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DAY EIGHTEEN Humour

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DAY EIGHTEEN Humour

30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice of 30 | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

Online dating can be a challenge especially when you have a poor internet connection to begin with…

This video of Improv comedy with the crew InsPirates ignites a spark in our heart and brings about lots of laughter. The first part is our favorite. This is all improvised theater made up on the spot! If you have ever tried this you know how challenging it can be to suddenly be spontaneous and make up a bunch of stories. This crew has had some practice. And perhaps they have stumbled and fallen a couple time along the way…

Enjoy this clip with the topic “online dating”.

 

Come See Me at the Sexual Health Expo ` Phoenix April 25

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Is the vagina inconvenient, non-existent or a source of embarrassment? Or is it a place of pleasure and pride?

“Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,” says Monica Lewinsky. It’s time for private shaming to stop as well. In this brave and elegant educational presentation Amara Charles will show and explain the Nine Female Sexual Anatomy Types from her #1 Best Selling book ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.’ Thousands of people have brought pride into their private parts by seeing the variety and uniqueness of the sexual anatomy types.

It’s time to turn the tide of women being ashamed of their genitals, of women trying to get ‘Designer Vagina’s’ and ‘Barbie’s’ because we feel ugly. The way to take pride in our genitals is by asking the right questions and knowing the true cost of shame. You will be amazed at the beauty and purpose of your Sexual Anatomy Type.

Amara is a highly acclaimed sex and intimacy expert and author of #1 Best‐Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka. She has been a guest on VH1, BBC, ABC, and HBO television.  Amara has facilitated spiritual sexuality programs around the world for over twenty-five years. Known for her humorous and often deeply compassionate presentations, her mission is to help men and women realize the transformational healing power of feeling happy in our intimate lives. www.amaracharles.com

Come see me at The Sexual Health Expo April 25th at 3pm.

 

Feature Article: Who Designed Your Vagina?

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Stencil set 2I’ve had some pretty remarkable chats with women lately as I am preparing a new workshop for the Sexual Health Expo in Scottsdale.  There’s been shivers and tears mixed with bouts of passion or rage – so I know the fire trigger is getting flipped.

I’m showing before and after images of Labiaplasty, also known as labia reduction or labia rejuvenation. While researching this I was shocked to discover the quest for the ‘Designer Vaginas’ is well documented by many women willing to post their intimate parts online. Looking through thousands of these pictures, something really interesting happened: I started looking for and then found the entire wheel of sexual anatomy types I teach about in Quodoushka workshops*.

It turns out the majority of women are in their early 20’s or younger, along with many over 50 who want to tidy things up down there. Taken a step further, “The Barbie” procedure amputates the entire labia minora, making a woman’s genital area appear entirely smooth like a plastic doll, and the outer labia seem sealed together like a clam with no messy protrusions. Cosmetic augmentation is 30 billion dollar industry, and for this vulva surgery, women are paying upwards of $6000.

Either I’ll get kicked out of the show for this presentation OR… and this is what I hope and why I am doing this: perhaps just one woman, or one young girl will pause to see that she already has a “Designer Vagina.” Designed by God herself, and that’s a fact.

As I explain this to my hairdresser (who’s been to a Quodoushka workshop) she says, ‘What I got from the Genital Anatomy Types is that I’m OK. It’s just my anatomy, and that we’re all different.’ 

Surrounded by blowers and chatter, about her own augmentation surgery she adds: ‘I just wanted to feel more feminine. But now I don’t FEEL.’

 We both pause for a moment feeling the weight of this truth.

Before listening to my friends I was thinking of being somewhat reserved while talking about this.  After all, I’m launching this talk in Scottsdale, the cosmetic capitol of the world…and local docs may be watching my graphic slides of the Genital Anatomy Types, which by the way are ALL beautiful. (Even the ones who’ve had surgery.)

I think the women I spoke to might revolt if I didn’t go for broke. Thanks ladies, there’s not a chance; not only will I go for it, my aim is to walk my talk with erotic intelligence, and do it right. With beauty.

Here’s What We Don’t Know

The inner and outer lips surrounding the vagina that many consider ‘cosmetic’ are actually filled with a fine network of nerve endings. When we’re aroused, they become engorged with blood and they spread out like wings of a great winged serpent . Our lips guard the doorway to boundless waves of pleasure. They’re designed for our pleasure. Why would we choose to reduce the sensation in one of the most sensitive, erogenous zones of our bodies?

Is it because there’s a place in our psyches that still says, on some hidden collective consciousness that pleasure is shameful, especially genital pleasure?

Yes on the outside, after a woman changes the shape of her vulva, she may join the  collective opinion that says those neatly tucked away, politely folded flaps are way better than those messy, wild, all over the place flapping wings that are gorged with more pleasure than they can hold. (Perhaps such beauty is in the mouth of the beholder.) Who says those neat, hardly visible lips are attractive and that those vaginas with bulges and swirls big enough to delve into are not?

This rubs me the wrong way because until doing this research, I never knew so many women, especially young women are choosing to cut their lips off because they feel ugly. The real cost of shame is the loss of feeling. Surgery reduces feeling.

My hair dresser says, she has’30% to 40%  less feeling. ‘That’s what happened for me. And You can’t get it back.’

I have the pleasure of viewing thousands of vulvas. It’s my job to help women identify their genital anatomy types, and to create a place where they can fall in love with them selves. And I have to say, honest to god, I have never seen an ugly vagina.

Here’s what I have to say to women: Dare to be who you truly are. Your pussy is beautiful just the way it is. Let’s celebrate our diversity. And let’s bring the mystery of who we truly are into our bodies, minds and bedrooms.

* Quodoushka is a spiritual sexuality workshop where we teach about men and women’s sexual anatomy types from the Sweet Medicine Sundance Path of Turtle Island.

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In beauty, Amara Charles

Author of  #1 Best Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka

Now available in Spanish, Czech and English available on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel

 

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Who Designed Your Vagina

April 25 3pm Double Tree Resort

Scottsdale Arizona

 

 

 

 

 

DAY SEVENTEEN The Pussy Knows

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DAY SEVENTEEN The Pussy Knows 

30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice of 30 | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

Nature is never in a hurry. So why would the pussy move forward with anything that is not in her highest excitement. I spoke to a dear sister today and she was sharing that she had taken on a new practice. She had decided to only fully engage sexually when she got an ‘ok’ from her womb knowing. This sister is a sheep woman on the medicine wheel of all the 9 female genital anatomy types. Sheep woman is in the place of the south on the wheel, connected to the awareness of the heart, fluidity and water.  One of her traits is that she usually is more wet and desires a heart to heart connection with anyone she engages with. Check out my book for all the 9 female genital anatamy types page 130.

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She had been dating a lovely young man and during an intimate moment had shared with him that her pussy was not ready for his cock to enter her jade gate. She had asked her womb “Are we ready to let this man enter?” and her womb knowing said: “no.” Shortly after this incident the man spoke to her and said he could not continue the relationship. She was experiencing sadness and the feeling of loss. And was expressing this to a sister that had said: “Well, you know he probably broke up with you, because you can never say no to an erect cock.” This was not the case nor the true experience for the sheep woman. She said well I know in my heart to be true that I can only open fully when ALL of me is ready.

 

The point of this story is…

Are we ready to loose it all to be true to ourself? So many times the pussy has opened opened and opened from a place of wanting to please. And in the long run, that is not what the masculine actually desires. A woman is the gate keeper of deeper love. She can guide man to the deepest depths of love. If he is willing to go all the way, then he may be rewarded beyond his wildest imagination. How to find out? Man must be ready to fully die. This death is the hardest death for man. And only when it is the right timing for him, with the right woman that can hold this space of deeper love- then it is possible to merge in union where love meets love. Fear may be very present. And that is welcome here. It is only at the gate of love, where we must face all of our fears. You must be willing to enter… you must be willing to be guided. With patience, presence, and an open heart woman can bring man to the deepest love a man has always longed for. This kind of love and intimacy is what we all truly seek. Even if it is a connection for an evening or a deeper long term bond. Honesty, transparency, communication are all major keys to deeper intimacy and love. Be honest with yourself first and foremost. Nature is never in a hurry. Nature does not know how to rush. When the pussy knows. She knows. It can be very wise and worth listening to this guidance. Even better… explore for yourself. Once we have experienced the real depths of intimacy it can be hard to go back to shallow living. A quicky at the gym with someone we find a connection with can still be amazing-shake-you-to-the-core, don’t get me wrong.  The price we pay is far greater, when we push ourselves, even in the slightest ‘wrong’ direction. As we unfold each petal by petal of our truth and our pussy. It’s when She is ripe and ready the magic happens…

DAY SIXTEEN ORGASM – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY SIXTEEN Orgasm 

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

The body naturally knows which orgasm to naturally move into as a way of balancing the body, mind, spirit and heart. Knowing the body and having an educated pussy ( tupuli) and cock ( tipilli) is of high importance to bring more pleasure and fun into our sacred spiritual sexual practice. As we listen to our body, we become master conduits for creating more peace on the planet. When we allow the body to move in a way that comes from a deeper knowing of what we actually desire and yearn for it appears as though the body is much wiser then our own ‘planning’ can ever really be. When we have a orgasm or two or twenty we actually bring balance to different aspects of our being depending on also what kind of orgasm we experience.

There are many different types of orgasm. Check my book on page 183 in The Sexual practices of Quodoushka chapter 10 –  The nine types of orgasmic expression.

“When we use orgasm well, our orgasm can sustain our health and well being. Yet, it is also true we can loose energy by having low-level orgasms.” page 201

I felt like the bed was rising and falling. We were so connected I could feel him inside as if he were actually touching my heart with his penis. We would stay like this for a while, rest a few minutes and start all over again. I don’t know how long we made love, and I lost count on how many orgasms I had. My belly was still shaking hours later. Leela Age Thirty-one. 

This orgasm is a west earthquake orgasm, it originates inside as a rolling feeling inside the womb. Like the rumbling of an earthquake starting with milder sensations, it builds gradually in strength until it implodes inside with great force. These deeply satisfying orgasms induce swells of gratitude and profound intimacy. Page 196 in The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.

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To discover more about your erotic nature and learn about all the different male and female orgasm types. You can read more about this in my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka and find it in my online shop amaracharles.com

 

Wishing you all more high level orgasms and natural ways of restoring, relaxing and replenishing the body…

Enjoy!

 

Who Designed Your Vagina? ~ Come See Me at The Sexual Health Expo

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Is the vagina inconvenient, non-existent or a source of embarrassment? Or is it a place of pleasure and pride?

“Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,” says Monica Lewinsky. It’s time for private shaming to stop as well. In this brave and elegant educational presentation Amara Charles will show and explain the Nine Female Sexual Anatomy Types from her #1 Best Selling book ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.’ Thousands of people have brought pride into their private parts by seeing the variety and uniqueness of the sexual anatomy types.

It’s time to turn the tide of women being ashamed of their genitals, of women trying to get ‘Designer Vagina’s’ and ‘Barbie’s’ because we feel ugly. The way to take pride in our genitals is by asking the right questions and knowing the true cost of shame. You will be amazed at the beauty and purpose of your Sexual Anatomy Type.

Amara is a highly acclaimed sex and intimacy expert and author of #1 Best‐Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka. She has been a guest on VH1, BBC, ABC, and HBO television.  Amara has facilitated spiritual sexuality programs around the world for over twenty-five years. Known for her humorous and often deeply compassionate presentations, her mission is to help men and women realize the transformational healing power of feeling happy in our intimate lives. www.amaracharles.com

ComeSeeMeCome see me at The Sexual Health Expo April 25th at 3pm.

 

 

 

 

DAY FIFTEEN 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY FIFTEEN The Unknown

Can we find pleasure in the unknown? I wonder…

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We schedule life, plan, dream and imagine. And somewhere in the mist of all this we seem to want to hang on for dear life that things need to be a certain way.

When can we approach life in the most delicate discovery?

We have our agreements with ourself first and foremost and then we have agreements with lovers, partners, colleges etc and hopefully by now we all have gotten to a mature place that we can talk about love, sex and intimacy in a way that empowers us. If you are knew to all this check out my book Sexual Agreements.

What happens when we take things for granted, assume and live in fantasy?

What happens when our dear lover decides to change a current agreement?

Life is magical and continuously evolving and changing. One dear friend of mine said:

“When you are on the edge of the unknown, that is a good place to be, cause you are evolving.” – John Kent

Do we enable ourself from learning and growing? Can we embrace the wind of change while it is here – with an open heart? Or do we run a certain pattern of holding back, shutting down and do we choose a less serving attitude and approcah?  When we can mature as autonomous free human beings and take responsibility for everything we have currently chosen to show up in our life, a deeper relaxation can acure and when change presents itself, we can stay more open minded. I believe that everything that comes our way is in our highest good.

Now…how do we get to that place and how can we navigate life from a state of pleasure within the unknown? Having perspective is a great way to begin. When we can’t figure something out and things in life aren’t presenting them the way we want them to be, forcing, pushing and rushing is not the way nature naturally encourages anything. When we are in our naturalness, relaxed, connected and loving. Life can then unfold in it’s  natural way of beauty.

 

 

 

DAY FOURTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY FOURTEEN Sex

Feeding our own personal sexual hungers can be a huge gateway to deeper joy, relaxation, and pleasure. – For real.

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Not the kind of sexual hunger that is kind of what you desire but the the kind that fully replenishes your soul and meets your deepest longing.

How do we know that we are feeding our own personal sexual hungers? In my personal experience approaching life, love, intimacy, relations comes from a deep self love and fully embracing our life force energy. I would like to inspire each and everyone of you to really be real with your self first and foremost. Connect with what you desire. Explore with yourself. Feeding your life force energy could be having a bath, going for a hike or having a really deep intimate conversation.

LIFE can be a TURN ON several moments throughout our day. Quodoushka is life force energy and is not something that comes and goes. It is here all the time.

Having our desire met can only come from knowing ourself and getting to know ourself. Sometimes we can go years and not know what we what. So how can we begin to move the energy and find out what it is that we really desire? If we are stuck in pattern and nothing is happening and no actions are taken, then slowly we may feel uninspired and sexually unsatisfied. Sometimes moving into an adventure is better then putting the lid on the curious place inside. It is a delicate subject, of this I am aware and there are fine lines to be aware of. What works for you, only you can know.

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How about approaching life from an adventurous and explorative place…When we can open our heart with curiosity to find out what we desire we begin to move the energy and the curiosity is now building a relationship with knowledge and experience. Communication could be an excellent is key here. Perhaps you have an intimate partner and would like to try something new and different? Or perhaps you could invite one into your life today? Express your longing and ask them to support you as you embrace your life force energy. Follow the pleasure in your life and your highest excitement. In my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka I share about spiritual sexuality and how incredible fulfilling it is when we approach sex from the nagual tradition.  This upcoming May we will have a Quodoushka 1 workshop in Phoenix for all of you ready to begin embracing your own life force energy in such a sacred beautiful way. We would so love to have you join us. Read about the Male and Female genital anatomy types in my book and get to know your own… and get to know your lovers anatomy type. Not only does it serve us in becoming even better lovers, it also opens new doors of understanding for our unique differences and the beauty we bring into the world.

 

 

DAY THIRTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY THIRTEEN Erotic Poetry

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 My petals are fragile and tender and precious.

They sense the approach of your familiar hand.

They are constantly on the lookout.

Always ready, thrilled to be touched by real love. 

 

 

 

A sample of the poem There are Two Places from the poetry book written by Amara Charles “Aching To Open”

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DAY TWELVE – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY TWELVE Touch

 

A warm, soft body waits for you. You notice a smile and a shiver when you enter the room. It’s closeness that melts through anything, dissolves distractions and grabs you near. Sex is an invitation to experience beauty. Intimacy is the knock on the door and the lounging around after. Conversation, listening, loving whatever makes your lover happy- these are the things I love about intimacy. But intimacy is also rugged: it makes you ignore distance, oceans and time. It pulls you close even when you want to pull back. Intimacy is so sexy because it makes you want to touch those special places.Couple in sun istock

 

 

 

 

 

Keep in mind these three things when touching especially erotic places.

1. Delicacy.

2. Tease.

3. Deep Satisfaction.

Our most erotic places on the body yearn to be wanted. Yet they only open for touch when we tap gently on the door first. With permission, these places love to be surprised and have been known to moan for more. This is when touch goes straight to the soul, for there is nothing better in life than to be touched by someone we love.

For your slow touch pleasure at home, download Amara’s Touch for Two DVD

 

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DAY ELEVEN – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY ELEVEN Erotic Moments 

images-1As we dive deep into DAY ELEVEN and it’s our first day of Spice all I can think about is Self Pleasure. When was the last time you had an erotic moment with yourself? How was that for you? How do you touch yourself when no one is watching? Can you fully let yourself explore your body as though it is like touching yourself for the first time…

Take a feather… and lightly stroke your cheek. Stop everything for a moment, caress your arm ever so lightly with only your fingertips… move across your bodily canvas… as though are an artist painting riddles of love. Appreciate the texture of your skin. Just as it is. Let the inner critic rest for a moment. You are alive. Your exisitence is a blessing. Stoke, love…caress your entire being as though shiva/shakti is being completely devoured and worshipped.

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Wishing you all a very pleasurable experience as you explore an erotic moment.  Share your exploration if you so desire. We receive you with an open heart.

In beauty, Amara Charles and The Shakti Team.

DAY TEN – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY TEN Tea

 

It is in moments like these where tea becomes so much more then just a beverage of delight. Tea is poured and prepared with such presence and intention. A single cup…with puerh is like a liquid prayer. Unknown-6 Daily rituals can be like an on going ceremony of gratitude… Shyena Venice always says: Tea restores the spirit, calms the mind, elicits conversation. “It feels nourishing and an honor to have good tea. I feel blessed.” Shyena shares Tea has become a center piece of our home over the years. A place for gathering, nourishment, calming of the mind,  a place for conversation. While having tea, it’s as though I can sense the moment of harvest of the specific tea leaf and blossom. Some grow in meadows, mountains… and while drinking tea and preparing I think of the people that harvested the leaves, how it was picked, during which part of the month etc. I give my thanks to the entire process and it feels like such a blessing to have this ancient ceremony oooz through my life. A tea experience definitely has a multitude of layers to it. Why I share this…? Well, I would like to think even though we enjoy tea or not, that what ever we replenish our bodies with that it is done in the utmost care, presence and nourishment.

I Know The Way You Can Get – Poem by Hafiz
 

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DAY NINE – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY NINE Honesty VS Lying

Keeping quiet because you think saying anything might rock the boat is a recipe for disaster. I believe that unexpressed sexual disappointments are the reason passion gets blurry. Hiding your sexual desires leads to feeling like you have to lie. So go ahead and risk the taboo of being sexually honest, try new things and shake the boat. Yes it might be rocky at first, but the intimate passion that can come later is totally worth it. 

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This is the beginning of a rather intimate subject…. 

When we can be honest with ourselves first and foremost, with source of creation it is much easier to be honest with each other and all of our relations. Honesty is gateway to deeper intimacy and a rockin’ sex life. Honesty is sexy and honesty can be an incredible turn on. We didn’t really come here to mess around now did we? So be BOLD today, and be honest with your SELF and your true experience in this moment.

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DAY EIGHT – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY EIGHT Spiritual Determination

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What really ignites your fire?

Are you listening to your inner calling?

How can you create what you really desire in your life?

Life is just a decision. What sets you on fire and pulls you close IS part of your Spiritual Determination.

When the wave comes, RIDE IT. Bring it into total and absolute completion.

Take Action in this moment and write 3 action steps that you will take to move forward in manifesting a desire/dream/hearts prayer of yours. We would LOVE to hear them and will receive you with an open heart. Thank you for sharing.

With Eternal Love, Amara and The Shakti Team.

Amara & Shyena Napali Coast

DAY SEVEN – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY SEVEN Sisterhood

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The love between women is changing the world.

Take a moment to thank you mother today. For the life she has given you…Take a moment to call a sister, a neighbor, a colleague and say your gratitudes to Her for what She contributes in this world. We all have a certain “medicine” a certain kind of glow and service that we offer into this world by being in our naturalness.  When we try to be something we are not, then we loose that connection with our natural way, our own personal Shakti essence.

Be who you are, and when is a sister is who She is, appreciate and applaud Her for BE-ing the face of Shakti. We are all so different. Women are the many different spices of Her. Honor each other. Honor your sisters, and begin with yourself.

We have three Shakti Queen events FOR ALL YOU WOMEN coming this year…

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