Gotta Watch: Quodoushka Testimonials
- FAQ: Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshop – Amara Charles September 18, 2014
- When Everything Changes August 31, 2014
- Where there’s Heart There’s A Way July 29, 2014
- Calling Alpha Gentlemen: We Want You (r) Stories! June 15, 2014
- FEATURE ARTICLE: What Would An Alpha Male Do? June 15, 2014
These are some of the common Questions people ask about Quodoushka Spiritual Sexuality Workshops.
Can I come to a Quodoushka Workshop without a partner?
Yes! You may attend Quodoushka I and II as a single or attend with a partner.
For Quodoushka Three, you must attend with a partner.
Is it better to come with a partner?
Many people ask this question because they think, ‘oh, I can’t explore anything about my sexuality until I have a partner.’
I would say, please do not wait to have a partner to attend a Quodoushka!
It’s a common relationship mistake to think that our sexual sense of ourselves comes from outside. The truth is, our life force energy is ours, and until we feel good, whole and healthy in our own skin, and until we learn to accept ourselves we really have trouble deserving pleasure from someone else. And there is so much to explore about ourselves sexually. You may experience intimate feelings you never really articulated or even thought possible…
If you attend as a single, (even if you have a partner), you will untangle so
many beliefs about sex, and get so clear about your own feelings that you will return to your everyday life with such an attractive glow about you that people will ask you , ‘what happened?’
(we hear this all the time.)
But most important, you will not only be blessed with a temporary glow, you will learn practical intimate communication skills that will enhance your relationships for a life time.
That’s why I say ‘Do not wait to attend a Quodoushka’ . If you attend as a single now You’ll be in a much better place within your self to find, attract, or rekindle a current relationship.
What if I want to come with my partner?
Of course you can come with your partner, and if you choose, you can do all the exercises together to share an exquisite and profound healing space for your relationship. The Quodoushka experience is simply an amazing, intimate way to celebrate your union. You will learn ways to talk about and make clear sexual agreements around things most of us, often mistakenly take for granted.
We’ve even had couples who chose to come to Quodoushka to celebrate their honeymoon, and to recharge a ‘broken’ relationship.
If you think you already know what your partner likes and wants it’s more than likely not exactly so. All partners can benefit from learning more, especially about your self first. There’s so much that happens in both QI and QII that will give you practical insights about how to shift habits and patterns that keep you stuck in doing the same things over and over in your intimate life.
While we cannot guarantee Quodoushka will fix every issue in your relationship, we can say you will receive the tools to create enduring and more fulfilling sexual intimacy.
What if my partner does not want to go?
It’s often the case that one partner wants to go and one is not ready. I always say, if that’s the case, one of you should go, make clear agreements, and then share what you’ve learned with your beloved. (if you need help doing this, our staff is here to help you before and after the Q.)
Many times, when one partner goes, later, when they’ve seen the positive changes, the other partner wants to attend! Then you can have one go as a single, or you can both come to experience the Quodoushka together.
What if I am Gay, will I benefit? Are Gay people welcome?
Quodoushka is open to all sexual preferences. We honor and teach that we all have a choice about what kind of relationship we could best learn and grow from. It’s one of the most accepting and loving spaces you will find to celebrate, share and express who you truly are.
If you have questions or concerns about how you would like to participate, our staff is ready to help you before, during, and after the Q.
What About Sexual Safety?
We take great care to create a sexually safe environment, and we fully advocate and practice safe sexual practices.
Is there nudity in Quodoushka?
This is the next big question. First of all, in all Quodoushka Workshops there is never anything that you must do. There’s so many things in our sexuality that we do because other people told us to, or because other people wanted something. Sometimes we were not sure what we wanted, and sometimes we didn’t know how to no and maybe regretted that. All these sorts of things happen in our intimate life.
That’s why there’s a great focus in the Q1 is getting to YOUR own ‘Yes. This is what I want’. And, about getting clear about YOUR own ‘No. This is not what I want.”
The Q1 experience is about learning to feel, clarify and express what we want in our intimate life. And it’s a chance to practice saying it.
This is a round about way of saying that there will never be anything in a Quodoushka workshop that you need to do if you don’t want to. You will always be at choice every step of the way. So with nudity,
you may practice everything clothed, or you may choose to do the exercises without clothing. That’s entirely up to you. I will say that the vast majority of people who come to Quodoushka experience a level of safety and respect with a group they’ve never felt in their lives. So, if you’re nervous about that, please don’t worry, a lot of other people are too. The most important thing is that Quodoushka is a safe place to practice making and expressing your own sexual agreements.
I think the hidden question is, and perhaps the question people want to ask but often shy away from, is about the other people. They wonder if there will be sexual advances, or if there will be sexually explicit things going on.
Firstly, our trained staff speaks directly to every person who attends Quodoushka to determine whether they are ready to attend and there are no sexually explicit exercises in QI or QII. We do have frank discussions about sexuality, orgasms and sexual anatomy, and there are exercises that involve touch. We encourage an atmosphere where it is okay to talk about, feel and express orgasmic energy, and each person is at choice
with how they make agreements and do each exercise.
About the Exercises:
First, every exercise is demonstrated, then you practice the exercise with a partner, and then we gather to discuss what we learned.
Some exercises are solo, some are with a partner, and some we do together as a group.
Finally, most people of course want to know:
What happens in a Quodoushka?
While we do not provide a schedule for Quodoushka, this is the general flow of the 3 1/2 day workshop. (unless it is an extended Q):
Please Note: These are just the bare bones of what happens in Quodoushka. (I have intentionally left out some of the most unique, fun and special things that happen during the weekend. Why? Because some people just love to be surprised.)
Also: each Quodoushka Teacher may position topics and exercises in their own unique way. Every Quodoushka Workshop includes these essential teachings, exercises and practices.
We open with introductions and a history of where the Quodoushka teachings come from. We do a few spoken teachings on relationship choices, and we use these teachings to share and listen to everyone’s intent for being here. This is followed by a ceremony to help everyone set their own intention for the weekend.
We also create specific agreements for the group including the rules for safety and confidentiality. This ensures our rules of engagement during the weekend provides a safe container and a safe environment for each person to learn about and explore their sexuality.
We begin with morning teachings to open our senses and balance our energy.
This is followed with exercises that bring these teachings into the body, such as chakra balancing as well as other exercises which show us how to use our energy centers.
We serve a beautiful lunch each day.
This rest of the day is devoted to expanding our concept and awareness of what sexual energy is and what it isn’t. The afternoon is filled with more teachings about how we can feel, sense and use our energy centers in very specific ways to expand our awareness of self, life and others.
The evening is devoted to the demonstration and practice of a Shamanic Healing practice used to clear away blocks and pave the way for being able to feel more pleasure in the body.
We do late into the evening. (see your particular Q Schedule to see beginning, meal and ending times).
This is an amazing day of discovering new things about your sexual self.
There are interactive teachings and healing exercises to help us ground, feel and express a more empowered sense of self. Teachings during the morning provide answers to questions about why we sometimes react so childishly, or with so much negative emotion when it comes to intimacy and sex. We start the day practical tools to help us see our selves with more awareness so we can wake up and take responsibility for what we want.
The afternoon is devoted to a very special Shamanic ceremony that is designed to help you lift deeply held layers of shame and guilt about our sexuality.
The evening‘s exercise and ceremony is designed to bring out different faces of your lover’s persona, and it’s designed to help you accept and feel worthy of more pleasure in your life.
Part of the last day is devoted to learning amazing things about orgasms, levels of orgasms, and types of orgasms. There’s also ample space given to sharing and and expressing the things we’ve learned and gained.
One of the most significant things that happens in every Quodoushka is that you will have the chance to hear other people’s journey; what they’ve gained and what they’re giving away. In fact, sharing personal blocks, defeats and victories is one of the hidden treasures that happens in every Quodoushka, and it’s also where much of the healing happens, for we realize again and again, we are not alone.
Plus, sharing within the Q Matrix is profoundly uplifting, for you will not hear or experience these kinds of amazing intimate breakthroughs anywhere else in the world.
Our final closing ceremonies are designed to help us ground our gains and seal the love to take it home into all our relations.
In beauty, Amara
(c) Amara Charles 2014
If you have other questions, please email me at email@example.com
Amara Charles is the author of the Sexual Practices of Quodoushka available here, or on Amazon and Barnes and Noble
Some journeys change everything.
Words capture so little of the truth about extraordinary events, and to be honest, I hesitate to dilute how I feel from our retreat in a mountain Temple of Wutai Shan,China. Yes, I’m used to coming home stirred and happily out-of-sorts from deep ceremony, but this time, having taken a plunge into the refuge of temples, sacred chants and boundless tea, I feel like a puzzle piece still assembling unknown mysteries..
How do you capture the fragrance and unfurling plume of fine sandalwood incense, or the taste of rare puer tea that causes your heart to float in heavenly realms? How can you remember being locked into the fathomless depth of a teacher’s eyes? Perhaps we do keep memory imprints of such times, and maybe we bury moments of peace and love into the soil of our minds so we can recognize certain vibrations and water these frequencies until they bloom on their own again and again. More …
Our amazing journey continues!
Feeling fresh and and full from our visit to Hamburg and Croatia (stopping in Istambul for for a massage (we hope!).
Our D Y E N and Feminine Erotic Intelligence Workshops were stellar. The the depth, the food, the land… fantastic. Most of all it’s the people we’re so moved by… such a deep transfer of feelings, wisdom and laughter… Yes, there’s been hesitation and a reluctance to open, at first. More …
Jade Egg for Sexual Restoration
Why Sexual Restoration is Necessary?
It’s no longer a secret that feeling sexy is an important aspect to vibrant health. Women everywhere are starting to realize that we cannot always wait for the right moment or the perfect partner to get our sexy back.
The good news is that you don’t have to wait; you already have everything you need to begin an integrated body – mind – spirit practice to feel that warm hum of sexy energy flowing through your body. It is a new time for women; a time for open communication, sharing and renewed awareness about how we can stay happier, healthier and younger.
Yin Way Practices
I have been presenting and developing Yin Way practices over the last twenty years because I have found feminine ways, ways that are both gentle and invigorating that work remarkably well for women’s health.
What makes the Yin Way Practices so unique is not that the methods are so different from yoga, or other forms of Qigong, in fact, they are all easy to do. I have created a system to to blend the tranquil Yin meditative exercises together with vigorous, active Yang exercises in a balanced way. Most importantly, through the Breast, Vaginal and Ovarian exercises, we include sexual restoration exercises in our regular practice. Plus, of this is done in a way that nourishes women in an empowering, feminine way.
The Yin Way Practices includes methods my partner and I have gathered from various teachers, especially female teachers who embody the essence of feminine power, wisdom and grace.
Here is the method behind our body – mind – spirit integrated approach for women to get their sexy back.
Yin Yang Principles
“Feminine strength does not push or control, rather its power comes from compassionate wisdom and offers a perfect compliment to its Yang, masculine counterpart. Without Yin, or water, the Yang, or Fire, burns too hot and eventually extinguishes itself. Yes ladies, there is strength and beauty in being women. We are needed, and in turn, need a healthy connection to that which is our opposite to be truly balanced. No woman is an island, rather she is the water surrounding the island that permeates and nourishes all life. Let us endeavor to keep our energy clean and vital, together.”
Sarina Stone www.Taolady.com
What Does the Jade Egg Do?
The Jade Egg is a marvelous way to strengthen and control More …
Scars and Tears Claraderm Spray
by Catherine Works
The best product that I have used post birth is Young Living’s Claraderm spray. It’s a blend of, Myrrh, Frankincense, Tea Tree, Lavender, Roman Chamomile, Helichrysum in a coconut oil base. It is incredible for skin rejuvenation, especially for healing scars and tears. I used it straight on the stitches on the perineum post birth.
I used it 5-6 times per day and gently massaged it in (basically every time I went to the bathroom I sprayed it on). I went through several bottles of this in the first 2 months after birth. It’s not cheep, but its worth every penny. My scar has healed quickly, no residual pain on the scar, or the skin surrounding, and has impressed the practitioners at my checkups!
No one talks about them, but most women get them. The pressure of pushing a baby out can cause a strain in the rectal area and which causes swelling of the tissue, and even bleeding when you pass solids. They are super painful (for me it was even worse than giving birth every time you poop).
My solutions are: Sitz bath, (the hospital should give you one, or you can buy one at the pharmacy) you can add warm water and Epsom salts.
You can add a drop of essential oil to the salt before you put it in the sitz bath (any of the oils from the below blend). Its best to sit in it for 10 mins several times per day.
I found that a bit painful as I was split from top to toe and had a lot of stitches and the sitting stretched the skin a lot. More …
Spice up your life with the Power of Oregano Oil
By Marguritte Mullens
Video with Leela Sullivan
Many healthy food choices are available, but few are healthier than the spice of oregano. Fresh or dried oregano contains many immune boosting qualities, but oregano essential oil is far more concentrated. I have often used oregano essential oil to ward off illness. It’s strong, and sure does work. I have many happy clients who purchased oregano and have never once given a poor review. Even my uncle who is a skeptic of this kind of “snake medicine” loves oregano. Once you try it, you will be convinced of its abilities.
Oregano Can Kill Infections
Oregano is one of the most powerful antimicrobial essential oils. Laboratory research done in 2001 at Weber State University in Ogden, Utah, showed oregano to have a 99 percent kill rate against streptococcus pneumoniae in vitro colonies, a microorganism responsible for many kinds of lung and throat infections. Oregano is also very high in carvacrol, a potent anti-inflammatory. High in DNA repair activity, oregano provides antioxidant protection as it cleans the body of pathogens.
I mainly use oregano when I am feeling run down and on the verge of getting sick. Also, if others around me are sick, I will often go home and take a capsule with a couple drops of oregano just to be safe. Oregano also works well when applied to inflamed or possibly infected areas. I have used it on swollen tonsils and glands to help heal the infection. More …
While traveling in New Mexico, Shyena gave me a treat on my birthday to stay at Ten Thousand Waves Japanese Health Spa in Sante Fe. The night before, I got terribly sick with that awful bug and could barely get out of bed. I really wanted to enjoy my gift, so when my friend Louise Kockler recommended I get a Myer’s cocktail, I did the unimaginable (to me) and agreed to get this shot.
Truly, it was a blessing in disguise, not only did I enjoy the spa a day later, I met an extraordinary women – Dr. Robyn Benson. I had such an remarkable recovery I just had to write her:
Dr. Robyn Benson, I am writing to thank you for the treatment the other day. The whole experience of seeing you was remarkably friendly and warm. Just what a healing center should be! I’ve been to many such places, and I have to say, your hearts and kindness comes soaring through. As a ‘stranger’ coming from out of town, and then not feeling very well at all, I couldn’t really express my gratitude to you. Thank you for introducing me to something new and a bit ‘scary’ – the Myers Cocktail- with great care and finesse. I feel fantastic. I have to say I have never recovered so quickly, and now, days later I feel remarkably well. — Amara Charles
Needless to say, I loved Robyn’s brilliant and loving approach to healing.
But that’s not all.
I found out she’s a world renown Holistic Healing Expert.
And, she invited me to be part of her Self Care Revolution in July!
This presentation of The Ten Reflections of Love was given by Amara Charles as she helped facilitate an alternative wedding for friends Steve and Karen.
Rarely shared outside the Quodoushka workshop, The Ten Reflections of Love was inspired by Thunderstrikes, pioneer of the amazing Quodoushka Teachings.
The teaching is an uplifting presentation of ten different reflections, ten different ways the people we attract reflect love to us. It explains how certain friends stir (and sometimes provoke) very different qualities in us, and it shows what we might want to look for before choosing a lover…
Watch it to see the ‘wheel’ of friends you have collected in your life and how you can cherish them all for what they reflect to you.
p.s. wow, thanks to Steve and Karen for filming this!
In beauty, Amara
The Thirty Day Erotic Challenge – Online Guide to Enhance Your Erotic Pleasure and Prosperity
I am thrilled to announce the Thirty Day Erotic Challenge is now available for your at home pleasure.
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- * Plus you get the bonus S.M.A.R.T. Goals PDF to boost your ability to harness your sexual energy to manifest your dreams.
- The Original Erotic Intelligence Online Program sells for $49.95 – But I’m giving a special introductory price for the next 30 days…
- PAY NOW for Your Thirty Day Erotic Challenge E Book Program for only $19.95
- You will Receive an immediate 64 page illustrated E Book and S.M.A.R.T goal guide
- MY CHALLENGE TO YOU: Send me your start and finish date, along with comments of your experience of your Thirty Day Erotic Challenge and I’ll send you a 2oz Bottle of Sylk Natural Personal Lubricant.
What is The Thirty Day Erotic Challenge?
It’s a treasure trove of daily erotic teachings and suggestions to lift your your erotic health and happiness to a whole new level. It’s designed to inspire you for thirty days whether you have a partner or you’re looking for one.
It starts out gently, giving you guidelines on what to pay attention to during each day. It then builds gradually to include more fun and fascinating ways to bring delight and passion into your life. More …
Because I believe feeling healthy is quite sexy, I’ve invited Margurite, who’s as passionate about health and well being as I am. to contribute to my site. I’ve been using (and absolutely loving!) Young Living Essential Oils for over twenty years. This new series will keep you up-to-date on some of the best essential oils on the planet. – Amara
Lemon Essential Oil—Your Secret Weapon to Sensuous Health
by Margurite Mullins
Most likely sitting in your kitchen right now are answers to a multitude of health problems ranging from poor memory and immune disorders to fibroids and tumors. Some amazing answers come from lemons! You may use them to refresh drinks or add flavor to cooking, but you may not know this common fruit has little-known health properties as well. More …
As fascinating as the topic of the Instinctive Design of Erotic Attention* was really, it’s the bronco ride of co-creating with an alpha male that lifts my skirt these days.
My recent collaboration inspires me to reflect on the five things women tend to do when we’re with an alpha male. But first, I suppose, we should ask, What are the signs you’ve got an alpha male on your hands?
He’s Unpredictable. Check. Powerfully assertive yet yielding at the right moments. Check. He’s an unabashed, indomitable and at times he’s an unstoppable leader. Yet, as strong as he appears, a superior alpha male bows gracefully to feminine intelligence whenever she shows a face wiser than his own. Double Check.
The five things we tend to do are run, put him above us, contend, control or cultivate and then ride on the curves of his magic. Any of these options may be correct depending on the man and the time. The approaches you choose will either take you into tangled webs of disappointment or they will intensify the quality of happiness in your intimate relations with men.
Although the option of running may seem weak, if you sense an alpha male is using his seductive charms to get something you do not wish to give, running away could be an act of power. But how many of us, intrigued by an alpha male’s charm, stay longer than we know is right?
To reflect on the reasons why, consider this: cajoling you into giving something that you actually desire, but are afraid to give can be quite alluring. An alpha male must become good at hunting for the hidden needs of a woman; predators take advantage of them.
A beta male knows nothing higher than himself; but an alpha male instantly recognizes genius.
I’ve had more comments from Five Things Women do in the Presence of an Alpha Male than any article I’ve written so far. Maybe having ‘What is an Alpha man?‘ on my mind turned me into some kind of magnet for them because for the last few weeks I’ve been quite dazzled by the alpha men who keep popping up around me.
Yesterday, at my favorite coffee shop a man who always wants to know what I’m writing asked, ‘What do you think is Alpha?’… I suppose he has to show you, he sort of has to prove he’s better than other guys.’
‘Yes. Maybe it’s true.’ I said, but as I explained that it’s all in the way he proves himself, he interrupted me with his real question: ‘Am I an Alpha man?’ More …
Yesterday I spoke with a couple having intimacy issues.
They were eager to give me the list of wasn’t working.
‘The first thing’ I said ‘you must to drop the habit of beginning with
You will never feel like being intimate
by constantly bringing up what has not worked.
Constant criticism defeats desire. I suggested they spend
the week sharing as many sweet memories as they could.
When I get hooked into the habit of bringing up disappointing things, I first have to notice that I am doing this. When we are asleep to how our unkind words put out the fire of our passion we keep going down this futile tunnel.
The only juice you get from trying to correct your lover by pointing out what went wrong the last time is being ‘right’. Even if you manage to score a point with even tiny insults, you are going to feel alone. We certainly know that insulting our lover is a dead end, but sometimes that perverse habit of criticizing wins the moment, and we say unkind things. Our ego is seems to win the battle, but our hearts always suffer.
It may sound trite to say as many kind things as you can to your lover, but in the realm of intimacy, it’s particularly true. We can retrain our minds to consciously speak of times when things worked well. Make it a habit to recall excellence, beauty and tenderness. Deliberately share victories with your beloved throughout your day. It’s simple, and it works. You just have to do it often enough to put your brain in the proper state of mind to be more loving and kind to each other.
Make it a point to share several beautiful memories and see what happens in the bedroom. I hope you’re pleasantly surprised what flows naturally from your hearts.
Because Beauty is a Living State of Love.