Reclaiming Feminine Vitality

The Outer Limits of Intimacy

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People who are well nourished and greatly inspired by their relationships live at the outer limits of intimacy. They not only dream of but deeply crave what is beyond easy grasp. They know deep fulfillment comes from extending and stretching the borders of what is already known. If you want the most from your relations you must realize it lives outside your comfort zones.

Deep love exists on the fringes of plain view. It thrives beyond what is already known and being done. A great relationship, and real intimacy requires a new approach. Anytime you don’t know what to do differently, your answer is to hunt for another approach. More …

The Illusions of Alpha Women

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The cool thing about Alpha Women is they have this fierce desire to learn how to do things. And if her independence doesn’t knock you over as she’s walking out the door, just know that she’s probably battling voices that are still saying ‘it doesn’t matter, It’s too late and I don’t have what it takes’. Plus, there are still times when curling up in a little ball and having somebody take care of you sounds really good.

Lately, I’ve seen many fine Alpha Women get into such a funk. They know this is ok from time to time and perhaps even necessary. That it’s life’s way of saying something is off.

If you’ve ever reached a high, and then started slipping, perhaps you know how it goes; you start looking ‘out there’ too much, over focusing on others, and somehow you lose touch with your real needs. Any of these can take you too far away; you feel separate and things collapse.

To get back to the truth, that you’re an important, and yes, vital cell in the grand design of things, you’ve got to turn the mirror around. Like the camera on your phone, you’ve got to peer inside more accurately.

(This is why I do ceremony, and why I am on my way to China to stay in the temple with my teachers.)

Back to our Alpha Women

Have you ever reached a point where you just can’t find that thrill, that zing of what used to motivate you? Where you feel secretly bored doing what you’re certain you love?

If so, congratulations. Puffs of boredom like this come by to let us know something is nearing an end and that something new is around the corner. It means you’ve come to an edge, or a limit of what you have known and now you are ready for more. Somehow, it’s time to change course and it’s time to hunt for new edges.

I have certainly had times when I felt like going to sleep for a hundred years or wanted to wait for some prince charming to wake me from my slumber.

I suspect that when life hits hard or something collapses, the trick is to rest, reflect and listen, but don’t go too far down the rabbit hole. An intelligent woman, an Alpha Women neither ignores the mirror nor indulges by looking too long.

You are hunting for what will work better than what you’ve been doing. If Eventually,  you will realize you were born with this fearless curiosity, this ability to reflect and refine, to consider more carefully what truly matters.

An average woman, or let’s say, a sleeping beauty, stays drowsy too long; she’s lulled by insignificant things and she spreads her emotions over disappointing events like frosting on cake. She keeps her dreams minor by complaining. Describing. Pointing and Avoiding. She’ll do anything rather than make a decisive move. Her battle is with the shadow hiding in her cupboards of comfort. We’ve all had such ‘waiting-until-the-right-time’ friends J

When a woman is in alpha mode she develops a nose for her edges; she learns to feel when boredom starts creeping in, even on the fringes of what she most loves. She learns to hear the inner whispers of ‘I’m not really that interested in this anymore’ as a nudge to complete certain things and to get ready for what’s next.

An Alpha woman does not oversleep on the laurels of what she’s already done. She’s more interested in what she has never known. Whereas a sleeping beauty can afford to wallow in pity (and even secretly likes company in this), an Alpha Woman is drawn to those whose thoughts of beauty generate many empowering possibilities. The interesting part is to select the best for the greatest good.

The thing is, you can’t rush such wisdom, and we do need our beauty rest.

So if you’re in a place where you must dive inward (or you get a sudden jolt) don’t label it depression and don’t call it a flaw. Try to look more deeply into the mirror. Beware of sophisticated blame. Own what’s murky, or lazy about you and do something about it.

I like what Swift Deer used to say when you feel depression tugging on your skirt: Get Busy, Stay Busy and Do something creative for others

In beauty

Amara

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Virtues and Vices of Online Dating

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This series is dedicated to erotically intelligent women and men who are increasing their magnetic presence to attract higher levels of engagement.

Have you ever considered writing an online ad?

It can be a fascinating way to increase your magnetic presence to seek, find and deepen your beloved relationships. I know quite a few switched on seekers who have found some rather amazing people online and I’ve seen what works and what doesn’t.  While online rules of engagement may change the way we meet, the laws of attraction remain. The question is, how can we refine our approach to seeking and finding a beloved, online or otherwise and turn it into a spiritual adventure? More …

Two Faces of Beauty

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But have you ever noticed how right behind what attracts you most comes something that does not? It’s as if beauty has a secret twin that pulls you closer to what you want, and then, once you’re enchanted, shows you the other side. Don’t think of it as beauty = good, ugly = bad; really, because what is unattractive to you helps you look past surface beauty and opens you to being nourished by deep beauty.

It’s not only that you can’t have one without the other, both are perceptions that we react to all the time. Sometimes we avoid beauty, sometimes we melt into it. Sometimes we cringe away from something ugly, sometimes we can’t take our eyes off it. Beauty and the unattractive are inseparable, and the more you see both sides as one,  the less you’ll be baffled or blindsided when the other face appears. More …

Amara Charles Interview with Chatter Box TV ~ Part Two Crickette

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Crickette Gill of ChatterBox TV – she’s irreverent, she’s funny – and she’s a cat woman (very intelligent)  We chat about Erotic Intelligence, jade eggs, what happens in Shakti Queen, vaginal restoration, jade stems, gazing at the dragon and how to give your pussy a PHD… (as if she doesn’t already have a master’s degree…)

I thought our last interview was good ~ this one’s great. Crickette is so funny and so easy to talk with! Her questions turn me on! We had such a blast in my backyard and having tea…I  only wish we had camera rolling afterwards because that’s when the camera man gave his two cents, starting with something like, “well, I haven’t gotten too many complaints…

Yes, I said laughing, still, if you’re really intelligent, you’ll keep asking me questions. (which he did). So I asked if he wanted to hear my shortest poem, The Mark of Intelligence, (which he did).

The Mark of Intelligence

is the way

you open your legs.

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Don’t you think?

Enjoy!

Warrior Women – Day 18

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Warrior Women

DAY 18 of Discovering Your Erotic nature

with Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

Porsche Lynne is a legend in the world of Adult entertainment and known as the girl with the Million Dollar Legs. This woman does not only ooze confidence, Warrior Shakti, kindness, integrity, empowerment, respect, honoring, etc etc she also has the heart of compassion and is one of the greatest women I have ever met. What an inspiration this women is, and let me share with you how she has come to be this…

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About Porche

She started her career as a burlesque performer, gracing the pages of the most men’s magazines like High Society, Chic and Cheri. She then went to on star in over 250 XXX-rated films between the years 1985-2002. During that time she became part of the Adult Hall Of Fame, Legends of Erotica, Free Speech Coalition, X-rated Critics, and the Hustler Hall of Fame. She is an activist for free speech, especially in the area of Adult Entertainment and Sexual Education. She was an Integral part in the making of Free Speech Coalition poster, which recreated the raising of the flag at Iwo Jima. In her time after the camera, she went on to become one of the premiere Domina’s, as well as owning and operating her own dungeon located in Phoenix, AZ where she continues to be an advocate for free speech, sexual exploration ( especially in the area of power exchange), and sexual education.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feature Article: Who Designed Your Vagina?

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Stencil set 2I’ve had some pretty remarkable chats with women lately as I am preparing a new workshop for the Sexual Health Expo in Scottsdale.  There’s been shivers and tears mixed with bouts of passion or rage – so I know the fire trigger is getting flipped. More …

DAY SEVENTEEN The Pussy Knows

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DAY SEVENTEEN The Pussy Knows 

30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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Nature is never in a hurry. So why would the pussy move forward with anything that is not in her highest excitement. I spoke to a dear sister today and she was sharing that she had taken on a new practice. She had decided to only fully engage sexually when she got an ‘ok’ from her womb knowing. This sister is a sheep woman on the medicine wheel of all the 9 female genital anatomy types. Sheep woman is in the place of the south on the wheel, connected to the awareness of the heart, fluidity and water.  One of her traits is that she usually is more wet and desires a heart to heart connection with anyone she engages with. Check out my book for all the 9 female genital anatamy types page 130.

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She had been dating a lovely young man and during an intimate moment had shared with him that her pussy was not ready for his cock to enter her jade gate. She had asked her womb “Are we ready to let this man enter?” and her womb knowing said: “no.” Shortly after this incident the man spoke to her and said he could not continue the relationship. She was experiencing sadness and the feeling of loss. And was expressing this to a sister that had said: “Well, you know he probably broke up with you, because you can never say no to an erect cock.” This was not the case nor the true experience for the sheep woman. She said well I know in my heart to be true that I can only open fully when ALL of me is ready.

 

The point of this story is…

Are we ready to loose it all to be true to ourself? So many times the pussy has opened opened and opened from a place of wanting to please. And in the long run, that is not what the masculine actually desires. A woman is the gate keeper of deeper love. She can guide man to the deepest depths of love. If he is willing to go all the way, then he may be rewarded beyond his wildest imagination. How to find out? Man must be ready to fully die. This death is the hardest death for man. And only when it is the right timing for him, with the right woman that can hold this space of deeper love- then it is possible to merge in union where love meets love. Fear may be very present. And that is welcome here. It is only at the gate of love, where we must face all of our fears. You must be willing to enter… you must be willing to be guided. With patience, presence, and an open heart woman can bring man to the deepest love a man has always longed for. This kind of love and intimacy is what we all truly seek. Even if it is a connection for an evening or a deeper long term bond. Honesty, transparency, communication are all major keys to deeper intimacy and love. Be honest with yourself first and foremost. Nature is never in a hurry. Nature does not know how to rush. When the pussy knows. She knows. It can be very wise and worth listening to this guidance. Even better… explore for yourself. Once we have experienced the real depths of intimacy it can be hard to go back to shallow living. A quicky at the gym with someone we find a connection with can still be amazing-shake-you-to-the-core, don’t get me wrong.  The price we pay is far greater, when we push ourselves, even in the slightest ‘wrong’ direction. As we unfold each petal by petal of our truth and our pussy. It’s when She is ripe and ready the magic happens…

DAY SIXTEEN ORGASM – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY SIXTEEN Orgasm 

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

The body naturally knows which orgasm to naturally move into as a way of balancing the body, mind, spirit and heart. Knowing the body and having an educated pussy ( tupuli) and cock ( tipilli) is of high importance to bring more pleasure and fun into our sacred spiritual sexual practice. As we listen to our body, we become master conduits for creating more peace on the planet. When we allow the body to move in a way that comes from a deeper knowing of what we actually desire and yearn for it appears as though the body is much wiser then our own ‘planning’ can ever really be. When we have a orgasm or two or twenty we actually bring balance to different aspects of our being depending on also what kind of orgasm we experience.

There are many different types of orgasm. Check my book on page 183 in The Sexual practices of Quodoushka chapter 10 –  The nine types of orgasmic expression.

“When we use orgasm well, our orgasm can sustain our health and well being. Yet, it is also true we can loose energy by having low-level orgasms.” page 201

I felt like the bed was rising and falling. We were so connected I could feel him inside as if he were actually touching my heart with his penis. We would stay like this for a while, rest a few minutes and start all over again. I don’t know how long we made love, and I lost count on how many orgasms I had. My belly was still shaking hours later. Leela Age Thirty-one. 

This orgasm is a west earthquake orgasm, it originates inside as a rolling feeling inside the womb. Like the rumbling of an earthquake starting with milder sensations, it builds gradually in strength until it implodes inside with great force. These deeply satisfying orgasms induce swells of gratitude and profound intimacy. Page 196 in The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.

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To discover more about your erotic nature and learn about all the different male and female orgasm types. You can read more about this in my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka and find it in my online shop amaracharles.com

 

Wishing you all more high level orgasms and natural ways of restoring, relaxing and replenishing the body…

Enjoy!

 

DAY FIFTEEN 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY FIFTEEN The Unknown

Can we find pleasure in the unknown? I wonder…

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We schedule life, plan, dream and imagine. And somewhere in the mist of all this we seem to want to hang on for dear life that things need to be a certain way.

When can we approach life in the most delicate discovery?

We have our agreements with ourself first and foremost and then we have agreements with lovers, partners, colleges etc and hopefully by now we all have gotten to a mature place that we can talk about love, sex and intimacy in a way that empowers us. If you are knew to all this check out my book Sexual Agreements.

What happens when we take things for granted, assume and live in fantasy?

What happens when our dear lover decides to change a current agreement?

Life is magical and continuously evolving and changing. One dear friend of mine said:

“When you are on the edge of the unknown, that is a good place to be, cause you are evolving.” – John Kent

Do we enable ourself from learning and growing? Can we embrace the wind of change while it is here – with an open heart? Or do we run a certain pattern of holding back, shutting down and do we choose a less serving attitude and approcah?  When we can mature as autonomous free human beings and take responsibility for everything we have currently chosen to show up in our life, a deeper relaxation can acure and when change presents itself, we can stay more open minded. I believe that everything that comes our way is in our highest good. More …

DAY FOURTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY FOURTEEN Sex

Feeding our own personal sexual hungers can be a huge gateway to deeper joy, relaxation, and pleasure. – For real.

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Not the kind of sexual hunger that is kind of what you desire but the the kind that fully replenishes your soul and meets your deepest longing. More …

DAY THIRTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY THIRTEEN Erotic Poetry

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 My petals are fragile and tender and precious.

They sense the approach of your familiar hand.

They are constantly on the lookout.

Always ready, thrilled to be touched by real love. 

 

 

 

A sample of the poem There are Two Places from the poetry book written by Amara Charles “Aching To Open”

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DAY TWELVE – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY TWELVE Touch

 

A warm, soft body waits for you. You notice a smile and a shiver when you enter the room. It’s closeness that melts through anything, dissolves distractions and grabs you near. Sex is an invitation to experience beauty. Intimacy is the knock on the door and the lounging around after. Conversation, listening, loving whatever makes your lover happy- these are the things I love about intimacy. But intimacy is also rugged: it makes you ignore distance, oceans and time. It pulls you close even when you want to pull back. Intimacy is so sexy because it makes you want to touch those special places.Couple in sun istock

 

 

 

 

 

Keep in mind these three things when touching especially erotic places.

1. Delicacy.

2. Tease.

3. Deep Satisfaction.

Our most erotic places on the body yearn to be wanted. Yet they only open for touch when we tap gently on the door first. With permission, these places love to be surprised and have been known to moan for more. This is when touch goes straight to the soul, for there is nothing better in life than to be touched by someone we love.

For your slow touch pleasure at home, download Amara’s Touch for Two DVD

 

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