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Just started reading your Quodoushka book
Subject: Re: just started reading your Quodoushka book
On Jan 9, 2013, at 10:07 PM, Jim Slavsky wrote:
Amara,
I just started the read, and I am already thankful. I too was pretty much left in limbo regarding sexual relations when I was growing up. I got the Catholic doctrine on the matter: don’t do it…you’ll get someone pregnant…it’s a sin to even think about it…oh, and it is also a sin to explore your own body through masturbation. No one was there to guide me through the emotional or physical reactions as I experimented on my own and occasionally with a partner. Emotional and physical sexual development for me was done in the dark with the twisted notion that your sex partner had to be someone you intended to marry. Some sort of mentoring process would have been very beneficial. Actually, I am sure it would still be beneficial since I feel as though I have just barely scratched the surface of my sexual potential. I guess that is why I searched and found Quodoushka.
The first chapter of your book also made me keenly aware of the source of the feelings I have started having of being an insufficient parent for my young teenage children. I would really like to give my kids some guidance other than the rhetoric and limbo I was given at that age, but I haven’t known how to even begin. At the same time I am also realizing from your text that I have already started my children on a solid path through my introducing them to nature and showing them the value of being observant and a good steward.
I am looking forward to learning much more about my sexual and parental potentials.
Thank you,
–jim
Hi Jim,
Thank you very much for sharing this with me.
What you say is so touching, and well written and I think a lot of people would relate to what you are saying.
I meet so may people who like you who not only survive a poor introduction to their sexuality,
they manage to do much better with their own children.
Bravo on you! Our children need parents who accept their sexuality as natural and good. It all begins with us.
In beauty
Amara
What Would An Ideal Introduction to Sexuality Look Like?
A young girl, Audora Savitak wrote an amazing Huffington Post article about the steps a it would take to make schools better. I think some of her brilliant concepts could be applied to sexual education.
She says, ” I am at a loss as to the benefits of putting a group of people of approximately the same age — but of varying aptitudes — into one room where they will all learn the same thing. The quicker students will sit bored while the teacher re-explains a concept they already know from their voracious reading, while the slower students will be confused and left out by the rapid pace at which everyone else seems to be progressing.” I couldn’t agree more and that’s only one of her brilliant ideas.
I was blown away not only by the intelligence of her ideas, More …
How to Have a Sexy Wedding
Is it DOMA or ROMA? Instead of Defending Marriage, here’s our version: a Recreation of Marriage Act.
With bells of the temples still ringing in my bones, and various cultural oddities from China and Nepal swimming through my mind, I came back to the US to hear the president announce his full support for gay marriage. Then I facilitated an unusual nuptial, a kind of alternative ‘wedding,’ which, when I told a friend he said, “I’ve never heard of such a thing.”
Let me explain. I was asked by a couple to help create a special ceremony that was both erotically intriguing in a private way, and that also had many of the traditional trimmings of wedlock (without the lock.) They wished to declare their intention to be together for the rest of their lives, have a reception, great food and a band. But that’s about as much a resemblance to a typical marriage as there was, for there were no rings, no bridesmaids, no priest, and curiously, no vows.
We never did come to a final say on what to actually call it. And this couple mused at length with what to put on the invitations, especially for family and their more conservative friends flying in from around the world.
For help, I decided to give Wiki a click to check the official definition of marriage. More …
I Dont Choose
I don’t choose what I compose. It chooses me. -Gustav Mahler
inspired by Mikey Hart
Music and Spirit
In beauty, Amara
www. amaracharles.com
“This Note is to Warn you of A diabolical plot”
This is perhaps the Best Love Letter I’ve ever read and you’ll never believe who wrote it.
My Darling Wife
This note is to warn you of a diabolical plot entered into by some of our so called friends – (ha!) calendar makers and even our own children. These and others would have you believe we’ve been married 20 years.
20 minutes maybe – but never 20 years. In the first place it is a known fact that a human cannot sustain the high level of happiness I feel for more than a few minutes – and my happiness keeps increasing.
I will confess to one puzzlement but I’m sure it is just some trick perpetrated by our friends – (Ha again!) I can’t remember ever being without you and I know I was born more than 20 mins ago.
Oh well – that isn’t important. The important thing is I don’t want to be without you for the next 20 years, or 40, or however many there are. I’ve gotten very used to being happy and I love you very much indeed.
Your Husband of 20 something or other.
Signed Ronald Reagan when he was governor of California in 1972. He wrote his note to Nancy on their 20th wedding anniversary.
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What would just a sprinkle of immortal nectar bring to your relationships? And where do you buy this stuff? What does it taste like and what does it do?
The Nectar of Immortality has the flavor of sweet peaches; the scent of rose oil and it causes your heart to swell with the urge to give. When this vapor is in your mind, you let go of worry and it pops the balloons of stress, sorrow and anger stored in your cells. Past transgressions become irrelevant, whatever keeps you from acting kindly dissolves and it gives you power to face anything. More …
Discover Your Erotic Nature – Chicago
Discover Your Erotic Nature
Experience how your natural erotic nature is your most powerful resource for expressing your full creative expression as a lover. This workshop will bring you in touch with your fundamental life force energy so you can discover how your unique erotic type helps you communicate with love, consciousness, passion and kindness.
Afternoon Spiritual Sexuality Workshop with Amara Charles
October 2nd, 2011
Chicago, Highland Park area. Noon-3pm
Amara Charles, author of ‘The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka,’ will be our guide for this provocative, experiential workshop including transformational shamanic teachings. You will not only learn fascinating things about your own erotic nature, you will discover what helps you to surrender, and express your natural gifts as a lover. Whether you have a partner, are seeking one, or are simply interested in exploring your erotic nature within yourself, you will receive practices that you can take home and use right away.
Amara is passionate about giving you clear, simple tools that work – to cultivate the kind of sexual pleasure, love and intimacy you deserve.
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The most irresistible lovers I’ve ever had were healers. By this I don’t mean we played doctor and nurse (although this is too is fun:-). More …
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Is there anything sexier? A warm, soft body waits for you. You notice a smile and a shiver when you enter the room. It’s closeness that melts through anything, dissolves distractions and grabs you near. Sex is an invitation to experience beauty. Intimacy is the knock on the door and the lounging around after. Conversation, listening, loving whatever makes your lover happy- these are the things I love about intimacy. But intimacy is also rugged: it makes you ignore distance, oceans and time. It pulls you close even when you want to pull back. Intimacy is so sexy because it makes you want to More …
Hilarious Birds and Bee’s –And Then Some
I’m joining a panel on Teen Sex Ed at the Sedona Conference in April. It should be a frisky conversation, with Reid Mihalko, Laurie Handlers, Leela Sullivan and other guests.
So, when I came across this video on the Birds and Bees, just had to watch. Julia Sweeney’s sex talk with her daughter is utterly hilarious. I love the way her daughter Mula reasons her way through the most natural questions in the world. She just cant help the insatiable curiosity of her 8 year old mind, and thankfully, her Mom stays in the saddle, holds on and does the best she can!
It’s wonderful to see Julia squirm,teetering between ‘way too much information’, and figuring out to get through her daughters questions. Watch this video to see a great way to handle the spontaneous, irrepressible need to know questions about sex. I love it because it’s not perfect, prescribed or planned-
Gotta Watch
Amara Charles’ book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka
is available on Amazon.
