HEALTH and HEALING

Chasing Your Shadow

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sherrys shadowDedicated To my Friend, Sherry Folb who helped me birth my first book, Sexual Agreements.

May you rest. And continue your journey in peace.

 

Me and My Shadow Drawing by Sherry Folb

 Let’s imagine someone has a growling shadow lurking within, which when poked, likes to start aggressive arguments and behavior. This person will project their shadow through quarrels and disruptive actions, and if it the shadow gets its way, he or she will find some clever way out – either by leaving or finding the perfect distraction – anything to avoid a good look within.

Catching shadows is not easy. Ther’re tricky and fast. They take on disguises and like to blend in with other shadows. Your shadow always seems to spring out when you’d least like it to. Let’s imagine it’s lying there like a coiled snake in waiting and that it’s presenting you with several enticing options. Let’s say a wildly attractive person appears. The kind where your blood streams hot and all systems say ‘go!’

You take the leap; you open your body so fast there’s no time to think. In fact, thinking seems unbearably slow. There’s no time to think where this attraction might go, and all future projections look totally rosy and bright. Your limbs pulse with fresh blood, laughing comes out like it hasn’t in a long time and your heart keeps pounding ‘yes’. Your thighs soften into a warm gel that oozes up to your eyes. Somewhere, your mind floats above it all until there’s nothing to do but fall into this love. Wow. It’s great to feel this way.

The last thing you want to or can do is analyze the situation. In fact, that reasonable part of your brain is so flooded in feel-good hormones that when the shadow swoops in, you miss it.

Truthfully though, I wouldn’t want to have lived without feeling this. My resounding attractions have pulled me to do great things, to soar past doubts and limitations and they have lent me the energy to recharge my spirit. My greatest attractions helped me change the course of my life several times.

When the Shadow Enters

Perhaps these blissful blurs are somehow necessary, for they tug you this way and then push you that way and take you to places you’d never go. It is said love is blind, deaf and mute. So when something seems off, like a lie, or a disrespectful act or any kind of disturbance, you brush it away and say it’s small. The fantasy you project onto this great person is far more compelling and the illusion lulls you into sweet sleep. But you feel so alive! So wanted. So admired. So needed.  It’s the elixir of desire we often label love.

Yet, while that swept away feeling is mighty fine, it’s only our wisdom that sees through the blinds of desire. It’s no good trying to stomp out desire, because if you try to squelch it, avoid it, or reason your way out, it will find you anyway. And hoping for, longing or ignoring the feeling  doesn’t work either.

So what is the difference between being swallowed by your shadow and being transported into heavenly bliss? For one thing, illusions keep you suspended; they separate you and inflate feelings of being better than others. Shadows and shadowy people tend to hide things, and behind things.

You have to be quick and bright to catch your shadow, yet sometimes, the brighter we are, the faster the shadow. Casting the light of understanding into the shadow disperses darkness. It starts by observing those things that are off. You find shadows by looking  into the allure of their promises and asking, what tempted you? What felt so good you closed your eyes for too long? This is the trap door, for it’s the things we badly want that lets the shadow slip in.

 

In beauty

Amara Charles

Deserving Bliss: Quodoushka 3

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Why do we want this Quodoushka Three to happen in July? Because the exquisite love that will arise in the souls of all who are present will bestow countless blessings, not only for the couples who share these profound practices; the ripple of benevolence will shower over the land, touching the hearts of many who are in need of such hope and beauty.

The Quodoushka Three is a ceremony of tender love that cannot be contained by the body alone. It’s a journey to discover the kind of selfless love that is really a service of manifestation stirred by passion moving through and beyond the body. It’s a kind of ‘magic’ that teaches us to express our love so we can share these blessings.

It’s for those who are called to reach deeply into their hearts to find the boundless energy to give generously for the benefit others.

Does this seem to grand an ideal for you?

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The Ecstasy You Deserve

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Why do we want this Quodoushka Three to happen in July? Because the exquisite love that will arise in the souls of all who are present will bestow countless blessings, not only for the couples who share these profound practices; the ripple of benevolence will shower over the land, touching the hearts of many who are in need of such hope and beauty.

The Quodoushka Three is a ceremony of tender love that cannot be contained by the body alone. It’s a journey to discover the kind of selfless love that is really a service of manifestation stirred by passion moving through and beyond the body. It’s a kind of ‘magic’ that teaches us to express our love so we can share these blessings.

It’s for those who are called to reach deeply into their hearts to find the boundless energy to give generously for the benefit others.

Does this seem to grand an ideal for you?

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DAY SIXTEEN ORGASM – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY SIXTEEN Orgasm 

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30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

Ten Days of Spice | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

The body naturally knows which orgasm to naturally move into as a way of balancing the body, mind, spirit and heart. Knowing the body and having an educated pussy ( tupuli) and cock ( tipilli) is of high importance to bring more pleasure and fun into our sacred spiritual sexual practice. As we listen to our body, we become master conduits for creating more peace on the planet. When we allow the body to move in a way that comes from a deeper knowing of what we actually desire and yearn for it appears as though the body is much wiser then our own ‘planning’ can ever really be. When we have a orgasm or two or twenty we actually bring balance to different aspects of our being depending on also what kind of orgasm we experience.

There are many different types of orgasm. Check my book on page 183 in The Sexual practices of Quodoushka chapter 10 –  The nine types of orgasmic expression.

“When we use orgasm well, our orgasm can sustain our health and well being. Yet, it is also true we can loose energy by having low-level orgasms.” page 201

I felt like the bed was rising and falling. We were so connected I could feel him inside as if he were actually touching my heart with his penis. We would stay like this for a while, rest a few minutes and start all over again. I don’t know how long we made love, and I lost count on how many orgasms I had. My belly was still shaking hours later. Leela Age Thirty-one. 

This orgasm is a west earthquake orgasm, it originates inside as a rolling feeling inside the womb. Like the rumbling of an earthquake starting with milder sensations, it builds gradually in strength until it implodes inside with great force. These deeply satisfying orgasms induce swells of gratitude and profound intimacy. Page 196 in The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.

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To discover more about your erotic nature and learn about all the different male and female orgasm types. You can read more about this in my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka and find it in my online shop amaracharles.com

 

Wishing you all more high level orgasms and natural ways of restoring, relaxing and replenishing the body…

Enjoy!

 

DAY FIFTEEN 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY FIFTEEN The Unknown

Can we find pleasure in the unknown? I wonder…

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We schedule life, plan, dream and imagine. And somewhere in the mist of all this we seem to want to hang on for dear life that things need to be a certain way.

When can we approach life in the most delicate discovery?

We have our agreements with ourself first and foremost and then we have agreements with lovers, partners, colleges etc and hopefully by now we all have gotten to a mature place that we can talk about love, sex and intimacy in a way that empowers us. If you are knew to all this check out my book Sexual Agreements.

What happens when we take things for granted, assume and live in fantasy?

What happens when our dear lover decides to change a current agreement?

Life is magical and continuously evolving and changing. One dear friend of mine said:

“When you are on the edge of the unknown, that is a good place to be, cause you are evolving.” – John Kent

Do we enable ourself from learning and growing? Can we embrace the wind of change while it is here – with an open heart? Or do we run a certain pattern of holding back, shutting down and do we choose a less serving attitude and approcah?  When we can mature as autonomous free human beings and take responsibility for everything we have currently chosen to show up in our life, a deeper relaxation can acure and when change presents itself, we can stay more open minded. I believe that everything that comes our way is in our highest good.

Now…how do we get to that place and how can we navigate life from a state of pleasure within the unknown? Having perspective is a great way to begin. When we can’t figure something out and things in life aren’t presenting them the way we want them to be, forcing, pushing and rushing is not the way nature naturally encourages anything. When we are in our naturalness, relaxed, connected and loving. Life can then unfold in it’s  natural way of beauty.

 

 

 

DAY FOURTEEN – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY FOURTEEN Sex

Feeding our own personal sexual hungers can be a huge gateway to deeper joy, relaxation, and pleasure. – For real.

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Not the kind of sexual hunger that is kind of what you desire but the the kind that fully replenishes your soul and meets your deepest longing.

How do we know that we are feeding our own personal sexual hungers? In my personal experience approaching life, love, intimacy, relations comes from a deep self love and fully embracing our life force energy. I would like to inspire each and everyone of you to really be real with your self first and foremost. Connect with what you desire. Explore with yourself. Feeding your life force energy could be having a bath, going for a hike or having a really deep intimate conversation.

LIFE can be a TURN ON several moments throughout our day. Quodoushka is life force energy and is not something that comes and goes. It is here all the time.

Having our desire met can only come from knowing ourself and getting to know ourself. Sometimes we can go years and not know what we what. So how can we begin to move the energy and find out what it is that we really desire? If we are stuck in pattern and nothing is happening and no actions are taken, then slowly we may feel uninspired and sexually unsatisfied. Sometimes moving into an adventure is better then putting the lid on the curious place inside. It is a delicate subject, of this I am aware and there are fine lines to be aware of. What works for you, only you can know.

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How about approaching life from an adventurous and explorative place…When we can open our heart with curiosity to find out what we desire we begin to move the energy and the curiosity is now building a relationship with knowledge and experience. Communication could be an excellent is key here. Perhaps you have an intimate partner and would like to try something new and different? Or perhaps you could invite one into your life today? Express your longing and ask them to support you as you embrace your life force energy. Follow the pleasure in your life and your highest excitement. In my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka I share about spiritual sexuality and how incredible fulfilling it is when we approach sex from the nagual tradition.  This upcoming May we will have a Quodoushka 1 workshop in Phoenix for all of you ready to begin embracing your own life force energy in such a sacred beautiful way. We would so love to have you join us. Read about the Male and Female genital anatomy types in my book and get to know your own… and get to know your lovers anatomy type. Not only does it serve us in becoming even better lovers, it also opens new doors of understanding for our unique differences and the beauty we bring into the world.

 

 

DAY TEN – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY TEN Tea

 

It is in moments like these where tea becomes so much more then just a beverage of delight. Tea is poured and prepared with such presence and intention. A single cup…with puerh is like a liquid prayer. Unknown-6 Daily rituals can be like an on going ceremony of gratitude… Shyena Venice always says: Tea restores the spirit, calms the mind, elicits conversation. “It feels nourishing and an honor to have good tea. I feel blessed.” Shyena shares Tea has become a center piece of our home over the years. A place for gathering, nourishment, calming of the mind,  a place for conversation. While having tea, it’s as though I can sense the moment of harvest of the specific tea leaf and blossom. Some grow in meadows, mountains… and while drinking tea and preparing I think of the people that harvested the leaves, how it was picked, during which part of the month etc. I give my thanks to the entire process and it feels like such a blessing to have this ancient ceremony oooz through my life. A tea experience definitely has a multitude of layers to it. Why I share this…? Well, I would like to think even though we enjoy tea or not, that what ever we replenish our bodies with that it is done in the utmost care, presence and nourishment.

I Know The Way You Can Get – Poem by Hafiz
 

I know the way you can get

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DAY NINE – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY NINE Honesty VS Lying

Keeping quiet because you think saying anything might rock the boat is a recipe for disaster. I believe that unexpressed sexual disappointments are the reason passion gets blurry. Hiding your sexual desires leads to feeling like you have to lie. So go ahead and risk the taboo of being sexually honest, try new things and shake the boat. Yes it might be rocky at first, but the intimate passion that can come later is totally worth it. 

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This is the beginning of a rather intimate subject…. 

When we can be honest with ourselves first and foremost, with source of creation it is much easier to be honest with each other and all of our relations. Honesty is gateway to deeper intimacy and a rockin’ sex life. Honesty is sexy and honesty can be an incredible turn on. We didn’t really come here to mess around now did we? So be BOLD today, and be honest with your SELF and your true experience in this moment.

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DAY EIGHT – 30 Day Inspiration ~ Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY EIGHT Spiritual Determination

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What really ignites your fire?

Are you listening to your inner calling?

How can you create what you really desire in your life?

Life is just a decision. What sets you on fire and pulls you close IS part of your Spiritual Determination.

When the wave comes, RIDE IT. Bring it into total and absolute completion.

Take Action in this moment and write 3 action steps that you will take to move forward in manifesting a desire/dream/hearts prayer of yours. We would LOVE to hear them and will receive you with an open heart. Thank you for sharing.

With Eternal Love, Amara and The Shakti Team.

Amara & Shyena Napali Coast

DAY SEVEN – 30 Day Inspiration – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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DAY SEVEN Sisterhood

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The love between women is changing the world.

Take a moment to thank you mother today. For the life she has given you…Take a moment to call a sister, a neighbor, a colleague and say your gratitudes to Her for what She contributes in this world. We all have a certain “medicine” a certain kind of glow and service that we offer into this world by being in our naturalness.  When we try to be something we are not, then we loose that connection with our natural way, our own personal Shakti essence.

Be who you are, and when is a sister is who She is, appreciate and applaud Her for BE-ing the face of Shakti. We are all so different. Women are the many different spices of Her. Honor each other. Honor your sisters, and begin with yourself.

We have three Shakti Queen events FOR ALL YOU WOMEN coming this year…

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DAY FOUR – 30 Day Inspiration For Women – Discover Your Erotic Nature

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Ten Days Of Gentleness | With Amara Charles and The Shakti Team

~ DAY FOUR She is Shakti.

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she is untamed
she is unleashed
she is uninhibited
she is unknown
she is shakti

Discover a softer and more loving way to nourish your Shakti – the female principle of divine energy.

Sisters, Connect to your roaring natural spirit.
You are welcome here. Just the way you are.
Shakti flows freely. She knows. She knows…

For more Shakti in your veins join us for women’s Shakti Queen Retreats
http://www.amaracharles.com/…/about-shakti-queen-womens-re…/

Deep bow to the gorgeous model Carolina for this photo of Her Sublime Shakti Essence.

Amara Recommends Myers Coctail with Dr. Robyn Benson

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Sex and Intimacy joins the Self Care Revolution

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Listen to my Self Care Revolution with Dr Robyn Benson of Santa Fe Soul

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Is sex and intimacy an integral part of intimate health? Of course it is! So why is it so often excluded in mainstream health conferences and why is the topic reserved to backroom conversations (where what’s really going on) is discussed by everyone?

That’s why I celebrate Dr. Robyn Benson’s bold invitation to include the topic of sex and intimate health to Doctors and healers at the Health Clinic Santa Fe Soul in New Mexico.

Help spread the word about how the wise use of sexuality can benefit all sentient beings. Be a part of the Self Care Revolution and take care of your intimate health.

A talk with Dr. Robyn Benson after our ‘off the charts fabulous’ Shiva Shakti Workshop in Santa fe. We introduced Shamanic ceremony to heal wounds of the past to make space for more intimacy and pleasure in our relationships. And we shared sexual restoration practices to boost libido and increase sexual energy.
Everyone loved it! We’re invited back to present Quodoushka in Santa Fe next year for the first time… woo hoo.

I totally resonate with Robyn’s message about taking responsibility for our health by becoming more aware and wise.I believe intimate happiness can change the world. As our relationships heal, so does the world.

 

In beauty
Amara

When Gratitude Gets Wet

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I know when you’re in a tidal wave of love, when things are flowing sweet, when Eros is all around, being grateful is like breathing. But what about after you’ve made a major mistake?Is it possible to get to gratitude when it feels like your ship is sailing in the wrong direction, when happiness fades and fine platitudes are the last things you want to hear? We’ve all had times where all we want to do is dig into a pit of sorrow, where, even if we know wallowing wont work, we do it anyway. This is when getting to gratitude really counts. But how can we feel grateful when everything seems closed, and hopeless and dark?

Here’s four big reasons why gratitude beats regret and resentment, every time.

Gratitude Feels Better

Of course we’d rather be tingling with gratitude every minute of the day, but the truth is, sometimes we choose to mope with pain, stew in our resentment or just lounge around trying not to think too much. Usually while we’re licking or barking about our wounds what we really need is attention; we want somebody to know we’re hurting. The trouble is, while it keeps us busy, it also keeps us in the pit longer. Gratitude is a way out.

Gratitude Takes Less Effort

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FAQ: Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshop – Amara Charles

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These are some of the common Questions people ask about Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshops.

Can I come to a Quodoushka Workshop without a partner?
Yes! You may attend Quodoushka I and II as a single or attend with a partner.
For Quodoushka Three, you must attend with a partner.

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