Gotta Watch: Quodoushka Testimonials
- Are you living a Dharma Relationship? April 23, 2016
- Crazy Habits of Dharma Love April 19, 2016
- Oh My, What A Trip March 29, 2016
- Pearls and Pitfalls of Online Dating March 27, 2016
- I don’t have a partner but am yearning for one, should I do Quodoushka or Shakti Queen? March 23, 2016
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You know you are living in Dharma Relationship if you:
Can find something to smile about even in the most disastrous situations, forget about things that are simply none of your business and get on with things that are. You can get angry, sad, mad and even rage – but it blows over fast, and you keep finding that darkness inside and chopping it into little pieces. You make love as a solace, a source of sublime deliverance. You strive to know the other as best you can, yet take pleasure in never quite making it. You constantly know life is a rather brief adventure, and that it matters who you serve; your self or all humanity.
Perhaps you’ve noticed how having major secrets or lying in your intimate relationships keeps you hooked in a karmic-merry-go-round that isn’t very merry. It’s no fun getting caught in loops where nothing seems to change, old irritations insist on rearing up and you can’t help adding insult to injury. Such is the way of a Karmic Relationship.
The only way to shed the weight of karma and step on a path to creating a Dharma Relationship is start seeing transgressions for what they are. And here’s the kicker: whether you’ve made or have been the target of a transgression (as in being the cheater or being cheated on), it doesn’t matter. Either one keeps you dragging through karma going round and round.
Dharma Relationships are radically different, and the habits you start to ingrain are a lot more fun. It’s not that you suddenly escape conflict, get rid of all irritation or that you have the best sex ever right away. You do however start to play by rules that bring you into a different world.
In karmic relationships you get to More …
Tucked away in the high mountain village of Wutai Shan China we return to the ancient Tibetan Temple where we stay for our retreat.
We wake at 3:30 am to cross the dark and cold stone courtyard to get our blankets. Brrr! I can’t wait to sit with the monks and chant with them for the morning ceremony. But first we make 108 bows. You put your hands on the two mits and then whoosh! – until you are lying straight on this board. It gets a little easier every day, and it sure warms you up for sitting and chanting. I remind my self we’re only doing this for a few weeks. They do it every day. More …
I’ve been getting even more comments from my last newsletter; tales of awful dates and stories from those who, while they first thought nothing spiritual could come of this, now bless the day internet dating was born.
This was written by a man who said I could share his online ad. I love it. It worked for him.
I am a hot zesty 44 year old awesome bundle of love looking for a yummy juicy sexy woman that can’t wait to dive into my pants and discover the fullness of life. I am a man that has the capacity to be both strong and vulnerable, passionate and intimate as well as genuine and nurturing. I enjoy creating art, dancing tango, traveling the world, and reading poetry as much as I enjoy developing a successful business, curling up by a fire, and holding hands while watching a movie.
I give myself permission to cry, to not have the answers and to make mistakes. I am a man that celebrates both his mortal and divine masculine and I am in search of my twin soul-flame consort that embodies the beautiful mystery of the awakened divine feminine with an open heart, elegance and grace.
In the name of love I invite you to trust spirit, walk the razors edge and jump off cliffs into the unknown with me.
What do you think ladies? Guys?
If you’ve ever been curious about how to put your self out into cyberland in a good way, or you have some experience in the matter, we’d like to learn more. After reading these examples, I would love to know what you think makes a great ad or what turns you off? Would you respond to any of these, and if so, why? More …
Hello and Thanks for your great question!
I can describe the differences and give you a few links to read more. Once you’ve had a chance to look this over, I am happy to talk with you as well.
One of the big differences of course is Quodoushka is for men and women, and Shakti Queen presents empowerment teachings for women. Shakti Queen is where I present things I have learned from other traditions, especially my teacher Master Angela Yan. She is not only a Qigong Master, she has taken us for several years to work with her Tibetan Buddhist teachers in China. Whereas the Quodoushka teachings are exclusively shamanic teachings from the Sweet Medicine Sundance path, of which I’ve been a teacher and apprentice for over 25 years, the Shakti teachings are a blend of things I’ve learned form other traditions as well.
The truth is, many people who work with me tend to eventually do both Quodoushka and Shakti because they are so different. The underlying message that our beauty and power, and our life path is greatly strengthened by having a wise and clear understanding of our sexual nature is the same. Quodoushka places you directly in the arena of facing deep sexual issues and has an amazing way of helping to heal and transform through ceremony, and experiential exercises.
The focus of Shakti is quite different. While there is also shamanic ceremony, and much healing and transformation, and there are certainly exercises, the focus is less on sexuality and more about creating a deep rooted love of the body, and acceptance of your feminine beauty. This includes letting go of shame, and it means learning why and how feminine sexuality is vital to a women’s spiritual growth. I believe is felt, and not just heard, so we do things that plant the deep seed of love in your body so that it’s yours for always. It’s not just an idea, it’s a moving experience of truth that changes the way you feel deep down inside. That’s what really transforms and heals us, and I believe that’s why Shakti Queen has been so successful. It touches you in an unforgettable way.
Quodoushka is equally transformational! It produces epic changes in your approach to intimacy, sex and relationships. People come over and over again to Quodoushka not only to experience their own growth, and their own amazing new openings for love, they come to see it, and share this experience with others. It’s quite interesting, Quodoushka is both a deeply personal adventure, and at the same time, you cannot help be moved with compassion for other people’s journey’s too.
I could go on about the differences, but let me stop here and let you have a read to see what you think. Then, please feel free to get back with me if you have any questions. I think both would prepare you for entering a new relationship on a higher level, and both would help you clear your way for more happiness in your intimate life.
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The cool thing about Alpha Women is they have this fierce desire to learn how to do things. And if her independence doesn’t knock you over as she’s walking out the door, just know that she’s probably battling voices that are still saying ‘it doesn’t matter, It’s too late and I don’t have what it takes’. Plus, there are still times when curling up in a little ball and having somebody take care of you sounds really good.
Lately, I’ve seen many fine Alpha Women get into such a funk. They know this is ok from time to time and perhaps even necessary. That it’s life’s way of saying something is off.
If you’ve ever reached a high, and then started slipping, perhaps you know how it goes; you start looking ‘out there’ too much, over focusing on others, and somehow you lose touch with your real needs. Any of these can take you too far away; you feel separate and things collapse.
To get back to the truth, that you’re an important, and yes, vital cell in the grand design of things, you’ve got to turn the mirror around. Like the camera on your phone, you’ve got to peer inside more accurately.
(This is why I do ceremony, and why I am on my way to China to stay in the temple with my teachers.)
Back to our Alpha Women
Have you ever reached a point where you just can’t find that thrill, that zing of what used to motivate you? Where you feel secretly bored doing what you’re certain you love?
If so, congratulations. Puffs of boredom like this come by to let us know something is nearing an end and that something new is around the corner. It means you’ve come to an edge, or a limit of what you have known and now you are ready for more. Somehow, it’s time to change course and it’s time to hunt for new edges.
I have certainly had times when I felt like going to sleep for a hundred years or wanted to wait for some prince charming to wake me from my slumber.
I suspect that when life hits hard or something collapses, the trick is to rest, reflect and listen, but don’t go too far down the rabbit hole. An intelligent woman, an Alpha Women neither ignores the mirror nor indulges by looking too long.
You are hunting for what will work better than what you’ve been doing. If Eventually, you will realize you were born with this fearless curiosity, this ability to reflect and refine, to consider more carefully what truly matters.
An average woman, or let’s say, a sleeping beauty, stays drowsy too long; she’s lulled by insignificant things and she spreads her emotions over disappointing events like frosting on cake. She keeps her dreams minor by complaining. Describing. Pointing and Avoiding. She’ll do anything rather than make a decisive move. Her battle is with the shadow hiding in her cupboards of comfort. We’ve all had such ‘waiting-until-the-right-time’ friends J
When a woman is in alpha mode she develops a nose for her edges; she learns to feel when boredom starts creeping in, even on the fringes of what she most loves. She learns to hear the inner whispers of ‘I’m not really that interested in this anymore’ as a nudge to complete certain things and to get ready for what’s next.
An Alpha woman does not oversleep on the laurels of what she’s already done. She’s more interested in what she has never known. Whereas a sleeping beauty can afford to wallow in pity (and even secretly likes company in this), an Alpha Woman is drawn to those whose thoughts of beauty generate many empowering possibilities. The interesting part is to select the best for the greatest good.
The thing is, you can’t rush such wisdom, and we do need our beauty rest.
So if you’re in a place where you must dive inward (or you get a sudden jolt) don’t label it depression and don’t call it a flaw. Try to look more deeply into the mirror. Beware of sophisticated blame. Own what’s murky, or lazy about you and do something about it.
I like what Swift Deer used to say when you feel depression tugging on your skirt: Get Busy, Stay Busy and Do something creative for others
A Fun interview In Prague with Sex Cafe
I’d love to come back to Prague (and I think I will) ! We shall see.
Thank You so much ladies for opening your hearts and sharing in such an honest and passionate way!
Our Next Texas Shakti Queen Women’s Empowerment Retreat is August 11-14 2016
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I know what you might think. Yes, while it’s true being as hard as rock can lead to hours of hot, driven, pounding love, there is a softer world filled with off-the-chart sensations – for both men and woman. The truth is, soft is where the sensation is. When you’re soft, relaxed and open you can feel more. And the softer the power, the bigger the bliss.
Of course, there are physiological (and highly pleasurable) reasons for staying hard. Most, but by no means all! ejaculations happen at the apex of a sturdy rod. While this often feels very very good, until you develop the ability to relax and open during epic surges of energy, both you and your partner will lose a great deal of what could be harnessed to feel more healthy, happy and alive. More …
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Lavender is one of the loveliest fragrances in the world. For many of us, it is a highly nostalgic fragrance…bringing back childhood memories of lazy summer days in the forest or helping parents with the flowers and garden.
However, lavender is more than just a beautiful plant with a wonderful fragrance. It also is a powerful herb with many physical and emotional health benefits. Lavender has been used for many things, including:
- Skin issues
One of the key reasons that lavender is effective for health purposes is that its aroma is rich in molecules known as esters. These molecules are antispasmodic, tonic and pacifying. Other molecules in lavender provide it with anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory properties.
Below are some of the most common uses of lavender:
Lavender oil is very useful in keeping the respiratory system in good health, and can help to reduce colds, flu and cough. It is particularly good when the respiratory tract is clogged with mucous.
Lavender oil has cicatrizant properties that are helpful for wounds, and also for burns and cuts. Some users report lavender can help with dermatitis and eczema.
Lavender is known as one of the best ingredients to relieve sore muscles and joints. Rubbing lavender oil into these areas can provide you with quick pain relief, and the aroma also is most relazing.
Ways to enjoy lavender oil include:
· In the bath: This is one of the best ways to use lavender for aching muscles and joints, as well as stress relief. You can simple add about 10 drops of lavender oil in a hot bath and agitate the water. Lie back in the water and feel the pain and stress melt away.
· In the shower: After you get your hair wet, just add three drops of lavender oil to one cap of water and pour it on your head. Stand under the shower and allow the oil to run off. Put your hands over your face and inhale the fragrant vapors.
· Lavender massage: This is one of the best ways to apply oils to your body when you have tight muscles or sore joints. When you rub the oil into the skin, it usually is absorbed quickly and reduces pain within minutes. Massage White Flower Analgesic Balm into the sore muscle or joint can be especially effective in melting away pain.
· Lavender foot bath: This is a wonderful way to ease tired feet. All you do is add six drops of lavender oil to hot water in a big bowl and soak the feet for about 10 minutes.
As mentioned above, a good product to enjoy the benefits of lavender is White Flower Analgesic Oil, which is commonly used in China as a gentle and natural alternative for pain relief. Also, this balm helps to relax the mind and promote a good night’s rest when used at the end of the day.
This balm works wonderfully as a foot soak to ease the pain of tired feet, and the soothing aroma helps to relieve your stress at the end of a long day.
Another option to relieve pain with lavender oil is Camphor Oil.This oil also is highly effective to naturally relieve pain in sore muscles and joints. In addition to lavender oil, camphor oil is also is a highly effective analgesic for sore joints and muscles. Camphor is extracted from several types of trees. When it is rubbed into the sore part of the body, it helps to increase circulation to that area, which can quickly relieve pain.
Whichever product you choose, the lavender oil combined with other natural products is highly effective in relieving pain and providing stress relief.
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Out there somewhere
there is a love who will never dream
of saying you’re too much…
Who speaks, like you,
in poetry and candle wax and stardust…
Who runs outside on stormy nights to howl at the moon…
Who collects bones, skulls, feathers and tattoos
and sings incantations and communes with ancestors…
And that lover,
when you find him or her,
will see you and know you,
just as you are and just as you should be…
And they will say
Yes. Yes, you!
I will go there with you…
anywhere you want
into any light filled crack
or dark lurking shadow you have never shown
By our guest poet Kalil
I have been waiting for this!
This series is dedicated to erotically intelligent women and men who are increasing their magnetic presence to attract higher levels of engagement.
Have you ever considered writing an online ad?
It can be a fascinating way to increase your magnetic presence to seek, find and deepen your beloved relationships. I know quite a few switched on seekers who have found some rather amazing people online and I’ve seen what works and what doesn’t. While online rules of engagement may change the way we meet, the laws of attraction remain. The question is, how can we refine our approach to seeking and finding a beloved, online or otherwise and turn it into a spiritual adventure? More …
I was told that in order to be a real woman
I had to be so many impossible
and sometimes contradictory things…
Even the brilliant (so-called)
abandoned my womanhood
in a barrage of criteria
about what it means to be a true woman,
and demands of men about how to be with us,
with aware, yet dissatisfied women…
And all the while
all I really wanted
was to exhale…
I was waiting to exhale…
I was told to pray for him to come,
Create my reality with him in it…
This paragon of ultimate manhood
that is expected to be more divine than God
and surpass perfection itself,
to fulfill impossibly long lists
of feminine wishes and demands
so we could know we had “made it”,
know we were no longer usurped
And all the while
I knew I didn’t have to search for him,
I knew he would find me,
and I would know myself in him
lying on his chest,
surrendered in his arms,
I would finally
Written by a friend of mine, Kalpi