Gotta Watch: Quodoushka Testimonials
- A Daring Sexy Way to Celebrate Your Love March 29, 2014
- Hilarious, Sexy Interview with Crickette & Amara Charles March 29, 2014
- A Simple Love Habit that Works March 21, 2014
- Five Things Women Do in the Presence of an Alpha Male March 18, 2014
- A Tantric Pleasure Story March 2, 2014
Sexuality Tips and Inspiration
As fascinating as the topic of the Instinctive Design of Erotic Attention* was really, it’s the bronco ride of co-creating with an alpha male that lifts my skirt these days.
My recent collaboration inspires me to reflect on the five things women tend to do when we’re with an alpha male. But first, I suppose, we should ask, What are the signs you’ve got an alpha male on your hands?
He’s Unpredictable. Check. Powerfully assertive yet yielding at the right moments. Check. He’s an unabashed, indomitable and at times he’s an unstoppable leader. Yet, as strong as he appears, a superior alpha male bows gracefully to feminine intelligence whenever she shows a face wiser than his own. Double Check.
The five things we tend to do are run, put him above us, contend, control or cultivate and then ride on the curves of his magic. Any of these options may be correct depending on the man and the time. The approaches you choose will either take you into tangled webs of disappointment or they will intensify the quality of happiness in your intimate relations with men.
Although the option of running may seem weak, if you sense an alpha male is using his seductive charms to get something you do not wish to give, running away could be an act of power. But how many of us, intrigued by an alpha male’s charm, stay longer than we know is right?
To reflect on the reasons why, consider this: cajoling you into giving something that you actually desire, but are afraid to give can be quite alluring. An alpha male must become good at hunting for the hidden needs of a woman; predators take advantage of them.
There’s something about forbidden fruit. Somehow, it just tastes better than regular fruit.
You know, there’s only one way to get rid of the temptation to eat a banana…
Speaking of which, I am super excited about Steven Barnes coming to town to do some things we’ve never done. I just love playing with brilliant men and we’ve been digging deep into our lives to pull out some luscious treats I can’t wait to share.
Our new I.D.E.A. workshop is about the hunt, lure and flow of seduction. It’s about how we can increase our erotic prowess.
I’d like to tell you more, but I promised I’d wait…
We’re using the January 17 Phoenix Tantra Meet Up to launch it and then test it out the next day with our lucky pleasure victims….Since this is a premier presentation that may never happen again ( I know many of you can’t come to Phoenix) we’re planning to record some of it if we can.
The truth is, I’ve been having such a blast playing with ways to share this erotic material like never before. I do love a good challenge, and Steven certainly is. So let me know if you’d like to be kept in the loop of what’s next, and I’ll be sure to keep you posted.
|Saturday, January 18|
Why not have it all?
Hope you’re having some luscious, fruitful & forbidden erotic ideas… in your heart, your spirit and of yes course, your body too…
The IDEA of increasing your prowess (sexiness in motion) is a matter of learning to become an instinctively healthy, sexy human animal. When your body, mind and heart are all singing the same song, intuitive action becomes the rule of your life.
NEW DATE: MARCH 8. NE Phoenix (Address Provided upon Registration)
PHOENIX TANTRA MEET UP MARCH 7TH
the “Secret Formula”
is a luck magnet. I’m telling you,
when you have clear goals, believe
you can and should do it, are taking
constant action (and of course
noticing your results and making
micro-adjustments, while committing
to constant improvement) and
living every day with an “attitude
of gratitude” you attract allies like
crazy. And most strangely, “luck”
multiplies. Opportunities come to
you with the predictability of American
Express and Visa offers arriving in
the mail if you raise your credit score.
When you don’t need money, people
offer you credit. When you don’t
have a job, you can’t get a job, but
as soon as you have one other
people offer employment. When
you don’t have a relationship you
can’t get one, but as soon as you
have one people mysteriously start
1 Day Workshop with Amara Charles & Steven Barnes
But really, this will not be a mere discussion of concepts to stir your passion… each IDEA is a body experience designed to help you experience the instinctive design of your erotic intelligence.The idea of course is to increase your body intelligence so you can draw on your intuition any time you need it. More …
Inspired by a remarkable letter written from a son to his father after attending a Quodoushka Sexuality Workshop. He attended by himself (with the blessing of his wife, who also attended a Q).
By Amara Charles
Lets say a father makes his son suffer. But the father doesn’t know he’s causing his son to suffer. He does not see how, nor understand why his son is suffering. So the father carries on doing the best he can.
The reality is that the father copes with his pain, but he has not looked into its root causes. He deals with his pain the way he learned to from his dad, and he passes the ball on to his son who then passes it onto his wife and family. Perhaps from a young age the grandfather mistreated the father. Even though the son wants things to change, the habits are deep.
Until somebody gets the game for what it is, the only thing that gets passed (usually veiled in numbness or angry outbursts) is resentment, And thus, the wheel of suffering spins from generation to generation.
Whenever you recognize that the root cause of suffering is always some form of withholding love, you pick up a light arrow of awareness. This moment of awareness, this pause of habit is priceless; it stops the cycle of suffering.
It’s quite liberating to realize, whoa, this is not ‘me’. I’ve just been acting the way I was taught, behaving the way I grew up. The instant you realize this, you sort of catch the habit by the tail. Then there is a gap, a pause, a chance to do something, anything different. What I enjoy about Taj’s letter is the way he seeks to untangle the original kink, and the way he knows the stuff with his Dad is somehow the key to liberating more passion and love with his wife.
So instead of creating a kinked loop of dark resentment covered in bland indifference, a new trajectory of compassion has begun. This is the key to liberating sexual, intimate love and compassion.
Using our defensive childhood coping strategies of withholding love never works. Withholding love only breeds the resentment that perpetuates suffering.
However, I do respect the tenacity of those early twisted- love -patterns we take from and pass on to our loved ones and I know they need constant attention. The glimpses of awareness we gain can be fragile and fleeting.
I especially know how those love kinks may return when we go home to visit families…
So to comb through the tangles and return to the natural flow of love, do this healing practice from Thich Nhat Hanh:
Breathing in, I see myself as a five-year-old child.
Breathing out, I smile to the five-year-old child still alive and present in me.
Breathing in, I see the five-year-old child in me as being fragile, vulnerable, wounded.
Breathing out, I embrace the five-year-old child in me with all my understanding and love.
May the generosity of your spirit lead you to break the chains of the past and may you have the energy to walk boldly on a path with heart.
In Beauty, Amara Charles
Next Quodoushka 1 workshop in January 30-Feb 2 2014. Phoenix
Amara Charles is the Author of Best Selling book.
I just finished a four-day, second-level, sacred
sexuality workshop called Quodoushka. While the first one
focuses on the self, this one focuses on relationship.
There are a lot of teachings
and exercises, some are talk-oriented, most are hands-on.
Agreements and boundaries are an important part of the
experience. I had a truly amazing time: the people in this
group were bright souls, with really good energy; I had
really good energetic exchanges and connections.
I got a lot of really
positive feedback about my presence, that I had a strong
impact on the group, that I “healed hearts, even
without directly interacting,” and that I helped some
folks work through some tough things. I in turn experienced
healing and a lot of clearing of old energy that no longer
served me. I felt much cleaner and brighter
Returning home, I noticed I
was very tender upon seeing Susan and Rumi. I felt bursting
with feeling, without ever being able to name any particular
emotion. I just felt feelings, and it left me weepy at
And then I felt the old
patterns creeping in. It didn’t take long—only a few
hours—before I was shutting down in the same ways as
before. Now, I had been thinking it was because Susan has a
strong masculine side that puts her in competition with me,
and that causes friction. And I had been thinking I was
going to need to be more masculine, to provide the safety of
a “masculine container,” so that she could
“let go” into her femininity. While that may be
true, I think the there’s more to it.
Later that night we were
feeling a little shut down. Lying in bed it was the same old
energy: flat. I was thinking “we should have sex,”
but her energy did not tell me she was open. Then, she said
“I think we should have sex.” Ha! Well….
The interaction was slow and
deliberate. I was really open, energetically, and could
sense a lot more than I ever could before. I noticed that
her heart chakra felt exquisite, just sweet and wonderful.
That surprised me, based on how I had been feeling with her.
Then I got to her third eye.
I was immediately and
strongly repulsed. It was shocking how More …
I’m to say that the Art of Erotic Intelligence course is ready to go…
The idea is to inspire you to use your passion to empower every aspect of your life, a core secret of high-performing artists, inventors, business folk and lovers since the beginning of time: energy is energy, but we don’t always understand how to access it.
But if you can tap into and release it in ONE arena of your life, you have the doorway to opening it in EVERY arena of your life.
To be effective, it had to merge male and female energies, and
no matter how balanced I might be, I was always going
to lean heavily on the “female” side. Fortunately, I didn’t have to go looking for someone to do this with. For twenty years, it has been my honor to be
friends with STEVEN BARNES. He’s not only a NYT best-selling author who has written for television and Hollywood movies, he’s also a 4th Degree Blackbelt and Tai Chi and Yoga instructor. Even more than these accomplishments, what I most respect about Steve is his devotion to his son Jason – which I feel adds tremendous power to his masculine perspective.
We’ve had endless conversations and fascinating debates about
how to harness, express, and teach using our erotic intelligence.
We never agreed totally, (or sometimes at all! ) and it suddenly hit
both of us–that lack of total convergence wasn’t a weakness,
it was actually a strength!
We were both sick of teachers who pretend to be in alignment
on every little aspect of their teaching.
The truth is that human beings never agree totally. Heck,
you don’t totally agree with what you thought YESTERDAY!
So we had a unique opportunity, because while we don’t agree
totally, we DO respect each other’s positions. Steve has mastered several disciplines, and has clamoring, devoted students around the world. He is married to the lovely Tananarive Due, a highly acclaimed award winning author in her own right.
I’ve learned something valuable creating this project with Steve, for or one thing, he knows how to be friends with a woman. We decided to try teaching a workshop together, and a little bit of magic happened…
Quodoushka January Phoenix
*posted with permission, of course
Dear Amara, Mukee, John and Emily,
We are back in the (very) frigid Northland again. It’s 18 degrees F right now and is predicted to be in the below zero range over the weekend.
But we are warm within. We have taken your hot juiciness with us.
You are all so very talented! You are all funny. You are all sexy. You are all brilliant.
Hot, hot, hot and so very kind and wise – Each of you.
Amara – whose perfect understanding of group dynamics and perfectly paced delivery never failed –even when coughing. Your complete acceptance of the Sexual Being before you was a Welcome Home to everyone in the room. Mukee your lusty, sexy humor and goodwill to all and your fabulous freedom and body language took the material home. John (“Ryan Seacrest”) with your brilliant speaking style and connected embodiment of the material (can’t ever stop thinking about that Forest Fire Orgasm demo!) you taught us a depth of knowing that will stay with us for years. Can’t believe you aren’t a veteran of the course! And lovely, dear, Super-Hot Emily who made us all feel OK about being sexy
because you were always the sexiest. We will remember you moving with pure pleasure on the floor, (trying to) grab John’s leg, and of course your fantastically sexy outfits. What a great role model for all of us.
Somehow, you wonderful, sexy people managed to transform us. You carried us from our tight, frightened inner space to expansive places of fluidity, self-acceptance and grace. Thank you!
Thank you for moving us.
When we arrived in Phoenix More …
how you doing ? i just came across your website and was wondering about the herbal dragon horn product. do you have any feedback on that at all ?and are there any reviews to look at? ive searched on the net and only a handful of sites come up saying the same thing
was wondering if you may know about this and if anyone has got back to you telling you what it was like. thank you
Hello Mr. S R, First of all thank you for your patience and persistence! It took me a while to find some testimonials for the Dragon Horn Herbal Formula.
You’ve inspired me to post so that guys can hear from other men about how the male enhancement herbs and oil that I offer work. (if I get enough response from men I will talk about this in even greater detail…Helping to enhance men’s prowess and strength is a favorite topic of mine…
While I’ve had many men say the herbs work for them, I had to hunt a bit find what they’ve written to me…
p.s. If re ordering is any indication of success, I can say I have a number of men who have been reordering for years. (They rotate between the Dragon Horn and Joyful Dragon Horn… )
In beauty, Amara
Ed Asks About Plateaus and Slipping Back in Dragon Exercises
in Curiosities, Questions & Answers,
Hey Amara, So I am nearing the end of the Dragon Horn bottle of pills and have a question or two. First of all I have noticed a slight increase in girth but I’m not so sure about length. I guess I should have taken exact measurements! Anyway, do I continue with the Joyful Dragon? If I stop will I revert back to where I was before I started? Is there a plateau of what I can reach and how do I know that?
I would like to comment on the Dragon King Oil. I can say for certain that I am very pleased with the rejuvenating quality it has brought to my cock. My skin had gotten a little dry and regular creams were just not that effective. The Dragon King oil worked miracles! I look forward to your responses on my questions. Thanks again! Ed
RESPONSE FROM AMARA:
Hi there, Great to hear from you and thank you so much for writing. Noticing an increase in girth is fantastic. For one thing, it is actually what women enjoy most, as it feels fuller. This is not only my opinion, it has been said to me by many women. Increasing length, while I know it is what most men would like, is harder to do. Here is why the girth is experienced more: (a little anatomy lesson for ya!)
A Bit of Education on the Penis
The penis is primarily a mass of erectile tissue comprised of three fibrous cylindrical tubes placed side by side, forming the shaft of the penis. When these fill with blood an erection is produced. The two largest chambers on the right and left sides of the penis shaft are called the corpora cavernosa, and the smaller one, in the center of the penis shaft, is called corpus spongisium. The length and girth of the penis are primarily determined by the corpora cavernosa, the two chambers that intake blood for producing an erection. Through herbs and exercises that stretch and expand these two chambers of the penis, the length and girth can be enlarged. Also determining the length of the penis is the corpus spongisum, which is very elastic and fibrous and runs through the center of the penis shaft from the base (beneath the pubic bone, called the bulb of the corpus spongisum) to the glans penis (the head). Again, the effects of the herbs and the special exercises stretch the corpus spongisum so that the length of the penis is increased. Note: If you have not yet experienced oral sex with the Dragon King Oil, I can personally recommend it (from a woman’s point of view) it tastes great. You cannot apply too much of this oil. It keeps the circulation going, which is the main reason your skin feels smoother, and the general appearance looks and feels better. On the Dragon Horn Herbs for male Enhancement: First, you mentioned you did not see too much difference with the Dragon Horn. Am I remembering that right? Well, how was the Joyful Dragon? I have had many men say they love the Joyful Dragon, and they keep reordering it. The best way to have the full results as I mentioned, is to start with Dragon Horn, then take the Joyful Dragon, and then another month with either the Joyful Dragon Horn, or Dragon Horn, whichever you prefer. Why take Dragon Horn and Joyful Dragon Herbs? So, what I suggest you do is take another round of one of these two herbs and do parts of the exercises from time to time. A little bit daily is actually best. If you want to maintain these gains, try to continue doing a few of the Nine Jade Dragon Exercises for several months. After a while then you will only need to take Joyful Dragon or Dragon Horn occasionally, and do a few of the exercises occasionally, especially during times when you are stressed or have lower sexual energy or seem more tired. Thank you again for letting me know of your experiences. If you would like to write more please do. I am especially interested in hearing how you feel about your cock. Now that you have been doing them for quite a while (and kudos for that ed!). You should also notice some other subtle differences… But since I am not blessed with one of those most amazing and gorgeous members, and can only relay what I have men tell me… I will wait to hear back from you on that . In beauty, Amara Tigress of the Jade Moon Tags: Dragon Horn Herbs, dragon King Oil, Jade Dragon Exercises, Joyful Dragon Chinese Herbs E, Green Dragon from LA writes on Herbs, Oil and Exercises Leave a Comment Amara, thank you so much for your detailed response. I am typing this message at the same time as an Oprah repeat on female sexuality is on the TV. They’re talking about clits and G spots etc. Although their info on the G spot is different than the Quodoushka stuff, the woman doctor said that it’s a third of the way in every woman’s vagina. Anyway, how do I feel about my cock? Well, I’ve always liked my cock, it’s been very very good to me. Lately I was a little bummed due to its appearance but overall I felt good about it. Since I’ve begun your program though, some changes have occurred. Of course the appearance of my cock has greatly improved and I feel very proud about that. The other thing is sort of like when you work out say with weights and you flex your arm like Popeye and you see and feel it a little bigger and with better definition… and you say to yourself, “Yeah, now that’s what I’m talking about!” There’s definitely a greater satisfaction internally and I find myself flirting more as well! That’s it for now, be well my friend.
Dragon Horn for endurance and health
(I recommend this for the first month (a bottle will last a month). Then the Joyful Dragon is more effective).
Dragon Horn Herbs good for endurance and health of semen
Joyful Dragon Herbs- great for length
Dragon King Oil (more info)
Massage Oil for Penis