Out there somewhere
there is a love who will never dream
of saying you’re too much…
Who speaks, like you,
in poetry and candle wax and stardust…
Who runs outside on stormy nights to howl at the moon…
Who collects bones, skulls, feathers and tattoos
and sings incantations and communes with ancestors…
And that lover,
when you find him or her,
will see you and know you,
just as you are and just as you should be…
And they will say
Yes. Yes, you!
I will go there with you…
anywhere you want
into any light filled crack
or dark lurking shadow you have never shown
By our guest poet Kalil
I have been waiting for this!
This series is dedicated to erotically intelligent women and men who are increasing their magnetic presence to attract higher levels of engagement.
Have you ever considered writing an online ad?
It can be a fascinating way to increase your magnetic presence to seek, find and deepen your beloved relationships. I know quite a few switched on seekers who have found some rather amazing people online and I’ve seen what works and what doesn’t. While online rules of engagement may change the way we meet, the laws of attraction remain. The question is, how can we refine our approach to seeking and finding a beloved, online or otherwise and turn it into a spiritual adventure?
The search for the beloved becomes a quest of the highest order if you approach the process with the attitude of an explorer doing what it takes to face your worst doubts, fears and insecurities. My advice? Throughout every stage, let your self be surprised by how much you can learn. In order to get past any resistance and to begin, you’ve got to feel your desire to meet someone simmer inside you like a keen ache in the gut of your soul. Remember this ache, for it is the motivation you’ll need to keep going despite all obstacles. So if you sometimes feel that loneliness, that yearning to love, good. It’s the right place to begin.
As you allow emptiness, boredom or even distrust to swirl and cycle through you, practice feeling its sting and then practice giving away any and all thoughts of anyone ever meeting your expectations. Why? Because your desire to find a beloved is sincere while your expectations are not. Expectations are signals to the universe (and potential partners) that you expect things to be given to you. Expectations are things you want but have not earned. Can you earn the blessing of finding an intimate lover? Yes, by sincerely sharing the blessings you already have. In other words, appreciate the friendships you have right now. More …
I was told that in order to be a real woman
I had to be so many impossible
and sometimes contradictory things…
Even the brilliant (so-called)
abandoned my womanhood
in a barrage of criteria
about what it means to be a true woman,
and demands of men about how to be with us,
with aware, yet dissatisfied women…
And all the while
all I really wanted
was to exhale…
I was waiting to exhale…
I was told to pray for him to come,
Create my reality with him in it…
This paragon of ultimate manhood
that is expected to be more divine than God
and surpass perfection itself,
to fulfill impossibly long lists
of feminine wishes and demands
so we could know we had “made it”,
know we were no longer usurped
And all the while
I knew I didn’t have to search for him,
I knew he would find me,
and I would know myself in him
lying on his chest,
surrendered in his arms,
I would finally
Written by a friend of mine, Kalpi
Oh my Goddess Helen. You are so beautiful. You body flows on the wings of your heart. I cannot wait to see you at the November Quodoushka in Kauai.
Dance for me again and again, will you?
Quodoushka 1 & 2 Kauai November 4-7 11-17
Free Quodoushka Intro Sunday November
7pm on Kauai. Please contact Jennifer Easterly <firstname.lastname@example.org>
But have you ever noticed how right behind what attracts you most comes something that does not? It’s as if beauty has a secret twin that pulls you closer to what you want, and then, once you’re enchanted, shows you the other side. Don’t think of it as beauty = good, ugly = bad; really, because what is unattractive to you helps you look past surface beauty and opens you to being nourished by deep beauty.
It’s not only that you can’t have one without the other, both are perceptions that we react to all the time. Sometimes we avoid beauty, sometimes we melt into it. Sometimes we cringe away from something ugly, sometimes we can’t take our eyes off it. Beauty and the unattractive are inseparable, and the more you see both sides as one, the less you’ll be baffled or blindsided when the other face appears. More …
May you rest. And continue your journey in peace.
Me and My Shadow Drawing by Sherry Folb
Let’s imagine someone has a growling shadow lurking within, which when poked, likes to start aggressive arguments and behavior. This person will project their shadow through quarrels and disruptive actions, and if it the shadow gets its way, he or she will find some clever way out – either by leaving or finding the perfect distraction – anything to avoid a good look within. More …
Crickette Gill of ChatterBox TV – she’s irreverent, she’s funny – and she’s a cat woman (very intelligent) We chat about Erotic Intelligence, jade eggs, what happens in Shakti Queen, vaginal restoration, jade stems, gazing at the dragon and how to give your pussy a PHD… (as if she doesn’t already have a master’s degree…)
I thought our last interview was good ~ this one’s great. Crickette is so funny and so easy to talk with! Her questions turn me on! We had such a blast in my backyard and having tea…I only wish we had camera rolling afterwards because that’s when the camera man gave his two cents, starting with something like, “well, I haven’t gotten too many complaints…”
Yes, I said laughing, still, if you’re really intelligent, you’ll keep asking me questions. (which he did). So I asked if he wanted to hear my shortest poem, The Mark of Intelligence, (which he did).
The Mark of Intelligence
is the way
you open your legs.
Don’t you think?
Amara Charles Interview with Max Van Prague – Opening Relationships
Because our needs and our desires are constantly changing, our sexual agreements must become living entities. It’s not about making contracts that confine you, It’s not about being, or expecting perfection from your partner.
Making conscious sexual agreements requires radical honesty, not only about what you want, agreements are about owning and taking responsibility for our mistakes.