction? You. Your wisdom. Your natural self. she says.

But people are deluded. They do not know what they do not know. A good teacher shows you how to live.

So many people want to be healers, she says, but if you do not know how to swim, how do you teach people to do that? Stand outside the water and tell them? First you better learn how to swim. Cook up your wisdom. 

How do you do that? Chant. Chanting is not a human language. It cannot be explained in human language. You better just do it. Find out out what it can do. Then maybe you will gain some wisdom. Be more humble. Respect. The more of this you have, the more you will get. ok? A good teacher does nothing for himself, it’s for you. All of it, everything is for you. A real teacher always has people behind. She has a lineage. This is very important, who stands behind you.  You must pay attention to.

Be more humble, she says to me many times over the days of our retreat.  ‘pay attention. don’t talk too much.

Ok. I better just do it.

Om Mani Padme Hum

 

In beauty

Amara
Watch an amazing Video of ANGELA’S QIGONG HEALING

 

When Gratitude Gets Wet

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I know when you’re in a tidal wave of love, when things are flowing sweet, when Eros is all around, being grateful is like breathing. But what about after you’ve made a major mistake?Is it possible to get to gratitude when it feels like your ship is sailing in the wrong direction, when happiness fades and fine platitudes are the last things you want to hear? We’ve all had times where all we want to do is dig into a pit of sorrow, where, even if we know wallowing wont work, we do it anyway. This is when getting to gratitude really counts. But how can we feel grateful when everything seems closed, and hopeless and dark?

Here’s four big reasons why gratitude beats regret and resentment, every time.

Gratitude Feels Better

Of course we’d rather be tingling with gratitude every minute of the day, but the truth is, sometimes we choose to mope with pain, stew in our resentment or just lounge around trying not to think too much. Usually while we’re licking or barking about our wounds what we really need is attention; we want somebody to know we’re hurting. The trouble is, while it keeps us busy, it also keeps us in the pit longer. Gratitude is a way out.

Gratitude Takes Less Effort

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Hunting Marianne ~ an ode to finding Shakti anywhere

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I’ve come to think that just about anyone loves permission to talk about sex.

Once you you peel away the veils that like getting lifted, I notice it’s the same everywhere I go. And I love hunting Beauty wherever it lands; coaxing it to peek through the shyness, enchanting it to smile, wonder or sing just a little bit more than it should. I like taking down the weight of walls nobody likes holding up.

It’s how I hunted Marianne, a Jew from Uzbekistan sitting next to me on the plane from JFK To Phoenix. Even before I notice all the yamakas and delicious scent of food passing across the aisles, she catches my eye by the way she covers
her hair and keeps tugging her skirt to cover her legs. But it’s  how she inadvertently keeps brushing back her two year old’s soft brown curls that really has me smitten.

A lot of kids get cranky at take off, but Samuel stares wide-eyed out the window and giggles the whole way up. He seems blessed with an unusual dose of  gentle intelligence.

It was  Marianne who convinces me that given the time, a curious mood and the right questions, just about anyone will tell you anything . We start with casual banter about the Jewish holidays and then her nose flares slightly when I
tell her what I do. In her world of conservative Jews, no one’s written a book about sex. So she’s clearly delighted to me a few tell me things about her husband, all the while glancing at the floor to guard affections.

As Samuel begins to tire, I offer her a few tips and she asks for my card. I’m writing in the darkness when she says  ‘You should put the light on. It’s bad for your eyes.’  Exactly what my Mom used to say to me as a child.

I must have the Shakti shine all over me because when I go to the back of the plane to get water for tea Regina, the Black, South Korean flight attendant and I begin doing it again. I think people like talking to strangers, especially ones like me.

In 3 minutes I know she’s going down in beauty. First she tells me about her trips to South Korea with her Buddhist family, saying ‘I feel like an alien American duck. They touch all the time..” And then she whispers into my
ear, ‘My mother even massages my brother like it’s no big deal.’

The conversation heats up as I pour more water into our paper cups of puer tea.
Regina edges back whenever I mention relationships. I can tell she’s itching
to talk and I know she’s hiding something.  So finally I ask, ‘Are you seeing anyone?’

‘Yes’ she says, ‘I’m very much in love with someone I’ve known for a very longtime.’ The final cup of tea yields a tentative proclamation: ‘It’s a woman.’
“Well I’ll be‘ I say. ‘ I live with a woman too!’ We’re already FB friends.

New York was the perfect cherry of our global Shakti adventures meeting
succulent women from Germany, Croatia, Sloyania, Wales, China, Iran, Russia,  Tibet across the US and Texas.

When I got home at 1am the electricity was out. I could’ve mulled over the meaning this, but instead I called APS in the morning. Apparently, I was informed, ‘Your power is disconnected due to lack of payment.”

Ah yes. Paying bills. So good to be home for a sec. I’m actually writing this en route to Kauai and Maui for our Quodoushka Intimacy Retreats..

Aloha.

Quehestemeha You Dance In My Heart

In Beauty

Amara Charles

P.s. Still time to register for the November Q2 in Phoenix..

And for men and women we have Quodoushka’s in Phoenix, Texas and a new SHIVA SHAKTI workshop ~ an introduction to Spiritual Sexuality in Santa Fe,NM  January 9-11 2015.

EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE: from a gorgeous Alpha Gentleman

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Dr. Richard Hauser  wrote:

Amara,

Every once in a while,
I need to stop.  Just stop.  And then just stop some more.
I need to sit.  Just sit.  And then just sit some more.
I need to breathe.  Just breathe.  And then just breathe some more.

Every once in a while,
I need to listen.  Just listen.  And then just listen some more.
I need to cry.  Just cry.  And then just cry some more.
I need to connect.  Just connect.  And then just connect some more.

Because I forget.
I forget what life is really about.
I forget that life is really about love.
I forget that I need to accept love as well as give love.

Because I remember.
I remember how much I have to give.
I remember how much I am blessed.
I remember how wonderful I really am.

So today I stopped, and I sat, and I breathed, and I listened, and I cried, and I connected, and I found love, and I found blessings, and I found my wonderful self.

It was a miracle of life day for me today.
And I accept it.

The words you sent to me today inspired this miracle.
So you accept it.

I Love You

Rick

From: Amara Charles
To: Richard Hauser
EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE

I love you too Richard. This is so beautiful. I’m totally inspired. Can I post this on FB and my site?? These are such excellent words from an Alpha Male.
Love Amara

You may post it.  If it helps one other person, I would be honored. Richard

When Everything Changes

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Some journeys change everything.

Words capture so little of the truth about extraordinary events, and to be honest, I hesitate to dilute how I feel from our retreat in a mountain Temple of Wutai Shan,China. Yes, I’m used to coming home stirred and happily out-of-sorts from deep ceremony, but this time, having taken a plunge into the refuge of temples, sacred chants and boundless tea, I feel like a puzzle piece still assembling unknown mysteries..

How do you capture the fragrance and unfurling plume of fine sandalwood incense, or the taste of rare puer tea that causes your heart to float in heavenly realms? How can you remember being locked into the fathomless depth of a teacher’s eyes? Perhaps we do keep memory imprints of such times, and maybe we bury moments of peace and love into the soil of our minds so we can recognize certain vibrations and water these frequencies until they bloom on their own again and again. More …

Where there’s Heart There’s A Way

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Our amazing journey continues!
Feeling fresh and and full from our visit to Hamburg and Croatia (stopping in Istambul for for a massage (we hope!).
Our D Y E N and Feminine Erotic Intelligence Workshops were stellar. The the depth, the food, the land… fantastic. Most of all it’s the people we’re so moved by… such a deep transfer of feelings, wisdom and laughter… Yes, there’s been hesitation and a reluctance to open, at first. More …

FEATURE ARTICLE: What Would An Alpha Male Do?

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What would an alpha male do if you completely ignored the things he does to drive you crazy? What if you started inviting him to do what you least expect?

Rather than saying ‘can you just... or why can’t you just …’  what if you said ‘I dare you to surprise me with what you think I’d most enjoy?’

This all has to do with wanting men in our lives to do things the way we’d like them to… but I’ll come back to this later.

Sometimes we may want to say ‘Stay…just stay.‘ And we may wonder why he can’t. Could it be that I am ambivalent? Or could it be he knows exactly what I want him to do, but he wont?

Here’s what I know about dealing with an alpha male; More …

The Ten Reflections of Love

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This presentation of The Ten Reflections of Love was given by Amara Charles as she helped facilitate an alternative wedding for friends Steve and Karen.

Rarely shared outside the Quodoushka workshop, The Ten Reflections of Love was inspired by Thunderstrikes, pioneer of the amazing Quodoushka Teachings.

The teaching is an uplifting presentation of ten different reflections, ten different ways the people we attract reflect love to us. It explains how certain friends stir (and sometimes provoke) very different qualities in us, and it shows what we might want to look for before choosing a lover…

Watch it to see the ‘wheel’ of friends you have collected in your life and how you can cherish them all for what they reflect to you.

p.s.  wow, thanks to Steve and Karen for filming this!

In beauty, Amara

The Thirty Day Erotic Challenge

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The Thirty Day Erotic Challenge – Online Guide to Enhance Your Erotic Pleasure and Prosperity

I am thrilled to announce the Thirty Day Erotic Challenge is now available for your at home pleasure.

  • This 64 page Illustrated Digital E Manual includes daily instructions, inspirations and stories to supply you with thirty days of fascinating ways to enhance your erotic health and happiness.
  • * Plus you get the bonus S.M.A.R.T. Goals PDF to boost your ability to harness your sexual energy to manifest your dreams.
  • The Original Erotic Intelligence Online Program sells for $49.95 – But I’m giving a special introductory price for the next 30 days…
  • MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: Send me your start and finish date, along with comments of your experience of your Thirty Day Erotic Challenge and I’ll send you a 2oz Bottle of Sylk Natural Personal Lubricant.

What is The Thirty Day Erotic Challenge?
It’s a treasure trove of daily erotic teachings and suggestions to lift your your erotic health and happiness to a whole new level. It’s designed to inspire you for thirty days whether you have a partner or you’re looking for one.
It starts out gently, giving you guidelines on what to pay attention to during each day. It then builds gradually to include more fun and fascinating ways to bring delight and passion into your life. More …

Five Things Women Do in the Presence of an Alpha Male

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As fascinating as the topic of the Instinctive Design of Erotic Attention* was really, it’s the bronco ride of co-creating with an alpha male that lifts my skirt these days.

My recent collaboration inspires me to reflect on the five things women tend to do when we’re with an alpha male. But first, I suppose, we should ask, What are the signs you’ve got an alpha male on your hands?

He’s Unpredictable. Check. Powerfully assertive yet yielding at the right moments. Check. He’s an unabashed, indomitable and at times he’s an unstoppable leader. Yet, as strong as he appears, a superior alpha male bows gracefully to feminine intelligence whenever she shows a face wiser than his own. Double  Check.

The five things we tend to do are run, put him above us, contend, control or cultivate and then ride on the curves of his magic. Any of these options may be correct depending on the man and the time. The approaches you choose will either take you into tangled webs of disappointment or they will intensify the quality of happiness in your intimate relations with men.

Running

Although the option of running may seem weak, if you sense an alpha male is using his seductive charms to get something you do not wish to give, running away could be an act of power.  But how many of us, intrigued by an alpha male’s charm, stay longer than we know is right?

To reflect on the reasons why, consider this: cajoling you into giving something that you actually desire, but are afraid to give can be quite alluring. An alpha male must become good at hunting for the hidden needs of a woman; predators take advantage of them.

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Five Ways To Spot An Alpha Male

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A beta male knows nothing higher than himself; but an alpha male instantly recognizes genius. 

I’ve had more comments from Five Things Women do in the Presence of an Alpha Male than any article I’ve written so far. Maybe having ‘What is an Alpha man?‘ on my mind turned me into some kind of magnet for them because for the last few weeks I’ve been quite dazzled by the alpha men who keep popping up around me.  

Yesterday, at my favorite coffee shop a man who always wants to know what I’m writing asked, ‘What do you think is Alpha?’… I suppose he has to show you, he sort of has to prove he’s better than other guys.’   

‘Yes. Maybe it’s true.’ I said, but as I explained that it’s all in the way he proves himself, he interrupted me with his real question: ‘Am I an Alpha man?’ More …

How Did You Know I Wanted This?

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I believe happiness in our intimate relations can change the world.  Our feminine and masculine essence is absolutely precious; and when we can give this freely, without any expectation of return, it is the most valuable substance on earth.

How we give our most sacred, most special essence is a matter of practicing the skill of what the Buddhists call ‘Exchanging Your Self for Others’.

We tend to think our most intimate expressions happen under the sheets wrapped in the arms of a lover. Yet, the secret to having more of these moments, if this is what you want, is by practicing Benevolent Compassion.

Exchanging Your Self for Others is an active practice of Benevolent Compassion. It’s a matter of learning to observe by watching, asking questions to find out, noticing reactions, and constantly listening for clues about what someone likes. You will begin to see that the most revealing clues about what we really like come out unconsciously. More …

FEATURE ARTICLE: BEHIND THE MASK

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Is wearing a mask really necessary to attract a lover? Can’t we ‘just be our selves?’

A friend recently said, ‘We’ve got to be real and drop the masks if you really want to find a lover.

Yes, some masks hide the truth. Thieves and liars wear masks to cover their real identities. But some masks actually bring out the truth we can’t quite get to.

I’ve seen it for twenty-five years – and anyone who’s been to Quodoushka knows what I’m talking about – something magical happens when the mask goes on in a certain way.

Wearing a mask can give an erotic jolt to our spirit because acting the same way, playing our comfy roles gets dull, even if we like those roles. We all yearn for the chance to wear masks, act differently and be someone else. Can you remember the thrill of dressing up as a super hero when you were young? When we play in masks, we feel invincible. It’s immensely seductive. More …

Let Men Adore You

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What would happen if you let the men in your life utterly adore you? Can you imagine having men eager to provide whatever they can, able to take you into realms of pleasure you have may never known? Can you picture men who are turned on by finding ways to delight your body, mind and soul?

In my experience, when given the chance, these are precisely the things that men are absolutely dying to do for us.

But why do men seldom succeed? Why do they frequently fall short,
leaving things unsaid and undone? And why do they so often seem clueless, asking us what we want?

In my experience, it’s a matter of inspiring men rather than asking for or demanding the things we want. Yes, we can ask, and sometimes even demand that they step up. But what works best is to let our selves be surprised by what they do.

How often (I’m speaking now to women) have you asked a man to do something only to be frustrated that he didn’t listen, or he forgot, or even did the very thing you asked him not to do?

This is the first task: let a man be inspired by your openness.
It’s no secret men love to feel free, and that they often bristle at being told what to do – especially by a woman. So pay attention to how you ask for what you want. Is there a hidden agenda? Are you too attached to the way you expect things to be done?

The way to inspire his best to come pouring out is to relax into your beauty. I’m not referring only to putting on nice clothes or working out (although this may certainly inspire him too), I also mean to guard your speech, your eyes and your heart.

Try to say beautiful things about yourself and others. Notice beautiful things. Focus on creating beauty around you until there are surges of beauty that show up wherever you go.

One of the most important secrets to letting a man adore you is to cultivate the feeling that”I deserve pleasure. And I am worth it”.
For a man cannot cherish you unless you first begin, little by little, to love your self more.

What makes you shine most brightly- this is what men find irresistible-
is a kind of selfless shine. If you express selfishness, jealousy, greed or ignorance, this is precisely what will appear in the men around you.

A selfless shine is a luster that emanates from a woman who is plump with joy; it comes from a woman whose spirit generates happiness, trust and hope. She has a kind of erotic intelligence that supports his dreams and so she does not need to ‘get’ men to do anything…

When a woman nourishes her self, life and others this way she will be surrounded and supported by men who do the same. It’s a profound
pleasure to inspire men’s greatness by being someone worthy to protect, provide and create for.

In beauty
Quehestemehah (You dance in my heart)

(c) Amara Charles 2013
Keeps the Fire

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From a recent Q Graduate

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From a recent Q Graduate: Grace Purusha, Maui Life Coach

I have been deeply touched and affected by my recent experience at Quodoshka.  I had attended the Q 30 years ago. At that time it was the most expansive training I could have imagined. And yet, at this time in my maturity, I feel the messages of this path were even more richly applicable.

The expertise of Amara, and her extraordinary ability to communicate and articulate the teachings of the medicine wheel, and the myriad ways it shows up in our relating and sexuality, were exquisite and inspiring. There was never a dull moment.  I’m an educator myself, and recognize a master when I hear one. It went far beyond information, as she held space and offered guidance to every kind of report, remark, and feedback that arose in this highly charged, open for expansion arena. Amara is highly intelligent, sensitive, done her own work, and sprinkles in her superb sense of humor whenever possible. And she’s adorable too.

Equally valuable to the training

Next Quodoushka Sex and Intimacy Workshop for Singles and Couples:

Phoenix January 30-February 2  

Facilitators: Amara Charles, Mukee Okan and John Kent More …

The Art of Erotic Intelligence You Tube Interview

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The Art of Erotic Intelligence Online Program Special Offer ends today at Midnight!

Thank You Janelle and Alex of Sexy Challenges. A great conversation… You’re fantastic to talk to!

You can order the Art of Erotic Intelligence Online program today. Special offer and bonuses end tonight at midnight.
In beauty
Amara

Letting Men Adore You

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Dedicated to Wiebeke and Stephan and the lovely ladies of Berlin who joined us for Erotic Intelligence!

What would happen if you let the men in your life utterly adore you? Can you imagine having men eager to provide whatever they can, able to take you into realms of pleasure you have may never known? Can you picture men who are turned on by finding ways to delight your body, mind and soul?

In my experience, when given the chance, these are precisely the things that men are absolutely dying to do for us.

But why do men seldom succeed? Why do they frequently fall short, leaving things unsaid and undone? And why do they so often seem clueless, asking us what we want? More …

You Tube bans My Video Poem, Beautiful Breasts

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You Tube pulled my video poem, and suspended my account. (my account has been reinstated)

There is nothing pornographic about this video. It is dedicated intended to educate and empower women. Yes, it astonishes me that showing a man being shoved in front of a train is okay to view, but a beautiful portrayal of women’s breasts on video is fine. (sculptures are okay).

What do you think?

ONLY AVAILABLE HERE:

Beautiful Breasts from Amara Charles on Vimeo.

Beautiful Breasts from Amara Charles on Vimeo.

Amara Charles presents a video poem inspiring women to love their beautiful breasts.

Amara Charles presents a video poem inspiring women to love their beautiful breasts. An inspirational video, this is the introduction to her new release of the Yin Way Breast Exercises for sexual restoration. By practicing this self love, self massage exercise, women can love them selves and love their breasts. The full exercise is available @ www.amaracharles.com

The full YIN WAY BREAST EXERCISE, follow along self massage practice filmed in Kauai, is now available in my shop.

YOU CAN STILL SEE BEAUTIFUL BREASTS.

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Yin Way Breast Exercise. Now available.

Jade Egg for Sexual Restoration

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Why Sexual Restoration is Necessary?

It’s no longer a secret that feeling sexy is an important aspect to vibrant health. Women everywhere are starting to realize that we cannot always wait for the right moment or the perfect partner to get our sexy back.

The good news is that you don’t have to wait; you already have everything you need to begin an integrated body – mind – spirit practice to feel that warm hum of sexy energy flowing through your body. It is a new time for women; a time for open communication, sharing and renewed awareness about how we can stay happier, healthier and younger.

Yin Way Practices

I have been presenting and developing  Yin Way practices over the last twenty years because I have found feminine ways, ways that are both gentle and invigorating that work remarkably well for women’s health.

What makes the Yin Way Practices so unique is not that the methods are so different from yoga, or other forms of Qigong, in fact, they are all easy to do. I have created a system to  to blend the tranquil Yin meditative exercises together with vigorous, active Yang exercises in a balanced way. Most importantly, through the Breast, Vaginal and Ovarian exercises, we include sexual restoration exercises in our regular practice. Plus, of this is done in a way that nourishes women in an empowering, feminine way.

The Yin Way Practices includes methods my partner and I have gathered from various teachers, especially female teachers who embody the essence of feminine power, wisdom and grace. More …

What is it About Breasts?

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Maybe someday, it will be fine to show bare breasts and enjoy in their beauty without being shamed. What it is about breasts that makes us feel so uncomfortable?

Female Breasts that is. Last I checked, every female has them. But we can only do certain things with them, one of them being we must hide them in public. We are allowed to tease, with partial peeks around the edges, but not the tips, or the nipples. Really, nipples must be tucked away from view.

If you’ve ever gone to a place where every one is naked, in about ten minutes, everyone stops looking. So the argument that baring breasts causes too much arousal, (similar to what some Muslims fear) is just not true. In reality, it’s the hiding, the partially revealing that’s far more arousing than letting them just hang out. I noticed our strange customs around breasts when I created this video, Beautiful Breasts, which is banned from You Tube, I guess from showing those nipples. I made it to celebrate the beauty of our breasts. But most importantly I wanted to give women a way to connect lovingly with their own breasts.

Certain breasts are okay, I’ve seen many films showing bare breasted indigenous women. Guess that’s okay, because? But showing western women enjoying their breasts, or for the purpose of healing? Still way too much for you tube. Perhaps demystifying breasts may influence too many women away from surgeries to augment them. Given the fact that so many women are suffering from breast cancer, and almost everyone I know knows several women who have had serious issues with their breasts, isn’t it time to flood our media with empowering images? Could it be that mainstream’s phobia about showing breasts, combined with our obsessive fascination may be contributing to the shame women feel about their bodies?

Discover Your Sexual Anatomy Type

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Sexual Anatomy Types from Amara Charles on Vimeo.

An introduction to discovering your sexual anatomy type from Amara Charles' best selling book, 'The Sexual Teachings of Quodoushka'. Named for the gifts and attributes of different animals, knowing your Sexual Anatomy Types gives you a ways to take pride in your anatomy type and learn about the things your lover likes best.

Breast Manna from Heaven

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It seems you don’t even have to have to touch somebody for sex to be good for you.

In a recent study done by the New England School of Medicine lucky researchers got to conduct a test on the effect of looking at women’s breasts. In the study, a group of men were given a live view of a woman’s breasts for 10 minutes several times a day over the course of 10 months. More …

Yin Way Breast Massage Now Available

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Yin Way Breast Massage Now Available

Announcing a New Release of the Yin Way Breast Exercises. Watch my new Video Poem: Beautiful Breasts Direct Download Video is Now Available @ Amara Charles.com

Announcing a New Release of the Yin Way Breast Exercises. Watch my new Video Poem: Beautiful Breasts Direct Download Video is Now Available @ Amara Charles.com

Amara Charles presents a video poem inspiring women to love their beautiful breasts. An inspirational video, this is the introduction to her new release of the Yin Way Breast Exercises for sexual restoration. By practicing this self love, self massage exercise, women can love them selves and love their breasts. The full exercise is now available in our shop.

(currently banned for nudity)

Introduction Beautiful Breasts

Direct Download of the full Yin Way Breast Exercise is Now Available @ Amara Charles.com

A Natural Language for Sex

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This  is a video poem from my recently released best selling book: ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka’ This clip shows the difference between clinical western approach affects sex, and how the more nature based language of Quodoushka can uplift and inspire more magical sexual experiences.

Amara Charles is author of the Best Selling "The SExual Practices of Quodoushka'

A Lover, a Friend a Teacher

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It is said, the most important thing you can accomplish in life is to find a true teacher. Friends may come and go as do lovers, but the words of your teacher – if they are guiding you well – will resonate in your heart until your last breath.

Finding friends to enjoy life’s journey or
lovers who can travel with you into the intimate realms is one thing; finding a teacher is something entirely different, for a true teacher has only one thing in mind; your enlightenment. More …

Finding A Man With Heart

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It’s easy to get a precious treasure
But hard to find a man with a heart.

from  a Chinese Erotic Love Poem

The heart, the mind, the body. These are not separate things. Thus it is not possible to find a man without heart.But you will find many whose hearts are hidden.

The real ‘job’ of a woman (if we must have jobs) is to inspire men to feel their hearts.

When we resist sharing More …

How To Have More Erotic Fun In Bed

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Would You Like to Invite Eros Into Your Bedroom and Have More Erotic Fun? Have you ever had a particularly erotic evening and said to you your self afterward “Wow, that was amazing – it was like, perfect.” More …

How Chakras Enhance Sex and Intimacy

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What can chakras tell you about your sex life? Well, the truth is you’ll live just fine, and you can have great sex even if you’ve never heard of a chakra. However, when you find out that that low energy, lack of desire and low libido has a lot to do with sluggish chakras, the subject gets a lot more interesting.

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Can Sexual Agreements Expand Monogamy?

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I wrote about Sexual Agreements in response to Pamela Madsen , author of ‘Shameless‘ from her Blog in Psychology Today:

I like the term Expanded Monogamy because these words suggest that you can be committed and faithful to the one you love and still create the freedom to explore safely and with agreed upon boundaries.
The question is, how on earth do we do this? More …

What’s So Sexy About Dirty Talk?

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Even though I don’t really think dirty talk is ‘dirty’ at all, I must admit I like both giving and getting it. I like the prelude, the spoken and unspoken words, the whole courtship of erotic conversation.  It’s fascinating how changing just a few words, and the tone of your voice can turn luke warm ho hum sex into peel me off the moon kind of sex.

Which of these words would melt you to the ground? While the Vanilla lines may work just fine, try the Hot ones once in a while to put some fire to your heart, and maybe a few other places too.*

Are You Vanilla or Hot? More …

Finding Belinda Duffy: An Awesome Web Designer

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The Making of the Amara Charles Website

The Story Behind Our Website

I will not say it was an easy process, nor that I liked every bit of creating this new site, but I will say, I am absolutely thrilled by the possibilities of what this baby can do.

The best part? Finally, women-friendly technology! I get to change my mind a hundred times a day. (I am so happy). YAY wordpress.

Choosing Belinda Duffy

Okay, choosing a web designer is not marriage, but it’s close. Finding the one to hold (or pull) your hand through the daunting downloads of information and decisions has to be done with the right kind of person. More …