Gotta Watch: Quodoushka Testimonials
- Sex and Intimacy joins the Self Care Revolution January 22, 2015
- What’s the Purpose? ~ Angela Yan January 3, 2015
- Donate to the Himalayan Stove Project on #Giving Tuesday December 2, 2014
- When Gratitude Gets Wet December 2, 2014
- Hunting Marianne ~ an ode to finding Shakti anywhere October 14, 2014
HEALTH and HEALING
Listen to my Self Care Revolution with Dr Robyn Benson of Santa Fe Soul
Is sex and intimacy an integral part of intimate health? Of course it is! So why is it so often excluded in mainstream health conferences and why is the topic reserved to backroom conversations (where what’s really going on) is discussed by everyone?
That’s why I celebrate Dr. Robyn Benson’s bold invitation to include the topic of sex and intimate health to Doctors and healers at the Health Clinic Santa Fe Soul in New Mexico.
Help spread the word about how the wise use of sexuality can benefit all sentient beings. Be a part of the Self Care Revolution and take care of your intimate health.
A talk with Dr. Robyn Benson after our ‘off the charts fabulous’ Shiva Shakti Workshop in Santa fe. We introduced Shamanic ceremony to heal wounds of the past to make space for more intimacy and pleasure in our relationships. And we shared sexual restoration practices to boost libido and increase sexual energy.
Everyone loved it! We’re invited back to present Quodoushka in Santa Fe next year for the first time… woo hoo.
I totally resonate with Robyn’s message about taking responsibility for our health by becoming more aware and wise.I believe intimate happiness can change the world. As our relationships heal, so does the world.
I know when you’re in a tidal wave of love, when things are flowing sweet, when Eros is all around, being grateful is like breathing. But what about after you’ve made a major mistake?Is it possible to get to gratitude when it feels like your ship is sailing in the wrong direction, when happiness fades and fine platitudes are the last things you want to hear? We’ve all had times where all we want to do is dig into a pit of sorrow, where, even if we know wallowing wont work, we do it anyway. This is when getting to gratitude really counts. But how can we feel grateful when everything seems closed, and hopeless and dark?
Here’s four big reasons why gratitude beats regret and resentment, every time.
Gratitude Feels Better
Of course we’d rather be tingling with gratitude every minute of the day, but the truth is, sometimes we choose to mope with pain, stew in our resentment or just lounge around trying not to think too much. Usually while we’re licking or barking about our wounds what we really need is attention; we want somebody to know we’re hurting. The trouble is, while it keeps us busy, it also keeps us in the pit longer. Gratitude is a way out.
Gratitude Takes Less Effort
All we have to do is More …
These are some of the common Questions people ask about Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshops.
Can I come to a Quodoushka Workshop without a partner?
Yes! You may attend Quodoushka I and II as a single or attend with a partner.
For Quodoushka Three, you must attend with a partner.
Is it better to come with a partner? More …
Jade Egg for Sexual Restoration
Why Sexual Restoration is Necessary?
It’s no longer a secret that feeling sexy is an important aspect to vibrant health. Women everywhere are starting to realize that we cannot always wait for the right moment or the perfect partner to get our sexy back.
The good news is that you don’t have to wait; you already have everything you need to begin an integrated body – mind – spirit practice to feel that warm hum of sexy energy flowing through your body. It is a new time for women; a time for open communication, sharing and renewed awareness about how we can stay happier, healthier and younger.
Yin Way Practices
I have been presenting and developing Yin Way practices over the last twenty years because I have found feminine ways, ways that are both gentle and invigorating that work remarkably well for women’s health.
What makes the Yin Way Practices so unique is not that the methods are so different from yoga, or other forms of Qigong, in fact, they are all easy to do. I have created a system to to blend the tranquil Yin meditative exercises together with vigorous, active Yang exercises in a balanced way. Most importantly, through the Breast, Vaginal and Ovarian exercises, we include sexual restoration exercises in our regular practice. Plus, of this is done in a way that nourishes women in an empowering, feminine way.
The Yin Way Practices includes methods my partner and I have gathered from various teachers, especially female teachers who embody the essence of feminine power, wisdom and grace.
Here is the method behind our body – mind – spirit integrated approach for women to get their sexy back.
Yin Yang Principles
“Feminine strength does not push or control, rather its power comes from compassionate wisdom and offers a perfect compliment to its Yang, masculine counterpart. Without Yin, or water, the Yang, or Fire, burns too hot and eventually extinguishes itself. Yes ladies, there is strength and beauty in being women. We are needed, and in turn, need a healthy connection to that which is our opposite to be truly balanced. No woman is an island, rather she is the water surrounding the island that permeates and nourishes all life. Let us endeavor to keep our energy clean and vital, together.”
Sarina Stone www.Taolady.com
What Does the Jade Egg Do?
The Jade Egg is a marvelous way to strengthen and control More …
While traveling in New Mexico, Shyena gave me a treat on my birthday to stay at Ten Thousand Waves Japanese Health Spa in Sante Fe. The night before, I got terribly sick with that awful bug and could barely get out of bed. I really wanted to enjoy my gift, so when my friend Louise Kockler recommended I get a Myer’s cocktail, I did the unimaginable (to me) and agreed to get this shot.
Truly, it was a blessing in disguise, not only did I enjoy the spa a day later, I met an extraordinary women – Dr. Robyn Benson. I had such an remarkable recovery I just had to write her:
Dr. Robyn Benson, I am writing to thank you for the treatment the other day. The whole experience of seeing you was remarkably friendly and warm. Just what a healing center should be! I’ve been to many such places, and I have to say, your hearts and kindness comes soaring through. As a ‘stranger’ coming from out of town, and then not feeling very well at all, I couldn’t really express my gratitude to you. Thank you for introducing me to something new and a bit ‘scary’ – the Myers Cocktail- with great care and finesse. I feel fantastic. I have to say I have never recovered so quickly, and now, days later I feel remarkably well. — Amara Charles
Needless to say, I loved Robyn’s brilliant and loving approach to healing.
But that’s not all.
I found out she’s a world renown Holistic Healing Expert.
And, she invited me to be part of her Self Care Revolution in July!
Because I believe feeling healthy is quite sexy, I’ve invited Margurite, who’s as passionate about health and well being as I am. to contribute to my site. I’ve been using (and absolutely loving!) Young Living Essential Oils for over twenty years. This new series will keep you up-to-date on some of the best essential oils on the planet. – Amara
Lemon Essential Oil—Your Secret Weapon to Sensuous Health
by Margurite Mullins
Most likely sitting in your kitchen right now are answers to a multitude of health problems ranging from poor memory and immune disorders to fibroids and tumors. Some amazing answers come from lemons! You may use them to refresh drinks or add flavor to cooking, but you may not know this common fruit has little-known health properties as well. More …
I believe happiness in our intimate relations can change the world. Our feminine and masculine essence is absolutely precious; and when we can give this freely, without any expectation of return, it is the most valuable substance on earth.
How we give our most sacred, most special essence is a matter of practicing the skill of what the Buddhists call ‘Exchanging Your Self for Others’.
We tend to think our most intimate expressions happen under the sheets wrapped in the arms of a lover. Yet, the secret to having more of these moments, if this is what you want, is by practicing Benevolent Compassion.
Exchanging Your Self for Others is an active practice of Benevolent Compassion. It’s a matter of learning to observe by watching, asking questions to find out, noticing reactions, and constantly listening for clues about what someone likes. You will begin to see that the most revealing clues about what we really like come out unconsciously. More …
The IDEA of increasing your prowess (sexiness in motion) is a matter of learning to become an instinctively healthy, sexy human animal. When your body, mind and heart are all singing the same song, intuitive action becomes the rule of your life.
NEW DATE: MARCH 8. NE Phoenix (Address Provided upon Registration)
PHOENIX TANTRA MEET UP MARCH 7TH
the “Secret Formula”
is a luck magnet. I’m telling you,
when you have clear goals, believe
you can and should do it, are taking
constant action (and of course
noticing your results and making
micro-adjustments, while committing
to constant improvement) and
living every day with an “attitude
of gratitude” you attract allies like
crazy. And most strangely, “luck”
multiplies. Opportunities come to
you with the predictability of American
Express and Visa offers arriving in
the mail if you raise your credit score.
When you don’t need money, people
offer you credit. When you don’t
have a job, you can’t get a job, but
as soon as you have one other
people offer employment. When
you don’t have a relationship you
can’t get one, but as soon as you
have one people mysteriously start
1 Day Workshop with Amara Charles & Steven Barnes
But really, this will not be a mere discussion of concepts to stir your passion… each IDEA is a body experience designed to help you experience the instinctive design of your erotic intelligence.The idea of course is to increase your body intelligence so you can draw on your intuition any time you need it. More …
Inspired by a remarkable letter written from a son to his father after attending a Quodoushka Sexuality Workshop. He attended by himself (with the blessing of his wife, who also attended a Q).
By Amara Charles
Lets say a father makes his son suffer. But the father doesn’t know he’s causing his son to suffer. He does not see how, nor understand why his son is suffering. So the father carries on doing the best he can.
The reality is that the father copes with his pain, but he has not looked into its root causes. He deals with his pain the way he learned to from his dad, and he passes the ball on to his son who then passes it onto his wife and family. Perhaps from a young age the grandfather mistreated the father. Even though the son wants things to change, the habits are deep.
Until somebody gets the game for what it is, the only thing that gets passed (usually veiled in numbness or angry outbursts) is resentment, And thus, the wheel of suffering spins from generation to generation.
Whenever you recognize that the root cause of suffering is always some form of withholding love, you pick up a light arrow of awareness. This moment of awareness, this pause of habit is priceless; it stops the cycle of suffering.
It’s quite liberating to realize, whoa, this is not ‘me’. I’ve just been acting the way I was taught, behaving the way I grew up. The instant you realize this, you sort of catch the habit by the tail. Then there is a gap, a pause, a chance to do something, anything different. What I enjoy about Taj’s letter is the way he seeks to untangle the original kink, and the way he knows the stuff with his Dad is somehow the key to liberating more passion and love with his wife.
So instead of creating a kinked loop of dark resentment covered in bland indifference, a new trajectory of compassion has begun. This is the key to liberating sexual, intimate love and compassion.
Using our defensive childhood coping strategies of withholding love never works. Withholding love only breeds the resentment that perpetuates suffering.
However, I do respect the tenacity of those early twisted- love -patterns we take from and pass on to our loved ones and I know they need constant attention. The glimpses of awareness we gain can be fragile and fleeting.
I especially know how those love kinks may return when we go home to visit families…
So to comb through the tangles and return to the natural flow of love, do this healing practice from Thich Nhat Hanh:
Breathing in, I see myself as a five-year-old child.
Breathing out, I smile to the five-year-old child still alive and present in me.
Breathing in, I see the five-year-old child in me as being fragile, vulnerable, wounded.
Breathing out, I embrace the five-year-old child in me with all my understanding and love.
May the generosity of your spirit lead you to break the chains of the past and may you have the energy to walk boldly on a path with heart.
In Beauty, Amara Charles
Next Quodoushka 1 workshop in January 30-Feb 2 2014. Phoenix
Amara Charles is the Author of Best Selling book.
Maybe someday, it will be fine to show bare breasts and enjoy in their beauty without being shamed. What it is about breasts that makes us feel so uncomfortable?
Female Breasts that is. Last I checked, every female has them. But we can only do certain things with them, one of them being we must hide them in public. We are allowed to tease, with partial peeks around the edges, but not the tips, or the nipples. Really, nipples must be tucked away from view.
If you’ve ever gone to a place where every one is naked, in about ten minutes, everyone stops looking. So the argument that baring breasts causes too much arousal, (similar to what some Muslims fear) is just not true. In reality, it’s the hiding, the partially revealing that’s far more arousing than letting them just hang out. I noticed our strange customs around breasts when I created this video, Beautiful Breasts, which is banned from You Tube, I guess from showing those nipples. I made it to celebrate the beauty of our breasts. But most importantly I wanted to give women a way to connect lovingly with their own breasts.
Certain breasts are okay, I’ve seen many films showing bare breasted indigenous women. Guess that’s okay, because? But showing western women enjoying their breasts, or for the purpose of healing? Still way too much for you tube. Perhaps demystifying breasts may influence too many women away from surgeries to augment them. Given the fact that so many women are suffering from breast cancer, and almost everyone I know knows several women who have had serious issues with their breasts, isn’t it time to flood our media with empowering images? Could it be that mainstream’s phobia about showing breasts, combined with our obsessive fascination may be contributing to the shame women feel about their bodies?
Yin Way Breast Exercise Feedback and Questions like these are rolling in.
Hello Lovely Goddesses!
I am loving the Yin Breast Restoration Restoration exercises. Thank you for bringing this to us. I have questions. Can you direct me to a site or tell me on a physiological level, why these are beneficial. Also, what about women with cancer history (not necessarily active stage), fibroids, suspicious spots or lumps, etc? And what about active stage?
Thank you for your kind words and inquiry.
This is such a huge topic! There is a lot of great clinical research on the benefits of Qi Gong-(you could say this Yin Way Exercise is Qi Gong for the breasts).
I am gathering resources for you and will be sending more information soon. Promise.
Hooray! I have been doing the exercises every night before bed for 3 weeks now. I wish I’d taken a ‘before’ photo because I believe my breast have changed…developing some fullness on top as opposed to the flatness they’ve had. And to think, I’d been counting the days until I could afford a breast life procedure. I Love You!!!
From: Amara Charles [mailto:email@example.com]
Sent: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 11:00 AM
To: Susan Oake; Rosa Casas
Subject: Re: Yin Way Exercises
You Tube may have removed my video, but there’s no stopping beauty. You can still see the intro Beautiful Breasts Video Poem on Vimeo
Amara Charles presents a video poem inspiring women to love their beautiful breasts. An inspirational video, this is the introduction to her new release of the Yin Way Breast Exercises for sexual restoration. By practicing this self love, self massage exercise, women can love them selves and love their breasts. The full exercise is available @ www.amaracharles.com
Quodoushka January Phoenix
*posted with permission, of course
Dear Amara, Mukee, John and Emily,
We are back in the (very) frigid Northland again. It’s 18 degrees F right now and is predicted to be in the below zero range over the weekend.
But we are warm within. We have taken your hot juiciness with us.
You are all so very talented! You are all funny. You are all sexy. You are all brilliant.
Hot, hot, hot and so very kind and wise – Each of you.
Amara – whose perfect understanding of group dynamics and perfectly paced delivery never failed –even when coughing. Your complete acceptance of the Sexual Being before you was a Welcome Home to everyone in the room. Mukee your lusty, sexy humor and goodwill to all and your fabulous freedom and body language took the material home. John (“Ryan Seacrest”) with your brilliant speaking style and connected embodiment of the material (can’t ever stop thinking about that Forest Fire Orgasm demo!) you taught us a depth of knowing that will stay with us for years. Can’t believe you aren’t a veteran of the course! And lovely, dear, Super-Hot Emily who made us all feel OK about being sexy
because you were always the sexiest. We will remember you moving with pure pleasure on the floor, (trying to) grab John’s leg, and of course your fantastically sexy outfits. What a great role model for all of us.
Somehow, you wonderful, sexy people managed to transform us. You carried us from our tight, frightened inner space to expansive places of fluidity, self-acceptance and grace. Thank you!
Thank you for moving us.
When we arrived in Phoenix More …
I often return from visiting my Mom swirling from the differences in our lives. This time, brimming with benevolent compassion and feeling rather sexy after teaching several Quodoushkas, I was perfectly poised to find the bridges of heart-to-heart connection between us.
Within the first 5 minutes, as I’m unpacking my bags in Florida, I open a box of of Jade Eggs.
What are those? she asks.
Out of respect, I could have easily made up something. But there was something about the way she asked – it was like she already knew what they were. Sure enough, before I could even say, she blurts out;
They go inside your ‘pupick’ (our polite family word for vagina.)
Yep, that’s exactly what they are Mom. They go inside and they feel really nice.
I have this thing with my mother. I don’t go into details unless she asks. This time she does, so I venture a little further;
I show women how to become stronger and juicier.
Sensing this is a bit too much information, I shift to,
How do you know what they are?
As if she’d been using them for 70 years she delightfully boasts of her new-found sexual education,
They talk all about Ben Wah balls in Fifty Shades of Grey. I figured that’s what they were.
My sister chimes in and says, You should write an article on Fifty Shades.
Next, my sister-in-law can’t wait to tell me she has read all three books, which she says, Are really cheesy, but I can’t put them down.
Ok, I confess, I am one of several people on the planet who has not read Fifty Shades of Grey. Apparently, these tugs from my family, and possibly the sky-rocketing Jade Egg sales on my website are trying to tell me something. I used to consider my teachings using Jade Eggs somewhat esoteric, but who knew?
I’ve been wondering why these books are now more popular than Harry Potter.
Have you read Fifty Shades? Is it worth the read?
Quehestemehah. You Dance in My Heart In beauty, Amara Charles
p.s. Want to learn about how Jade Eggs can strengthen your muscles and increase lubrication? Come to my Woman’s Retreat called the Shakti Queen!
This is a video poem from my recently released best selling book: ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka’ This clip shows the difference between clinical western approach affects sex, and how the more nature based language of Quodoushka can uplift and inspire more magical sexual experiences.